Making Change

Self-Esteem

Empower Yourself With No More "Shoulds"

Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on March 21, 2024

By connecting more with what we want to do, rather than to what we “should” do, we will feel more empowered and happier. We can do this with self-awareness and self-talk.

By connecting more with what we want to do, rather than to what we “should” do, we will feel more empowered and happier. We can do this with self-awareness and self-talk.

Relationships

How to Find a Good-for-You Partner

Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on February 12, 2024

Increase your chances of romantic success by learning the qualities of a partner who is likely to bring you long-term happiness.

Increase your chances of romantic success by learning the qualities of a partner who is likely to bring you long-term happiness.

Relationships

How to Close the Gap Between You and Your Partner

Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on January 8, 2024

Learning to empathize with your partner when you don’t “get” them can help you to feel closer despite your differences.

Learning to empathize with your partner when you don’t “get” them can help you to feel closer despite your differences.

Self-Help

What You Don’t Know About Love and How It Heals

Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on December 11, 2023

Personal Perspective: We all have a need to love and be loved. By learning love's basic elements, you can learn to use love to heal.

Personal Perspective: We all have a need to love and be loved. By learning love's basic elements, you can learn to use love to heal.

Happiness

Human Doing, Being, and Becoming: How Do You Find Happiness?

Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on November 13, 2023

Find happiness through these three ways of thinking of yourself: human doing, human being, and human becoming.

Find happiness through these three ways of thinking of yourself: human doing, human being, and human becoming.

Relationships

How Couples Can End Recurring Arguments

Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on October 10, 2023

A relationship can survive conflicts so long as partners never lose sight of their love, even in the heat of a conflict. This is how to do it.

A relationship can survive conflicts so long as partners never lose sight of their love, even in the heat of a conflict. This is how to do it.

Fear

Overcome Your Fear of Rejection With This Simple Exercise

Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on September 4, 2023

Does fear of rejection sometimes seem overwhelming? If so, supportive friends or family may be an untapped source of strength that could help you live life more boldly.

Does fear of rejection sometimes seem overwhelming? If so, supportive friends or family may be an untapped source of strength that could help you live life more boldly.

Self-Help

Why You Care What Others Think, and Why It’s Not a Bad Thing

Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on August 7, 2023

If you stress over caring about what others think, then you may be relieved to learn that caring is natural, though caring too much might be a problem that needs attention.

If you stress over caring about what others think, then you may be relieved to learn that caring is natural, though caring too much might be a problem that needs attention.

Confidence

Discover the Power to Face Life With Confidence

Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on July 10, 2023

Learn to use self-affirmations—what you already value in yourself—to increase your self-confidence and resilience.

Learn to use self-affirmations—what you already value in yourself—to increase your self-confidence and resilience.

Resilience

The Secret to Feeling Good: Connection

Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on June 12, 2023

When happiness, well-being, and resilience are beyond your grasp, connection can extend your reach.

When happiness, well-being, and resilience are beyond your grasp, connection can extend your reach.

Stress

How to Avoid Blowing Up at Your Partner

Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on May 3, 2023

If stress makes you pick fights or blow up at your partner, then it's time to learn to manage it.

If stress makes you pick fights or blow up at your partner, then it's time to learn to manage it.

Education

Warning: Read This Before Offering Advice

Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on April 18, 2023

We can all sometimes use some good advice. So, offering supportive, encouraging, helpful advice that people actually follow is an art worth learning.

We can all sometimes use some good advice. So, offering supportive, encouraging, helpful advice that people actually follow is an art worth learning.

Relationships

2 Top Reasons for Being Stuck in Dysfunctional Relationships

Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on March 13, 2023

By learning when to stay and when to leave a dysfunctional or abusive relationship, you can find your way to being part of a happy couple.

By learning when to stay and when to leave a dysfunctional or abusive relationship, you can find your way to being part of a happy couple.

Happiness

The Many Forms of Happiness

Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on February 13, 2023

Increase your happiness by learning to identify, name, and pay attention to the many happiness-related emotions.

Increase your happiness by learning to identify, name, and pay attention to the many happiness-related emotions.

Relationships

Why Good Intentions Aren't Enough for a Good Relationship

Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on January 9, 2023

According to a well-known proverb, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. So too is the road to broken relationships.

According to a well-known proverb, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. So too is the road to broken relationships.

Relationships

Feel Broken Inside? It’s Time to Heal

Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on December 15, 2022

Though you may feel broken inside, you are not broken; you're hurting. And it is essential that you begin the path toward healing.

Though you may feel broken inside, you are not broken; you're hurting. And it is essential that you begin the path toward healing.

Motivation

How to Meet Your Personal Goals

Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on November 21, 2022

You can succeed in meeting personal goals when you are consistent and resilient. And you can learn to do this with compassionate self-awareness.

You can succeed in meeting personal goals when you are consistent and resilient. And you can learn to do this with compassionate self-awareness.

Career

Lost Your Job? 4 Essential Steps to Bouncing Back

Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on October 24, 2022

If you feel devastated after losing your job, it is essential to take proactive steps to bounce back.

If you feel devastated after losing your job, it is essential to take proactive steps to bounce back.

Attention

Your Life Matters, Learn to Feel It

Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on September 12, 2022

A Personal Perspective: Does your life lack a sense of meaning? Then it’s time to make some changes to bring purpose to your days.

A Personal Perspective: Does your life lack a sense of meaning? Then it’s time to make some changes to bring purpose to your days.

Friends

You’ve Broken Up: Now What?

Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on August 8, 2022

The end of your relationship can feel like the end of you. But it doesn’t have to stay that way. Take action to help yourself let go, heal, and move on.

The end of your relationship can feel like the end of you. But it doesn’t have to stay that way. Take action to help yourself let go, heal, and move on.