Dreaming for Freud

The internal conflicts

Sheila Kohler

How to Find a Common Language?

How can we reach others who have perhaps very different views from us, who use words differently, for whom the words "patriotism" and "democracy" have different connotations?

How to Hold the Attention of Others (Even Over Zoom)

They were shy not having had the opportunity to meet before in the classroom or the corridor or even the cafeteria.

How to Find the Perfect Person for the Pandemic

My husband has always declared, when I suggested a move to the country, or when I pointed out the joys of nature, that he would rather die than leave the city.

How Parents' Secrets Can Harm a Child

She says all is for the best in the most wonderful of worlds but I know she doesn't believe it, the child thinks.

What to Read During the Pandemic

I had a socially distanced tea with a friend, who said she thought that living through this pandemic in such isolation was almost like madness.

What Is the Greatest Gift Your Mother Gave You?

During these dark days, searching for comfort, I think of my mother. She comes to me in different disguises in my work as a writer. What gifts she has given me!

What Do Women Want?

Do women want to enter a man's world and live as men do, entering wars and fighting for power?

How Should We React to a Betrayal?

I ask myself now, of course, what was the better course: rage and confusion for the children or the appearance of saintly wisdom, understanding which cannot be sustained for long?

How Can We Reach People Who Seem Different From Us?

Indeed, we may be attracted to what seems exotic or foreign, to what seems different, and through that difference may ultimately find what unites us.

Is It Helpful to Label Someone?

Today we describe each other through a plethora of labels, categories, and diagnoses. Are we losing something in the process?

Why Is There So Much Hate in the World?

Politicians and writers use very similar tools in a sense. They need to get the attention of their constituency, their base, or their readers.

What Would You Tell Your Younger Self If You Could?

Can you imagine yourself at 18 or 19 walking in the door, coming to you for advice, telling you of his/her doubts, not sure of what route to take?

What Makes Someone Interesting to Others?

What makes us attracted to certain characters? Why do we follow the ups and downs of their lives with interest, turning the pages avidly, wanting to find out what happens to them?

How to Find Hope

This morning I woke feeling sorrowful, all of life's inevitable failures flooding into my mind.

How to Find the Perfect Partner

I am reading "Becoming" by Michelle Obama. I was particularly intrigued by her portrait of her marriage with Barack Obama. It was not quite as simple as it seems.

How to Find Your True Home, Your True Self

Also, it seems to me that as an immigrant , one has the advantage and the privilege of seeing a country through new eyes.

How to Cope With a Bully

It is tempting to believe that to maintain the peace—or at least our peace of mind—it's better to meet aggression with docility, or even to succumb to demands.

Are There Any Heroes or Heroines Left?

Have we changed that much since an ancient poem was recorded by an anonymous monk in Anglo Saxon?

How to Change Your Life?

We must be willing and able to seize or refuse the opportunities or pitfalls that life brings to us.

Do Our Lives Have Meaning?

What comes to my mind immediately in answer to this difficult question is love.

Do Our Actions Determine Our Lives?

We might wonder how important our actions are, and how much we can change our lives and ourselves. What impact do we have on the course of our existence?

How to Find Out Who You Are

How much does travel simply distract us for a while? When does it help us to discover ourselves and what we really want?

Can We Predict the Future?

Recently I had something strange happened to me.

How Important Is a Voice?

He spoke at first shyly thinking that this must be about a prize of some kind. After a few words the professor interrupted, turned to his colleague and said, " See what I mean?"

Does Speaking Up Change a Woman's Position in Society?

Recently I was amused to find a novel by a writer named A.J. Finn, " The Woman in the Window."

What Do We Have That Is Most Precious?

One wonders if we have lost sight of what is most precious in our lives — and what the consequences of this will be.

What Makes a Country Great?

How can we institute the necessary freedoms for people to flourish, to preserve our natural world from pollution of the air and waters, and at the same time keep the peace?

How to Be Joyful

Where do we look if we seek happiness? Where do we turn if we wish to lift up our hearts? Perhaps the great writers have some answers for us.

How to Keep Your New Year's Resolutions

Perhaps the most important ingredient in perseverance is hope. If we have no hope, it is impossible to persevere. We lose heart and give up.

How to Know If Someone Is Right for You

I think of the scene in the series "The Crown" where Elizabeth, who is about to be crowned, tells Phillip that if he is man enough he will kneel down before her.

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