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"I Don't Want to" Is Enough Reason to Say "No"

Personal Perspective: How many times have you said the words to yourself: “You’ll be happy you went”?

Personal Perspective: How many times have you said the words to yourself: “You’ll be happy you went”?

Are You a People-Pleaser? It Could Derail Your Career

People-pleasing, which especially impacts women, can create an excessive workload as well as a lack of time to rest and restore, leading to burnout.

People-pleasing, which especially impacts women, can create an excessive workload as well as a lack of time to rest and restore, leading to burnout.

The People-Pleaser Perfectionist

People-pleasers want to be adored by others, but do so at a great price. Their actions most often don't lead to love but to something else.

People-pleasers want to be adored by others, but do so at a great price. Their actions most often don't lead to love but to something else.

Is Your Workload Out of Control?

Practical tips to help you push back assertively and set boundaries with your manager.

Practical tips to help you push back assertively and set boundaries with your manager.

The Hallmarks of High-Functioning Anxiety

Do you worry that you're functioning only because of high-functioning anxiety? Learn the signs of high-functioning anxiety and what you can do about it.

Do you worry that you're functioning only because of high-functioning anxiety? Learn the signs of high-functioning anxiety and what you can do about it.

Reclaim Mother's Day: Put Yourself First Without Guilt

Mothers often prioritize others' needs above their own, leaving them depleted and resentful. Reclaim Mother's Day by setting boundaries and considering your needs and wants.

Mothers often prioritize others' needs above their own, leaving them depleted and resentful. Reclaim Mother's Day by setting boundaries and considering your needs and wants.

Protecting Your Personal Integrity at Work

Here are five ways you can support yourself to follow through on your word and commitments in your workplace.

Here are five ways you can support yourself to follow through on your word and commitments in your workplace.

Tired of Being a "Good Girl"?

The pressure to be a "good girl" can be exhausting. Learn how to challenge unrealistic expectations and reclaim your authentic self.

The pressure to be a "good girl" can be exhausting. Learn how to challenge unrealistic expectations and reclaim your authentic self.

My Problem or Yours?

By not taking on others' problems as your own, you can channel your urge to care by caring enough to give them the freedom to manage their own issues. Here are some tips to help.

By not taking on others' problems as your own, you can channel your urge to care by caring enough to give them the freedom to manage their own issues. Here are some tips to help.

The Key to Handling Over-Talkers: Speak Up Rather Than Avoid

Personal Perspective: Most of us know how it feels to be on the receiving end of someone over-talking. Here are some tactics for taking care of yourself in these situations.

Personal Perspective: Most of us know how it feels to be on the receiving end of someone over-talking. Here are some tactics for taking care of yourself in these situations.

Are You Trapped in a Stale Relationship?

Some couples don't argue but instead sweep problems under the rug and end up bored and disconnected.

Some couples don't argue but instead sweep problems under the rug and end up bored and disconnected.

Are You a Workplace People-Pleaser?

Being a workplace people-pleaser can be draining and lead to complete burnout. Use these three tips to gain healthier habits now.

Being a workplace people-pleaser can be draining and lead to complete burnout. Use these three tips to gain healthier habits now.

The Best Way to Say "No"

Saying "no" is hard, even when saying "yes" to too much has left us exhausted and resentful. There's a better way.

Saying "no" is hard, even when saying "yes" to too much has left us exhausted and resentful. There's a better way.

Why People-Pleasing and Parenting Don't Mix

People-pleasers feel pressure to keep everyone around them happy. Yet being a present parent often requires making other people in our lives unhappy—at least temporarily.

People-pleasers feel pressure to keep everyone around them happy. Yet being a present parent often requires making other people in our lives unhappy—at least temporarily.

Breaking the Cycle of People-Pleasing

By understanding and addressing our people-pleasing tendencies, we can develop healthier relationship dynamics, reduce anxiety, and improve our overall emotional well-being.

By understanding and addressing our people-pleasing tendencies, we can develop healthier relationship dynamics, reduce anxiety, and improve our overall emotional well-being.

3 Keys to Moving Beyond Caring What People Think About Us

It's only human to want to be loved and accepted. But how often do we abandon ourselves to gain this elusive acceptance? It is essential to stay connected to ourselves.

It's only human to want to be loved and accepted. But how often do we abandon ourselves to gain this elusive acceptance? It is essential to stay connected to ourselves.

A DBT Skill for Overcoming People-Pleasing Fear

If you’re a people pleaser, fear of conflict or disappointing others may keep you from saying “no” or setting boundaries. The “dime game,” a skill from DBT, can help.

If you’re a people pleaser, fear of conflict or disappointing others may keep you from saying “no” or setting boundaries. The “dime game,” a skill from DBT, can help.

Breaking Bad: People Pleasing

How chronic people-pleasing could be negatively impacting your life and what to do about it.

How chronic people-pleasing could be negatively impacting your life and what to do about it.

Six Key Reasons to Avoid Feeling Needy and Dependent

If you can’t take care of your own needs, you’ll desperately depend on another to address them—and that almost guarantees that eventually the relationship will fail.

If you can’t take care of your own needs, you’ll desperately depend on another to address them—and that almost guarantees that eventually the relationship will fail.

Wisdom: Embrace Disappointment, Defy Expectations, Succeed

Break free from people-pleasing. Adolescents often neglect their true values to please others. Discover strategies to pave your path and to live a life you're genuinely proud of.

Break free from people-pleasing. Adolescents often neglect their true values to please others. Discover strategies to pave your path and to live a life you're genuinely proud of.

How Mindfulness Helps You to Overcome People-Pleasing

Learn the ways mindfulness brings you back to who you are and helps you deal with the painful effects of people-pleasing.

Learn the ways mindfulness brings you back to who you are and helps you deal with the painful effects of people-pleasing.

Why Suppressed Emotions Can Erupt in a Crisis

Buried feelings can erupt under pressure, and instead of behaving as one generally would, long-time negative feelings may lead them to lash out instead.

Buried feelings can erupt under pressure, and instead of behaving as one generally would, long-time negative feelings may lead them to lash out instead.

Sometimes We Disappoint Others. Here's Why That's OK.

Are you a people pleaser? Do you find yourself worrying about disappointing others? Here is why it is normal and OK to disappoint others and how to cope with this reality.

Are you a people pleaser? Do you find yourself worrying about disappointing others? Here is why it is normal and OK to disappoint others and how to cope with this reality.

3 Signs of People-Pleasing in a Relationship

People-pleasers have been conditioned to prioritize others as a way of gaining validation or love, which ultimately reinforces the pattern of seeking external validation.

People-pleasers have been conditioned to prioritize others as a way of gaining validation or love, which ultimately reinforces the pattern of seeking external validation.

5 Tips for Successful Seasonal Well-Being

This season can challenge many of us, as we face the possibility of familial and financial challenges. Follow these tips for a more emotionally satisfying season.

This season can challenge many of us, as we face the possibility of familial and financial challenges. Follow these tips for a more emotionally satisfying season.