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The Loneliness of Social Media: Part One

The Loneliness of Social Media: Part One

You may have seen "the baby whisperer" photo that went viral. What it teaches us about life and loneliness in the digital age is fascinating.

How and Why Color Matters in Early Recollections

The experience of color in early recollections occurs only with a minority of persons. The meaning of color to these individuals is often life-orienting and personally enriching. The "color-minded" remind all people of the vitality and wonder of color as a human endowment.

My Experience as an Amazon Mechanical Turk (MTurk) Worker

I spent a week answering psychological surveys on MTurk. The result was a revelation and has changed how I now think about using MTurk as a researcher.

Politics Or Performance?

As we enter organizations, we each face a simple choice: Do we primarily play politics, or do we try daily to perform at our best?
Why do we often choose to play politics? Because the politics of the organization often appear to dictate who is hired, promoted and rewarded, and so playing politics seems to be our best chance to control our plight...

Am I Being Punished?

If we were punished for every mistake, it would for sure be a depressing world. None of us gets what we deserve, and that is usually a good thing.

Why Changing My Name Was & Wasn't the Worst Thing I Ever Did

By Anneli Rufus on July 21, 2015 in Stuck
I changed my name, regretted it for decades, then did something about it.

Childhood Poverty Has Detrimental Impacts on Brain Structure

Evidence continues to mount that there is a link between growing up in a low-income household, brain development, and lower academic achievement. The majority of children attending public schools in the United States come from low-income households. We have a crisis on our hands. In this blog post, I summarize the findings of a wide range of recent studies on this topic.

Why Millions of Cheating Spouses Could Soon Be Exposed

Most cheaters don’t expect to get caught. They tell lies, they keep secrets, and they cover their tracks. They control the flow of information received by their betrayed spouse, and then they run off and do what they want, when they want, with whomever they want - ignoring their marital vow of sexual fidelity and telling themselves they’re not hurting anyone.

My Mother Is Holding Me Hostage

What To Do About An Oppressive Mother

Is Your Childhood Wrecking Your Love Life?

By Peg Streep on July 21, 2015 in Tech Support
One of the legacies of childhood is how well or badly we connect to others, both in friendship as well as intimate settings. How your childhood experiences may shape your ability to love and be loved today, and how to understand and recognize patterns of insecure attachment.
Fears: Staring Straight into the Dark of What Scares You

Fears: Staring Straight into the Dark of What Scares You

People have talked sense to me. When you’re frightened everybody tells you things that make perfect sense. That’s when you realize it isn’t sense you’re looking for.

Why "Making Learning Fun" Fails

What happens if we teach children that learning is supposed to be fun?

5 Positive Lessons from Negative Comments

The media have been going wild this week covering Donald Trump's extreme and negative comments, focusing on how negative the comments were. My advice: Look at the substance of Trump's remarks--see what you can learn from them! Today I'm going to follow my own advice--not with Trump's comments, but with some negative comments I've received.
Keep Your Anxiety From Harming Your Kids

Keep Your Anxiety From Harming Your Kids

Anxiety is a feeling of nervousness, worry or unease about the future or an event. It is a normal part of life that affects us all.

Psychotherapy vs. Medications: The Verdict Is In

Both psychiatrists and psychologists devote their careers to helping people with mental health issues. As promising as neuroscience may be for helping researchers find clues to the brain, the real key to treatment lies in therapy, not drugs. Your best bet is to explore all options when you or your loved ones seek help.
Mental Illness and Families: Realigning Laws & Science

Mental Illness and Families: Realigning Laws & Science

As the mother of a 22-year old daughter diagnosed with bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder, I have to scratch my head. With an 11-year old son who tried to commit suicide and later, as a teenager, reported hearing voices urging him to kill, Arlene and Robert had to have known James was ill and needed treatment.

You Can Help Yourself Wait for Better Options

By Art Markman Ph.D. on July 21, 2015 in Ulterior Motives
Delaying gratification is hard. You have probably seen the adorable videos of kids in Walter Mischel’s classic marshmallow experiments. Adults also have a lot of trouble delaying gratification. People pay extra to get fast delivery from websites. They accept small rewards in the present rather than waiting for longer rewards in the future.

Finding a Secure Base and Rewiring Your Personality

One way to change your insecure attachment style to that of having an “earned” secure style is to find and nurture your own secure base in adulthood. Learn what to look for and how to create for yourself the experiences that naturally instill mental health and well-being. It is never too late to rewire your personality in a way that works better for you and leads to more h
How Loneliness Tricks People Into Staying Lonely

How Loneliness Tricks People Into Staying Lonely

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on July 21, 2015 in The Squeaky Wheel
A new study illuminates one of the main reasons it is so hard for lonely people to break the cycle of disconnection that traps them in their misery. Read on to learn more.

Confirmation Bias and Stigma

Confirmation bias confirms not only expectations about the percept, but also those relating to the kind of world we live in and our role in it.

Angry? Don't Lose It. Use It!

What to do when when your child's behavior sends you into your own temper tantrum.

Do You Ever Pretend You’re Somebody Else?

I decided I couldn’t live in a world without Robby. The only thing to do was to take his place. I’d have to become Robby. No, not “become Robby.” I’d be Robby.
What Did Flannery O’Connor Pray For?

What Did Flannery O’Connor Pray For?

By Gretchen Rubin on July 21, 2015 in The Happiness Project
We’ve all waited and hoped for a “happy meeting” to occur.

The Power of Evolutionary Psychology

A good scientific discipline should provide tangible new findings about some phenomena. Evolutionary psychology consistently provides new insights into what it means to be human. Here are three of the biggies – things we simply would now know without evolutionary psychology.

The Psychology of Box Set Binging

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on July 21, 2015 in In Excess
Recent media stories have reported on the alleged negative effects of box-set bingeing (‘Watching TV box-set marathons is warning sign you're lonely and depressed - and will also make you fat’). But what do we know about box-set bingeing psychologically and is it really bad for our health?

The Narcissism Test

By Craig Malkin PhD on July 21, 2015 in Romance Redux
The Narcissism Test -- What's Your Score?

Blessings

By Bernard L. De Koven on July 21, 2015 in On Having Fun
A game for elders of any age

Transgender? Or TrueGender?

Being transgender is not a choice. Transgender people don’t choose to cross over and live as the other gender. They are, and always have been, the other gender. They have never felt aligned with the gender assigned at birth according to anatomy. The choice they do make is whether to live as their true gender or live a lie. This decision can be a matter of life and death.

Beyond Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on July 21, 2015 in How To Do Life
CBT needs to move from THE Therapy to being just one tool in the tool box.

How Society Could Accommodate Multi-Partner Marriages

Legalizing same-sex marriage has started people talking more seriously about the possibility of multiple-partner marriage. For some that means a slide down a slippery slop to absolute chaos, but it does not have to be that way. This blog looks at two alternative ways to structure multiple-partner marriage and explores some of the possible social impacts.