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How to Parent Kids Who Simply Don't Get Along

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on May 25, 2015 in Insight Is 20/20
If you have kids who simply don't get along, focus on separating them and encouraging solo play. It's a lot harder to parent kids who don't get along than those who have the usual sibling spats, so don't add stress to your life by telling yourself they should get along better. Parents already deal with enough 'shoulds.'

Forgiveness and the Meaning of Memorial Day

We can forgive those who harm us, but we can't forgive those who kill us.

Parental Guilt: The Dilemma

Today both men and women worry about short-changing their children because of their both working, and their own parents often feed their guilt. The result is an epidemic of over- and under-parenting in which the needs of the children take precedence over the need of the parents, leading to out of control children who have trouble becoming responsible adutls.
What's Your Purpose?

What's Your Purpose?

I would like to enlist the help of Psychology Today readers with some research I'm doing into different types and levels of purpose.

Memorial Day, 2015

Memorial Day is the day to know and understand that prejudice and bigotry are domestic enemies of our constitution and domestic enemies of America.

On the Battlefield of the Psyche

By Pythia Peay on May 25, 2015 in America On The Couch
Decker said, "I once had an interview with the Tibetan Buddhist leader, the Dalai Lama. When I asked him for his advice on how to work with veterans he said . .first, they had to have some kind of spirituality. And secondly, they had to know that it was their job—their duty—to kill people.He also made a distinction between having to kill during war, and committing murder."

The Inconvenience of Tackling and Eliminating Defiance

Parenting can be an inconvenience that every parent has to come to terms with. The parenting relationship is not one that money alone can solve, or one that can be tackled remotely.

Reconnecting with Nature

Listening to and communing with nature affects our health, both physical and psychological. Whether is is taking a walk or listening to the sounds of other species, creating a sense of connection with the natural world is beneficial, restorative, and necessary for our well-being.

Lobotomy Cuts Both Ways (Diametrically Speaking)!

A patient cured of epilepsy by brain surgery acquired hyper-mentalistic symptoms as implied by the diametric model and predicted by the imprinted brain theory.

How Marketers Manipulate You Into Becoming Their Friend

New research reveals how shockingly easy it is to manipulate consumers to like and forgive marketers that deceive them.

A Workover: A Teacher Wants a Change

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on May 25, 2015 in How To Do Life
Advice I gave to a caller to my NPR-San Francisco radio program.
Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder

Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder

By Karyn Hall Ph.D. on May 24, 2015 in Pieces of Mind
Listen to someone who has borderline personality disorder (BPD) talk about her experience and learn the symptoms of BPD. Much of the stigma about the disorder comes from myths.
Idea Killers and Conversation Murderers

Idea Killers and Conversation Murderers

The "Yes, But" problem interferes with good communications.

Death by Selfie

By Laurie Essig Ph.D. on May 24, 2015 in Love, Inc
Death by selfie is not randomly distributed in the population. Like suicide, selficide is patterned and predictable, killing those most likely to depend on social media for their performance of self.

Preview of Talking to Crazy

Talking to Crazy: How to Deal with the Irrational and Impossible People in Your Life.
Know any of them?

A Heart-Rending Story of Courage in the Face of Loss

Bella lost her baby. What she did with her anger, grief and shame is remarkable.

5 Questions for Sarai Walker

5 Questions for Sarai Walker

Games to Cure Common Sex Problems

Too fast or too slow (or not at all!) Premature ejaculation for men and anorgasmia (no orgasm) for women are the two most common sexual problems that plague a couple’s sexual experience. Anxiety is the root cause of both problems. Solve these problems easily with two fun psychologically-oriented sex games.

Anxiety Lies

Anxiety lies. It takes advantage of us because we’re vulnerable. It has all the moves. It makes us feel weird and strange in our bodies. It makes us question whether we are going mad. It gives us sensations that we don’t understand and makes us think that the only possible reason we are feeling those things is because something has gone terribly and irreversibly haywire.

Louis CK's Offensive Genius

By Jay Richards Ph.D. on May 24, 2015 in The Violent Mind
How Louis CK made America look at itself through his hilariously comic monologue opening Saturday Night Live's 40th season finale.

More Evidence that Dogs Rose Early On

By Mark Derr on May 24, 2015 in Dog's Best Friend
New evidence that dogs emerged in multiple places before the end of the last Ice Age.

Conversation with a Mother about Sleep Training her Baby

Dear Dr., I need help! I have a lovely 11 month old baby girl and my husband and I both work full-time… I resorted to sleep coaching recently… I am afraid that we have already done irreparable damage to our sweet baby.

Five Common Myths about Miscarriage

Women and men alike have been found to have many misconceptions about miscarriages. In order to understand this experience and be able to support one's self and others going through such a loss, greater awareness of the truths about miscarriage is needed.

A Workover: I've Lost My Motivation to Work

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on May 24, 2015 in How To Do Life
Advice I gave to a caller to my NPR-San Francisco radio program.

Single Mothers and Their Health, Around the World

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 23, 2015 in Living Single
A much-publicized study claimed that single mothers are at risk for poor health. Here's a less credulous analysis, starting with the fact that in many countries, there is no difference whatsoever between the health of the single and married mothers, and continuing with the actual factors that make a difference.

Heartbreak

In virtue of our human finitude, heartbreak is built into our caring engagement in the world.

Self-Esteem and Your Inner Biker

The news pumps up the biker “shootout” in Waco. The psychology of abandon cuts through the hype and examines how biker gangs mirror the struggle for self-esteem that shapes all of us—even you and me. Gun your engines.

Why Are Christian Numbers Dropping?

By David Niose on May 23, 2015 in Our Humanity, Naturally
The rise of religiously unaffiliated 'Nones' is sometimes explained as a reaction to the religious right, but there's more to it than that.

The Wacky Neuroscience of Forgetting How to Ride a Bicycle

A new experiment with a "backwards brain bicycle" illustrates how easy it is to forget everything you thought you knew about riding a bicycle. In this blog post, I'll explore the neuroscience behind learning—and forgetting—how to ride a bicycle.

What If A Junker Car Cost More Than A Porsche?

By Peter Edelstein M.D. on May 23, 2015 in Patient Power
What if you had to pay more to buy a junk car than a brand new sports car? That's a major problem with the American healthcare system, and one focus of ObamaCare (maybe the only one) on which we can all agree: tying payments to quality.