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3 Ways to Spot a Narcissist

By Vinita Mehta Ph.D., Ed.M. on October 05, 2015 in Head Games
We know narcissists are self-involved, grandiose, and exploitative. But would you know one if you met one? It may be more difficult than you think.

Preventing Regret

What people tend to regret the most near the end of their lives is that they have not been more compassionate, loving, and supportive to those they love. A presage of this kind of regret comes with the untimely death of a loved one. The common self-doubt, even in relationships that were very close and loving, is something like: “Did she really know how much I loved her?”

Does Your Child Have an Inner Compass?

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on October 05, 2015 in Singletons
The Compass Advantage gives parents, educators, and all those who work with children and teens a framework to lay the foundation for children’s developing sense of self and future functioning in the world.

The Marketing of an Antipsychotic

By Christopher Lane Ph.D. on October 05, 2015 in Side Effects
Ghostwriters, massaged data, tiny print, and children’s toys—all part of Big Pharma's arsenal of "defeat devices," outlined in Steven Brill's book, America's Most Admired Lawbreaker.
"Is Adolescence Really Necessary?"

"Is Adolescence Really Necessary?"

In their disenchantment with some early adolescent changes in their child, parents wonder if this transformation really need be? The answer is: Yes, so the process of redefinition for growing up can get underway.

Face-to-Face Social Contact Reduces Risk of Depression

By Christopher Bergland on October 05, 2015 in The Athlete's Way
Having limited face-to-face social contact can nearly double someone's risk of depression, according to a new study.

The 5 Core Skills Of Hostage Negotiators

By Jeff Thompson, Ph.D. on October 05, 2015 in Beyond Words
Learn the five core skills taught to law enforcement hostage negotiators and apply them to your next crisis situation at work or home in order to get what you want. Sure police crisis incidents are much different but the underlying similarity is emotions dictate people's actions when they are in crisis. Therefore, these are five skills that you will be able to use too.

A 30 Year Old With a Career Dream She Hasn't Acted on

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 05, 2015 in How To Do Life
A transcript of a part of my session with a client.

The New Routine That Is Ruining More Relationships Every Day

By Gwendolyn Seidman Ph.D. on October 05, 2015 in Close Encounters
The term “phubbing” has been used to describe the act of interrupting or ignoring an in person conversation in order to attend to one’s cell phone. New research suggests that phubbing your romantic partner could be a sign, or even a cause, of discontent in your relationship.

5 Factors That Make You Feel Shame

By Shahram Heshmat Ph.D. on October 04, 2015 in Science of Choice
The healthiest way to cope is to own up to shame and allow it to dissipate with time.

5 Reasons Suffering People Don’t Want to Try Medication

By Karen L Smith MSS, LCSW on October 04, 2015 in Full Living
While it is true that we live in a world that too quickly turns to medication, it doesn't mean people with anxiety and depressive disorders should go without. This may be our one and only life; it is worth removing barriers to our contentment.

Ten WHYS? (Agonizing, Infuriating, Shameful), and One WHEN?!

By Saul Levine M.D. on October 04, 2015 in Our Emotional Footprint
The United States is an outlier among Western nations in their healthcare, preschool education, and other social programs, but the most glaring, humiliating way we stand out is in terms of the sheer numbers of privately owned weapons we harbor, and the extraordinary numbers of shooting victims in homes and public places, especially in schools.

God, the Future, and Our Brain

By Joseph A Shrand M.D. on October 04, 2015 in The I-M Approach
As we evolved, humans developed an ability to anticipate the consequences of our actions. This critical part of our survival brought with it an unexpected consequence: when we think about the future, we may think about our mortality. This fear may have contributed to our conception of a powerful entity to protect us after our bodies no longer can.

Here is a Powerful Acronym to Help Your Child Manage Stress!

Kids do better in life when they learn how to calm down and solve problems! Borrowing from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) the word "ACCEPTS" provides prompts for valuable coping skills for children, teens, and adults to handle stress. To help your child or teen better deal with stress, take a look at the power of the 7 skills embodied in "ACCEPTS"

An Open Letter to the President from a Forensic Psychologist

By Stephen A Diamond Ph.D. on October 04, 2015 in Evil Deeds
Dear Mr. President....As a forensic psychologist and an American, I empathize with your profound frustration, pain, sadness, disgust and anger regarding the most recent mass shooting on the campus of Umpqua Community College in Roseburg, Oregon this week.

Not Going with the Flow

By Russ Federman Ph.D., A.B.P.P. on October 04, 2015 in Bipolar You
Discussion of the challenges inherent in having to acquire self-observing capacities for the late adolescent/young adult with bipolar disorder..

The Psychology of Guns

By Joe Pierre M.D. on October 04, 2015 in Psych Unseen
If meaningful gun reform is to ever occur, legislation much acknowledge the beliefs of the Americans who own guns.

Are You Spiritual or Religious? Does it Matter?

Are you spiritual or religious? Does it matter? Why?

Depression Treatment Stinks.  What Next?

Depression Treatment Stinks. What Next?

Reinventing the wheel has not produced better wheels. The treatment options for depression need to become widened and opened up - with the emphasis on improving overall health.

The Orgasm Gap: Simple Truth & Sexual Solutions

By Laurie B. Mintz Ph.D. on October 04, 2015 in Stress and Sex
In heterosexual sexual encounters, men have more orgasm than women. To close the orgasm gap, we have to hold clitoral stimulation and penetration as equal. Closing the orgasm gap isn’t going to be easy. Still, it’s well worth the effort. It’s time for Orgasm Justice for All!

Work, Love, Play: Do You Have a Healthy Inner Balance?

By Christopher Bergland on October 04, 2015 in The Athlete's Way
Do you have a healthy inner balance between work, love, and play? If not, this blog post offers some clues on how to create more inner balance inspired by theories of Erik Erikson and the insights of Doris Kearns Goodwin based on her extensive knowledge of former American presidents.

The Pain of Rejection (and How We Justify Dishing It Out)

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on October 04, 2015 in Off the Couch
Researchers have provided evidence for what you and I already know – being ostracized, or ignored or excluded by a group to which we would like to belong or have already been part of is not good for our psyches or our souls. But what about the ostracizers? Do they get off scot free? Or does something happen to them as well.

Future of Careers Part 3

Managing Your Career in the 21st Century: three critical things to do.

What Trump Can Learn About Leadership From His Daughter

Leadership is in the news these days. The primaries race for the Presidential candidacy has really put the spotlight on this issue. For anyone in a leadership role self-awareness and reflection can make a big difference in your leadership success.

An Overwhelmed Graduate Student

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 04, 2015 in How To Do Life
A transcript of a part of my session with a client. Many lessons embedded.

7 Reasons Why Laziness Is a Myth

Debunking the Myth of Laziness. 7 reasons “slackers” don’t exert effort. Laura D. Miller, LCSW

Hallucinated Happiness

By Joachim I Krueger Ph.D. on October 03, 2015 in One Among Many
If only imagination could sustain our happiness! Alas, we remain shackled to reality. Examples of continued attempts to psych ourselves into happiness – or others into unhappiness – range from the entertaining to the disturbing.
We Want to Accept Our Feelings, But How Do We Do It?

We Want to Accept Our Feelings, But How Do We Do It?

Focusing was developed through research into psychotherapy effectiveness. Eugene Gendlin found that those clients who were attending to their bodily felt experience in a caring, gentle way were making the most progress in psychotherapy. This article describes Focusing as a path of befriending our experience just as it is.

Resilience, Growth & Kintsukuroi

By John Sean Doyle on October 03, 2015 in Luminous Things
Standing and staring in the face of broken promises and broken dreams, eye-to-bloodshot-eye with our most assiduous fears, sometimes we discover that we were stronger than we imagined: that we can withstand more and that there is no reason to fear.

Yes, It Really Is Possible To Avoid Arguments. Part I.

When faced with a threat to our ability to influence or control our place in an important relationship, ancient fears can be activated that awaken memories or trauma from previous experiences in which others who possessed greater authority than ourselves may have exploited our vulnerability or dependency on them in ways that were hurtful or damaging to us.