I don't believe we ever get over a significant loss, but we do learn to move through it and live with it, and perhaps even learn to use it creatively to find our life's purpose as well as harvest its lessons. Here are 6 strategies to help you recover from loss.
When we sing along with a song on the radio, sometimes we sing the wrong words. Often the mistakes are funny: “Scuse me while I kiss this guy” or “There’s a bathroom on the right.” Errors, like these funny song lyrics, provide insights about how people construct their perceptions and reconstruct their memories.
I’ll never TiVo a sporting event. The metaphysical fact that the game is finished, that the winner and the score are determined, makes watching the game unappealing to me. But why don’t I TiVo THE OFFICE?
From the doting reflection of its mother's eyes, a baby draws its earliest, wordless lessons about connection, care, and love, and about how being ignored--which every child is sooner or later--makes the good feeling disappear.
I got a letter this week from my utility company. It included a colorful graph comparing my electricity use to that of my average neighbor. Turns out I use 3 percent less energy than the norm. This got me to thinking about the strategy behind sending out the information, and whether it could, under some circumstances, backfire...
In my last post on calorie restriction and the Minnesota Starvation Experiment, I discussed how semi-starvation dieting in lockdown conditions in healthy young men led to serious physical and emotional distress in addition to food obsessions followed by rebound binging and fat gain.
Couples don't fight about what they think they fight about. It's not "the big five" they identify in surveys: money, sex, raising the kids, in-laws, or house-work. Lovers fight when they believe their partners don't care about how they feel. They fight about the pain of disconnection.
Alina Tugend writes the biweekly ShortCuts column for the New York Times business section, and she has a great new book that just hit the shelves: Better by Mistake: The Unexpected Benefits of Being Wrong.