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Join or Start a Group. And Please Answer These Six Questions!

I’ve written before about why the resolution to Join or start a group -- any kind of group -- can bring you happiness. I’ve joined or started fourteen groups since I began my happiness project, and they've added tremendously to my happiness.

Sound Like a Boss, Not a Bossypants

If you're an introvert, despite the advantages of quietly contemplating your thoughts before sharing them, you are missing opportunities to get heard if you don't speak in your best voice.

I'm Normal, Are You?

I'm not a clinical psychologist -- I only play one online. Actually I'm the kind of psychologist without a license to do therapy. Though I sometimes attempt to "diagnose" my friends and acquaintances, when I come up with characters for my fiction, I want them to be realer than real.

We See in Others What We Expect to See

We see in others what we want to see in them!

Lies, loyalty, and fear

By Gordon S Livingston M.D. on May 07, 2011 in Lifelines
It is a challenge to maintain a sense of unity among a people as diverse as our own. There are many who would divide us for political or personal gain. But nothing has the power to unite us like fear.

Boomers and Millennials Misunderstand How Long They Will Live

Don’t fall into this trap when estimating how long you and your family members are likely to live!

Going Nuts

Losing a lover can be disabling, and nothing is worse than losing a child. But losing a dictatorship must come close. Plenty of dictators—Hosni Mubarak and Muammar Qaddafi may be cases in point—have lost their grip on reality as they lost their grip on power.

Do Narcissists Hate Themselves, Deep, Deep Down?

How do narcissists really feel about themselves?

Are You an Invisible Woman?

By Pamela Madsen on May 07, 2011 in Shameless Woman
"I am not sure when I became an invisible woman" my coaching client said to me. "Maybe it was when I turned 45. It might be my age, how I dress, or my weight - I am not sure. But I feel like nobody sees me in general anymore and certainly not as a sexual being!".

Reforming Our Obsolete Testing System

Our current tests of school learning are as obsolete as the classroom model of instruction itself. Since we know what causes learning (instruction) and what should be taught in our schools (the curriculum), the assessment of school learning is hardly rocket science.

How to Complain About Your Mother

By Donna Barstow on May 07, 2011 in Ink Blots Cartoons
You love your mother, but you just wish she would live up to her potential. You know she could be better.

FAS: Is it a government plot?

"How much alcohol can a woman safely drink during pregnancy?" The answer is we don't know. But if it's your daughter, your granddaughter, or friend, or patient, the most caring answer is, "No amount is safe."

When Your Friend Is Depressed...Don't and Dos

Statistics overwhelming say you will have to help a friend who is depressed...are you up to the task?

2 Reasons Why Passive Aggressive Behavior Thrives in Relationships

Why does compliant defiance thrive in most marriages? This article explains two subversive reasons.

What Are You Really Mad At? Using Life Space Crisis Intervention Skills to Help Kids Manage Anger

The use of questions empowers your child to develop insight into his or her self-defeating behavior and to feel competent in developing solutions for the situation.

A Great Gift Idea for Loved Ones: Share Your Stories

By Elise Ballard on May 06, 2011 in Epiphany
Take the opportunity to ask your mothers about their stories or their epiphanies or maybe offer to tell your loved ones a story or two about yourself. As Andrea Buchanan, author of Note to Self and Live and Let Love, says, "If you can tell your story, you will heal yourself, and you'll help others do the same," and what greater gift could you give to the ones you love?

Music-Evoked Nostalgia

By Ira Hyman Ph.D. on May 06, 2011 in Mental Mishaps
I found myself falling through my memories backwards in time after hearing a song from my high school days. A single song made me feel like I was 18 again while reminding me that I’m substantially older. Nostalgia evoked quickly and easily by music.