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Does Matrimania Really Matter? The Case of Women and Their Disinterest in Science

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on July 25, 2011 in Living Single
Guess what undermines women’s interest in science, technology, engineering, and math (STEM)? It is something pervasive and sometimes subtle, and it doesn’t seem to affect men one bit.

Don't Judge Your Sex Drive

Comparing ourselves to others and concluding that we come up short, is the most common way we create our own unhappiness.

Despite the Crisis Atmosphere, Faith in Politics

By Dennis Rosen M.D. on July 25, 2011 in Sleeping Angels
Many look on at this country’s political process with disgust and see this as a sign that this country’s political system is fundamentally broken. My perspective, though, is different.

Behavioral Targeting: To Track or Not to Track, That Is the Question

If the majority of people don’t want to be tracked online, advertisers and search companies are risking a public relations disaster to target consumers. The companies can target us, but in doing so, they skew search results and make our world narrower and less rich. Whatever happened to freedom of information?

Thinking About Amy Winehouse at the National Institute on Drug Abuse

By Ben Y Hayden Ph.D. on July 25, 2011 in The Decision Tree
If there's one thing Amy Winehouse's spiral and death makes clear, it's that drug addiction can have a very firm grip.

Regret in interpersonal games

Will feelings of regret make you a better person? In social situations that have the characteristics of the prisoner’s dilemma, the trust game, or the ultimatum game, regret seems to be in the service of self-interested rationality, not other-oriented morality. If we were better learners, we would not need regret at all.

OxyContin Abuse by Youth

By Joel Bakan on July 25, 2011 in Childhood Under Siege
Teenagers and young adults in the town of Port St. Lucie, Florida "complain of having little or nothing to do, and marijuana, prescription drugs and parties often fill the void," according to them and their parents, as a story in last Sunday's New York Times reported.

Does Playing the Blues Give You the Blues?

What role do a musician’s own emotions play in the construction of an expressive performance?

Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of Female Orgasm

By Pamela Madsen on July 25, 2011 in Shameless Woman
The first time I heard the word "tumescence" was when I was watching a remake of Robin Hood with Russell Crowe when he uttered these words..."I woke up this morning with a tumescent glow." It sounded sexy, but I let it go. I heard it again recently when meeting with other sex educators while discussing the fabulous new book "Slow Sex" By Nicole Daedone.

Holding Tough Dilemmas Together – Part 2

In my previous post I shared two examples of how a conflict can be transformed by being held together with another as a shared dilemma: what can we do here to respond to both of our needs? Today I want to illustrate with a third example between father and teenage daughter.

Spare That Tree!

"Imprelis" is an iconic brand name, subliminally suggesting an archaic order of noble rank as in one of the players on Game of Thrones. Just as in the cable TV series, you don’t want this character paying a visit to your manor house. Imprelis is a new, purportedly “eco-friendly” landscaping herbicide linked to an emerging horticultural holocaust.

Is Capitalism Fair?

By Peter Corning Ph.D. on July 25, 2011 in The Fair Society
It seems “fairness” is a buzzword in our politics these days. But what does fairness mean? How do you know it when you see it? Though some cynics view fairness as nothing more than a mask for self-interest, it turns out the cynics are wrong.

Be the Best Gold Digger You Can Be

By Jen Kim on July 25, 2011 in Valley Girl With a Brain
There was a time when being a gold digger was a stigma, something to be ashamed of. "She/he is a gold digger," you would warn your pal. Nowadays, it seems dating or marrying for money is not only out in the open, but also touted as something to be proud of.

Why Are Some People Always Late? (And Other Human Puzzles)

By Alfie Kohn on July 25, 2011 in The Homework Myth
I often find myself unable to let go of questions that don't seem to give most people any pause at all. For example, why do we cry at weddings?

Be Nice to the Cleaners

I went to participate in an event held at a bookstore in a big city. I saw on the store's calendar that a Very Famous Author (we'll call him Mr. X) had been there the day before.

What Is Beautiful?

By Harry Beckwith J.D. on July 25, 2011 in Unthinking
We think of beauty as something exceptional. Yet there is ample evidence that what makes you beautiful is something quite different. Who and what is beautiful? Brace yourself for a surprise.

How Does Your Teenage Son Feel About His Mom Taking the SAT? (and other FAQs)

Q. Do you really think you can get a perfect SAT score?

A. Yes, I do, though I have been accused of being an optimist on numerous occasions.

Using the Big 5 to Diagnose Your Email Personality

You may not realize it, but your emails reveal important features of your personality. Forensic linguistics used to validate whether Zuckerberg wrote certain emails is one approach. Using the Big 5 personality theory may provide clues just as diagnostic. Knowing about these can help you be more effective in your online communications.

10 Public Speaking Tips For Introverts

Know your strengths and weaknesses as a speaker, and accentuate the positive. If you have a great sense of humor, use it. If you’re not a natural cut-up, don’t try to be. Instead, focus on what you do best. Thoughtful and thought-provoking is every bit as powerful as dynamic and entertaining...

Listening into People's Eyes

When you listen for the pain, hurt and fear in people, it is always there. And when people sense you doing that with no other motive than to alleviate all of those, they will lower their walls and reveal them to you. - Dr. Edwin Shneidman (1918 – 2009) American Psychologist, Suicidologist and mentor