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Couples Therapy for Dummies

Immature love is loving someone for what they do right; mature love is loving someone is spite of what they do wrong.

Fathers' Day: A holiday of gratitude or yearning?

Fathers' Day is so visible you can't miss it! But it also is complex. Some of us can genuinely express gratitude to our father on this holiday. Others may have several father figures, with each representing a unique relationship. And then there are the men who yearn to be fathers but cannot easily attain that coveted role.

Celebrities Can Give Positive Health Behaviors a Shot in the Arm, Really!

By Meg Selig on June 13, 2011 in Changepower
For getting the shingles vaccination, fear is a strong motivator.

Should You Break Up Or Make Up?

By Karen Salmansohn on June 13, 2011 in Bouncing Back
Remember: You are the common denominator in all your relationship problems. Wherever you go, your pesky repeated issues go - until you shed a blazing light of insight upon them. Here are 8 empowering insights to help you decide if you should break up or make up!

Is the ADHD Brain More Creative?

Studies find that people with ADHD may be more creative than those without ADHD - and the effects of stimulant medication on creativity may surprise you.

The Mommy Wars, Medical Edition

Are women really less worthy of the privilege of a medical education, just because some of us decide to have children?

Failure, Disappointment, Being Wrong and Conan O'Brien

By Brad Waters on June 13, 2011 in Design Your Path
Conan O'Brien quipped, "You should not fear failure, you should do your very best to avoid it." He then went on to give the 2011 commencement speech at Dartmouth College with examples dating back 300 years on we have long been interested in our relationship with failure and being wrong. What have we learned from our mistakes?

Believing "children are resilient" may be a fantasy

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on June 13, 2011 in Moral Landscapes
"Kids are resilient." How many times have I heard that in a Hollywood movie as a self-centered adult 'does his/her thing' at the expense of the children?

Problem with Sissy Boys? Get over it!

Lately, there has been quite a focus in the media on accepting cross-gendered behavior in boys. As a therapist, a gay man and former (and, at times current) sissy boy myself, I applaud this small but hopefully growing trend.

When Hunger Leads to Anger: Noticing External Influences on Mood

According to new research, being hungry makes judges give less favorable rulings--a lot less favorable. We all know we get grumpy when we're hungry, but we don't always recognize how much. Being more aware of how the state of your body affects your state of mind can be harder than it seems, but more valuable too.

Personal Growth: The Joys of "Bromance"

By Jim Taylor Ph.D. on June 13, 2011 in The Power of Prime
I have a confession: I'm having a "bromance." You may know the term from the movie I Love You, Man; it describes a close, though non-sexual relationship between two men. Yes, my wife knows about it and supports it.

Dan Gediman: This I Believe: On Fatherhood

By Jennifer Haupt on June 13, 2011 in One True Thing
Just in time for Father's Day, This I Believe: On Fatherhood is the perfect gift for dads of any age.

How I Learned That My Father Loved Me

By Lee Kravitz on June 13, 2011 in Unfinished Business
The author resisted his father's coaching, in baseball and in life. What changed?

Are Tanned People Perceived As More Attractive?

By Gad Saad Ph.D. on June 13, 2011 in Homo Consumericus
Many people sunbathe under the assumption that it makes them more attractive. A recent study has confirmed this long-standing premise. Tanned individuals are judged as better looking but beware of the George Hamilton effect!

7 Soothing Remedies for Kids’ Headaches

Ten-year-old Ethan described his headaches as either "pounding cannonballs" on the top of his head or "humungous pliers" gripping his temples. He created a character for them: a muscular hard-hat construction worker holding an enormous drill in each hand, opening up the top of his head and drilling directly into his brain. The intense pain made Ethan weep.

Frustrated by Devices? Read the Manual

By Gretchen Rubin on June 13, 2011 in The Happiness Project
Handsome, well-made tools are a joy to use; confusing devices are a drain. So often, I find, things once easy to operate -- TVs, irons, dishwashers, alarm clocks, washing machines -- are now humiliatingly challenging.

Why we CAN'T know why they did it

What does Alexander Hamilton have in common with Anthony Weiner? A lot. And why is it impossible for us to know why they do what they do?

How MyPlate Can Help You Eat More Mindfully

By Susan Albers Psy.D. on June 13, 2011 in Comfort Cravings
Do you like the new MyPlate icon? This article discusses why it has been so well received and how it can actually help you to eat more mindfully. Add your thoughts, compliments, and concerns here...

A Sexless Relationship

By Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on June 13, 2011 in Love Doc
With skin sagging ever so slightly and wrinkles crinkling at the sides of her eyes, Lila could still light up the room with her smile. Unfortunately she was not smiling much these days.

Why Have Married People's Yearnings Run Amok?

By Stanton Peele on June 13, 2011 in Addiction in Society
We may wonder what trouble well-known people -- say during the Victorian era -- might have gotten into if they had Twitter. Would they be prim and proper like Victorians of yore? Let's examine that question in light of historical evidence from one very well-known case.

Outsmarting Advertising and Living Happily

"It is better for you to be free from fear lying on a pallet, than to have a golden couch and a rich table and be full of trouble." How "New Age" is that suggestion? It comes to us from Epicurus as he strolled his Greek garden almost 2500 years ago! Philosophy has rung the waring siren against the trap sprung by desire and greed forever. Just basic common sense....

You Can Be Too Controlling For Your Own Good and Drive Lovers Away

Can you only love someone who cares less about you than you do about them? Your control manevuers may be causing you problems.

When bipolar disorder creates distance between friends

I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in June of 2009. In hindsight, I could see behaviors on my part that were less than desirable. It's embarrassing and uncomfortable to suddenly have insight into one's own undesirable behavior...

Fathers, Sports, and Developing Children Into Leaders

Recent studies examine the earliest roots of leadership in children. The parenting styles of fathers and mothers play an important part, and the authors also explore how sports benefits in developing leadership potential.

Adolescence and expectations about college graduation

Don't treat college as a promise for a good job right away, but as an educational investment that will pay off over the long haul of future employment

If You Watch ‘Lie to Me,’ Will You Become More Successful at Detecting Lies?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on June 13, 2011 in Living Single
The TV show ‘Lie to Me’ was inspired by an actual scientist and supposedly by actual scientific findings. So do viewers do better at spotting lies?