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"I Wish I Could Better Describe the Kind of Happiness Mid-Summer Has Always Given Me..."

By Gretchen Rubin on July 25, 2011 in The Happiness Project
I'm very interested in what people find fun -- or not -- so was intrigued to read this post on play on The Shu Box.

6 Tips for Dating Success: What You Both Want Matters

Dating and relating are social exchange processes. In satisfying relationships, you get what you want and they get what they want too. Find out how to make that happen.

4 Strategies to Effectively Confront Passive Aggressive Behavior in a Relationship

In relationships, passive aggressive behaviors are often used to avoid the direct confrontation of short-term conflict, but in the long-term, these dynamics can be even more destructive to marriage than outright aggression.

What Do You Do When Your Partner Is Not Perfect?

The notion of "the perfect partner" is central to our perception of romantic love. What do you do when your partner is not perfect? I examine this issue by referring to three major types of romantic compromises and illustrate their presence in the actual, true story of Anna.

Multipotentiality: When High Ability Leads to Too Many Options

By Lisa Rivero M.A. on July 24, 2011 in Creative Synthesis
For people with multipotentiality, finding a good fit of personal abilities, preferences, workplace requirements, and vocational rewards has no perfect answer and few irremediable choices.

Your Bad Teacher Experiences Can Make Your Child’s Teachers Better

The greatest school fear reported by students is being reprimanded for in front of classmates. Embarassment or negative attention reduces children’s learning potentials because their brains learn to avoid participation to reduce the risk of potential mistakes. Sharing your “bad teacher” experiences can help teachers avoid making those same mistakes.

Could Neuroscience Have Helped Amy Winehouse?

"They tried to make me go to rehab," sang Amy Winehouse, the troubled rock star "Rehab." "I said 'No, no no."' Now she is dead at the age of 27. Is this a morality tale, or just a senseless tragedy? New research suggests it may actually be a problem that science can eventually solve.

Faith and Fiction

By Jennifer Haupt on July 24, 2011 in One True Thing
Wally Lamb, Jennifer Egan, Jane Smiley, and other novelists tell how they keep the faith with their writing.

The Funeral: Do You Take Love Ones For Granted?

A relative of mine recently died, so my parents, my brothers, and I went to his funeral. The rabbi was appropriately somber and talked about him fondly, as if she'd known him (though she hadn't).

Norwegian Massacre: Culture, Context, and Contagion

How could this happen in the country that is number one on the UN human development index? How could this happen at all? This article looks at the massacre in Norway in terms of the culture and context.

Who Cares What Women (or Men) Want—What Do You Want?

When you're looking for love, it's natural to ask "what do [men or women] want?" Far be it for me to presume to know, but in the end, it doesn't matter. In fact, I argue that it's a waste of time trying to figure it out.

Pessimists: Stay Away From Me

People pretend concern for the greater good, so why do they sound oddly happy when forecasting doom for the human race? Hell-in-a-handbasket thinking makes people feel strangely good while the predicting pandemonium.

Why we "choke" under pressure, and what to do about it

By Ray Williams on July 24, 2011 in Wired for Success
"Choking is suboptimal performance, not just poor performance.

Disaster Recovery in the Bedroom

Staying sexy through ED and vaginal dryness

Boundaries in Action: What to Do About Disagreements

He wants to eat dinner earlier than she does. And he has a personality disorder. Here's an example of how to limits without arguing.

The Art of Getting Your Needs Met

By Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on July 24, 2011 in Love Doc
"Michele, this is hard for me to say, but I'm not in love with you anymore." Nick looked sad.

With eyes wide in surprise, Michele said "What do you mean you're not in love with me anymore? Things are so good between us. Why now? Where are you coming from?"

"It's not just now. I've been telling you over and over that we have problems." Nick's body went limp.

Why do All Rock Stars Die at 27?

Can you live too long to be a rock star?

Did Cavemen Have Addictions, Too?

By Donna Barstow on July 24, 2011 in Ink Blots Cartoons
A cartoon about the good things that happen when you're in recovery. Hey, it's better than papier mache.

Group Love at Comic-Con

By Steven Schlozman M.D. on July 23, 2011 in Grand Rounds
Dungeons and Dragons has come a long way...

Avoid Sitting to Death

By Michael Otto Ph.D. on July 23, 2011 in Exercise and Mood
Exercise has important effects on attention and memory, has been used as an effective treatment for depression, and, of course, has tremendous beneficial effects on physical health.

Holding Tough Dilemmas Together

No matter what we do and where we are, life always presents us with an unending succession of things to work out with other people. We create conflict when we polarize and separate from the other person, because we don’t know how to hold what’s important to us alongside what’s important to the person with whom we have the differences.

Who's Responsible for Amy's Death?

By Stanton Peele on July 23, 2011 in Addiction in Society
When someone dies due to substance abuse, many are quick to point fingers at whomever they regard as the culprits. Unfortunately (and I hate to quote him), John Galt had it right: "I swear by my life and my love of it that I will never live for the sake of another man, nor ask another man to live for mine."