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The Three Best Reasons to Stop Blaming Your Spouse

Even when it really is his or her fault, choosing not to blame your spouse offers short-term and long-term benefits.

Animal Minds and the Foible of Human Exceptionalism

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on July 30, 2011 in Animal Emotions
Human exceptionalism, the belief that human beings have special status based on our unique capacities, is misleading and has serious social, political, and environmental consequences for how we treat other animals and their homes. We need to be more humble and act with greater compassion and empathy for other beings.

Get Anyone to Like You – Instantly – Guaranteed

If you want people to like you, make them feel good about themselves.

Formula for Family Meals: 2 + 4 + 12

By Linda Wasmer Andrews on July 30, 2011 in Minding the Body
Family meals may be good for your child's health. But there's nothing magic about sitting around the dinner table. It's what happens there that counts.

Autism: Is It Caused By A Toxic Womb?

In graduate school, I had the interesting experience of working with Bruno Bettelheim at his then world-famous Orthogenic School. Bettelheim has received much posthumous bad press, some of it personal--allegations of physical abuse--and much of it professional--his idea that autism was caused by what he called an emotionally cold “refrigerator mother.”

Transcending Norms of Separation

One of the things I do in life is talk to strangers whenever I have any inkling of a possible human connection, however momentary. These acts feel precious and a little subversive. Yesterday I experienced two in a row that were so meaningful I decided to risk the embarrassment for the hope of inspiring others to join me.

Cyberbully Protection

Cyberbullying words can cut and oftentimes the victim feels alone, scared, anxious, depressed and like there's no one who understands them. Although cyberbullying doesn't directly inflict physical harm it does cut psychologically. Sometimes it leaves scars that don't heal.

Your Best Superpower

By Michele Woodward on July 30, 2011 in Getting Unstuck
You have a superpower you may not even be conscious of... Yet, it's the most powerful tool you have to get what you want. Read on.

Depressed Teens Have Riskier Sex

Once the symptoms of depression subside, so may the risky sexual behaviors

Precognitive Dreams

By Patrick McNamara Ph.D. on July 30, 2011 in Dream Catcher
Do precognitive dreams exist? Here's an alleged one.

Stop it - You're Not Addicted to "The Bachelor"

By Adi Jaffe Ph.D. on July 30, 2011 in All About Addiction
So many people tell me they're addicted to something in life that I'm beginning to think almost no one knows what addiction really is. Here's a reminder.

Gay Couples Therapy: A Way to Avoid Same-Sex Divorce

Some of you might be wondering, “My partner is selfish, mean, stubborn, nagging, needy, distant narcissistic, smelly, snores, sucks her teeth (check all that apply) and my relationship is in trouble. Am I on the road to becoming a gay divorceé?”

Review of Reclaim Your Family from Addiction, by Craig Nakken

By John A. Johnson Ph.D. on July 30, 2011 in Cui Bono
I review the premise of Craig Nakken's Reclaim Your Family from Addiction, that four fundamental drives guide our behavior, and in order of descending importance, they are the drives for connection, meaning, pleasure, and power. In addiction, pleasure and power take precedence over meaning, and recovery requires a restoration of proper priorities.

See With Your Tongue!

A demonstration reminds us we don't see with our eyes, but with our brain.

Take it or Toss it? How to Evaluate Criticism

When someone criticizes you, how can you figure out whether to accept it or reject it? With help from leadership legend John Maxwell, Life Coach Dr. Susan Biali, MD demonstrates a practical and compellingly simple framework for evaluating negative feedback.

Science Confirms Astrology!

By Ben Y Hayden Ph.D. on July 30, 2011 in The Decision Tree
OK, not really. But month you are born does have some bearing on your personality. And no one knows why.

6 Well-Kept Secrets that Affect Family Size

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on July 30, 2011 in Singletons
Six well-kept "family secrets" influencing the nuclear family today. Why are they not being discussed?

Much of Twitter Tweets Are Pure "Babble."

By Ray Williams on July 30, 2011 in Wired for Success
Twitter content is made up of a combination of personal, "this is what I 'm doing and where I am," messages, informational or educational messages, and pure commercial or business related tweets. A study concluded that 40.5% of the messages were "pointless babble."

Follow a Threshold Ritual

By Gretchen Rubin on July 30, 2011 in The Happiness Project
Gratitude is a key element for a happy life. People who cultivate gratitude get a boost in happiness and optimism, feel more connected to other people, are better-liked and have more friends, are more likely to help others—they even sleep better and have fewer headaches.

Taking the First Step

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on July 30, 2011 in Off the Couch
Sometimes the first step is the hardest. Five simple suggestions will help you move forward.

Entering the No iPhone Zone

Several studies have pointed to people's smartphone addictions. "The Power of Slow" author Christine Louise Hohlbaum looks at her own iPhone behavior and takes on the five-week No iPhone Zone challenge.

Definitely "Be Yourself," But Make Sure That's the Best "You" You Can Be

Dr. Rettenberg's response to my post on being yourself rather than what you think other people want you to be makes several excellent points, all of which focus on what it means to "be yourself"—and there may be more to that than you think.

Giving Sex Advice: Harder Than it Looks

By Christopher Ryan on July 30, 2011 in Sex at Dawn
I've been filling in for Dan Savage this week, while he's on vacation.


Five tips for improving a negative reputation at the office