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Lust for the Long Haul
The Coolidge Effect
Sex-Starved Wives

Discounting and the ethic of denial

Conventional morality is the foe of desire, pleasure, and the freedom to choose what we want now. Here, I agree with Nietzsche and Freud. In contemporary psychology, research on temporal discounting is co-opted to support this ethic of denial. I question the wisdom of this tactic. Why not stop and smell the roses?

If It's Fun, It's Not Duty Sex

By Laurie Mintz Ph.D. on July 30, 2010 in Stress and Sex
If women knew what that the sex therapy textbooks say, they would be more comfortable "Just Doing It" without judging it as deficient.

Writing Anxiety and the Job Search

Let's face it: if you're afraid of a task you're less likely to do it-- and certainly less likely to do it well. If you have writing anxiety you are more likely to approach the task with a "just get this over with" attitude. And that's what shows up in the cover letters that tank someone's job search.
Could Soft Chairs and Satin Be the Secrets to Success?

Could Soft Chairs and Satin Be the Secrets to Success?

New research shows that the weight, texture, and hardness of the things we touch are, in fact, unconsciously factored into our decisions about things that have nothing to do with what we are touching. Potentially, every decision we make.
Handling Conflict
When Emails Are Taboo
Love at First Fight
When Tykes Tiff

5 Common Happiness Mistakes -- "Boosters" That Actually Do More Harm Than Good.

By Gretchen Rubin on July 29, 2010 in The Happiness Project
Everyone has a few tricks for beating the blues – things you do when you’re feeling down to try to boost your mood. I've found out from long experience, however, that several of the most popular strategies don’t actually work very well in the long term. Beware if you're tempted to try any of the following: 1. Comforting yourself with a “treat.” 
The Blues Can Break Your Heart
Emotional Trauma
Is It All In My Head?
Dealing With Chronic Pain

Should Homeschooling Parents Have College Degrees? Round Two.

By Laura Brodie Ph.D. on July 28, 2010 in Love in a Time of Homeschooling
 Homeschooling parents range from professors to high school dropouts, and they like it that way.

On Not Being Number One

By Mary M Gergen Ph.D. on July 28, 2010 in Aging Well

DSM and Disease: Dr. Ghaemi's Partial Answer

By Christopher Lane Ph.D. on July 28, 2010 in Side Effects
Which conditions should be eliminated from DSM-5?

I'll tell you about my (psychologist) mother

By Micah Toub on July 28, 2010 in Growing Up Jung
The other day, I met a guy who, like me, has a psychologist mother. His isn't a Jungian-trained therapist, though; he told me that she specializes in "child development psychology." I laughed a little to myself imagining a woman leaning over a toddler with a clipboard, checking various columns and line graphs to assess if her son was keeping up with the various mental milestones that she had studied in school.
The Bipolar Child
The Angry Smile
Late Bloomers

When are attitudes pliable?

By Art Markman Ph.D. on July 27, 2010 in Ulterior Motives
All of us have core beliefs. Things that we accept as being important to us that we expect will drive our behavior. Yet, there are times in social situations where it is awkward to express those beliefs, and we may even find ourselves sympathizing with someone else's opinion, even though at some level we feel like we disagree with them.For example, I was once in a taxi on a long drive from an airport to a hotel where I was staying. The driver spent quite a bit of time relaying his political beliefs to me. Those beliefs were the opposite of my own on a number of dimensions. I did not feel like engaging with the driver, though, and so I kept silent. Afterwards, I wondered whether this driver's tirade could have any influence on my own beliefs.

Rock Yourself to Sleep

By Michael J Breus Ph.D. on July 27, 2010 in Sleep Newzzz
Any new parent who has tried to get an infant to sleep knows about the secret spell of a swing. There's something magical about the rocking motion that a swing or even human arms can provide to put a baby to sleep. It also explains why a ride in the car or a train can be equally as tranquilizing.

"Real" is Really in

By Vivian Diller Ph.D. on July 27, 2010 in Face It
About ten years ago, Madison Avenue started casting real looking children in their advertisements, turning away those with the proverbial cherub faces, blonde hair, and blue eyes as too perfect to be believable.  

What Are The Limitations of Your Ego Mind?

By Ronald Alexander Ph.D. on July 27, 2010 in The Wise Open Mind
Doesn’t everyone desire happiness, joy, bliss, and peace? Then why are so many people stuck in unhealthy or unfulfilling jobs and relationships?  Traditionally, we’ve been told that to achieve happiness, we should use our minds to figure out what would make us happy and then work hard to achieve our goal. The problem is that even the sharpest, most clever mind is limited in its ability to create opportunities and see possibilities. Without guidance from the heart, we’re merely playing notes on a piano, not composing a melody. \

Get Busy and Get Happy

Busywork has a bad rep. Keeping yourself (or someone else) busy doing meaningless or unnecessary tasks, simply for the sake of avoiding idleness, seems like a pointless waste of energy. Only it turns out there is a point to it - recent research shows that keeping busy doing anything makes you a whole lot happier than you would have been doing nothing. Just sitting around, bored and inert, is a recipe for misery.
A Hero of Hardiness
Making Your Mind Last a Lifetime
The Creative Advantage
Getting Over Getting Older

The Psychology of Road Rage: Dangers and Anger Management

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on July 26, 2010 in Insight Is 20/20
Road rage offers nothing but more stress, so why do people let themselves get so angry?

Radical Homemaking: A revolution in progress?

At the heart of Shannon Hayes's new book are a set of home visits Hayes made to twenty families and individuals whom she describes as radical homemakers. These people, she claims, are transforming home from a place of consumption to a place where women, men, and children work together to grow, make, and create what is vital to their living. What do we make of her claims? Is she promoting a nostalgic escape to a romanticized home life that never existed? Advocating a life of poverty and deprivation? Or perpetuating gender stereotypes that have trapped women in domestic drudgery, denying them the opportunity to share their talents with a larger public?

STDs are Normal

By Kathryn Stamoulis Ph.D. on July 26, 2010 in The New Teen Age
Show Me a Sign
Love Smarter—Not Harder
Marriage Math
The Rules of Relationship

Why Do Men Go Through a Midlife Crisis?

By Satoshi Kanazawa on July 25, 2010 in The Scientific Fundamentalist
In an earlier post, I explain why some women may (unconsciously) choose to stay in their relationships with physically abusive husbands and boyfriends.

The Fine Art of Emotional Detachment

By Robert I. Sutton on July 25, 2010 in Work Matters
Why Indifference is as Important as Passion