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Watch Out, Singles! Once Again, You Are Doomed to an Early Grave by Cheater Technique

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on August 18, 2011 in Living Single
Researchers love to discuss the supposed joys of self-selecting into marriage. Astonishingly, many of those same social scientists don’t realize that there is also selection out of marriage (divorce, widowhood), and that selection out could potentially be even more important than selection in.

Gender, Anixiety, and Purchases

By Art Markman Ph.D. on August 18, 2011 in Ulterior Motives
Shopping and decision making can be stressful. In those case, people look for all kinds of ways to reduce the stress of a choice.

Calming Global Fears One Person and One Story at a Time

By Mark Goulston M.D., F.A.P.A. on August 18, 2011 in Just Listen
If you want to calm the fears of others around you and you, yourself, have everyone share such a story of making it through a difficult time that they didn’t think they would.

Is Violent Sport Cathartic?

By Michael W Austin on August 18, 2011 in Ethics for Everyone
Many people believe that violent sport is cathartic. There is good evidence that they are wrong.

Feel Cared About

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on August 18, 2011 in Your Wise Brain
Sometimes we feel embarrassed about our yearnings to be cared about. But they are completely normal - and deeply rooted in evolution. Love, broadly defined, has been the primary driver of the development of the brain over the last 80 million years.

The Diane Rehm Show (NPR) Takes On Shyness and Social Anxiety...

...and I was one of the panelists. It was a wonderful experience. Diane Rehm is a kind of national icon, and it was an honor to be in the same room with her, speaking into gigantic microphones on a subject I care about deeply.

Understanding Why People Riot

By Ken Eisold Ph.D. on August 18, 2011 in Hidden Motives
We hear it all the time about riots: “hooliganism” or, as David Cameron put it last week, “criminality, pure and simple.” But riots are complex events, hard to reduce to something as simple as that.

Seven Things to Avoid After Being Fired

In today's volatile economy, the loss of a job can be devastating. Although feelings of sadness or anger are normal, if they continue for too long, they can be self-defeating. To prevent being dragged down by the negativity commonly experienced after job loss, here are seven things to avoid.

Why Do You Really Oppose Drugs? Part III

By Robert Kurzban Ph.D. on August 18, 2011 in Mind Design
Morality, we are often told, is rainbows and butterflies. Does it have a much darker side?

Stop Self-Criticism With Compassionate Self-Awareness

By Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on August 18, 2011 in Making Change
When the direct approach to getting rid of self-critical thoughts fails to work, there's no need to give up. Try refocusing on increasing compassionate self-awareness. Here's what that means and how you can do it.

Emotions in More than One Language

The language bilinguals express their emotions in is both a complex and a fascinating topic. There is a myth that they do so in their first language but there are many instances of this not being so. In the end, there seems to be no set rule.

Tips for Building an Autism Friendly Workplace

By Lynne Soraya on August 17, 2011 in Asperger's Diary
In my last post, I listed some of the behaviors that can make the workplace difficult for those with Asperger's. Although I framed these behaviors in the light of Asperger's, the majority of them affect others as well. Inclusive practices aren't just for those on the autism spectrum. Inclusion benefits us all.

Anxiety Self Help: Experiencing Fear and Performing Anyway

People often tell me they are “too afraid” to do this or that – speak publicly, address a disturbing situation with someone, or whatever. I explain that fear is an evolutionary gift designed to protect us. In modern times though, it may show up when we want to be bold. Here is one way I try to not to give fear the power to stop me from doing what I think should be done.

Developing a Self Greatly Shapes Your Sexual Desire

By David Schnarch Ph.D. on August 17, 2011 in Intimacy and Desire
Couples with sexual desire problems are often battling out the wars of autonomy, attachment and selfhood. You think you're just having sex problems. It doesn't help that your partner may be saying, "It's not about you, I'm just not into sex." Or, "All you want is sex!" Your partner is saying it too: it's about sex. That's what you probably want to believe too.

Do Certain TV Shows Make Your Brain Smaller?

By Donna Barstow on August 17, 2011 in Ink Blots Cartoons
Reality TV is just like life. (No, it isn't.) Reality TV is innovative and hip. (NO, it really isn't.) Reality TV is a substitute for PBS. (What does substitute mean?) I don't watch reality TV. (Yes, I do.)

Does Sleep Apnea Cause Dementia?

Recent media reports declare sleep apnea causes the dementia. The truth is more complicated, and less scary.

Why There Was Anarchy in the UK

By Jonnie Hughes on August 17, 2011 in On the Origin of Tepees
Analyzing the psychology of "mindless violence". Last week, rioting spread through England like a disease - was it down to a contagious idea, and if so, how mindful were the infected?

What Is Brainstorming REALLY, and Does It Work?

Most people have heard of (or used) brainstorming techniques to generate creative ideas. Many believe that it was created by psychologists, and that it works. However, brainstorming was the brainchild of an advertising executive in the 1950s and research has questioned its effectiveness.

When Is the Brain Fully Mature?

By Susan R Barry Ph.D. on August 17, 2011 in Eyes on the Brain
If we want to understand brain plasticity, we must consider more than individual neurons and synapses. Brain function also depends upon large nerve fiber tracts. When do these pathways reach maturity?

Expressing Our Pain without Blame

By Miki Kashtan Ph.D. on August 17, 2011 in Acquired Spontaneity
When someone else’s actions don’t line up with what we most want, we tend to hold that person accountable for our pain. They become defensive in response to our blame, and we effectively ensure they can’t hear us. If we can resist the temptation to go into right/wrong thinking about the pain others are more likely to open up to hearing us.