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What Is Beautiful?

By Harry Beckwith J.D. on July 25, 2011 in Unthinking
We think of beauty as something exceptional. Yet there is ample evidence that what makes you beautiful is something quite different. Who and what is beautiful? Brace yourself for a surprise.

How Does Your Teenage Son Feel About His Mom Taking the SAT? (and other FAQs)

Q. Do you really think you can get a perfect SAT score?

A. Yes, I do, though I have been accused of being an optimist on numerous occasions.

Using the Big 5 to Diagnose Your Email Personality

You may not realize it, but your emails reveal important features of your personality. Forensic linguistics used to validate whether Zuckerberg wrote certain emails is one approach. Using the Big 5 personality theory may provide clues just as diagnostic. Knowing about these can help you be more effective in your online communications.

10 Public Speaking Tips For Introverts

Know your strengths and weaknesses as a speaker, and accentuate the positive. If you have a great sense of humor, use it. If you’re not a natural cut-up, don’t try to be. Instead, focus on what you do best. Thoughtful and thought-provoking is every bit as powerful as dynamic and entertaining...

Listening into People's Eyes

When you listen for the pain, hurt and fear in people, it is always there. And when people sense you doing that with no other motive than to alleviate all of those, they will lower their walls and reveal them to you. - Dr. Edwin Shneidman (1918 – 2009) American Psychologist, Suicidologist and mentor

Speaking From Beyond the Grave: How Psychological Autopsies Can Help Families Find Closure

For most of us life and accident insurance gives us the peace of mind of knowing that if the worst was to occur the people we love will not have to suffer financial hardship. But what if this piece of mind was erroneous and the truth is that your family will have to fight with the insurance company to get the benefits that they are owed?

What Do I Do If My Friend Has An Eating Disorder?

What can I say to a friend who I think has an eating disorder? How can I support my friend once she is in treatment?

The Affair Warning Sign You Should Never Ignore

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on July 25, 2011 in The Squeaky Wheel
The question is not “What kind of person is likely to have an affair?” but rather “What kind of relationship is likely to have one?”

When Cameron Diaz Lights Up, Do Teenagers Start Smoking?

By Timothy D. Wilson Ph.D. on July 25, 2011 in Redirect
When a movie star lights up a cigarette in the movies, does it really make teenagers more likely to smoke? And if so, what can we do about it?

Flexing Your "No Thanks" Muscle

By Peter Bregman on July 25, 2011 in How We Work
The most important skill we possess in this world of infinite distractions is focus. Anything that distracts us - even saving a hundred dollars - is just mind clutter.

Keeping Life In Balance While In A Relationship

Maintain balance as one attains marriage.

"I Wish I Could Better Describe the Kind of Happiness Mid-Summer Has Always Given Me..."

By Gretchen Rubin on July 25, 2011 in The Happiness Project
I'm very interested in what people find fun -- or not -- so was intrigued to read this post on play on The Shu Box.

6 Tips for Dating Success: What You Both Want Matters

Dating and relating are social exchange processes. In satisfying relationships, you get what you want and they get what they want too. Find out how to make that happen.

4 Strategies to Effectively Confront Passive Aggressive Behavior in a Relationship

In relationships, passive aggressive behaviors are often used to avoid the direct confrontation of short-term conflict, but in the long-term, these dynamics can be even more destructive to marriage than outright aggression.

What Do You Do When Your Partner Is Not Perfect?

The notion of "the perfect partner" is central to our perception of romantic love. What do you do when your partner is not perfect? I examine this issue by referring to three major types of romantic compromises and illustrate their presence in the actual, true story of Anna.

Multipotentiality: When High Ability Leads to Too Many Options

By Lisa Rivero M.A. on July 24, 2011 in Creative Synthesis
For people with multipotentiality, finding a good fit of personal abilities, preferences, workplace requirements, and vocational rewards has no perfect answer and few irremediable choices.

Your Bad Teacher Experiences Can Make Your Child’s Teachers Better

The greatest school fear reported by students is being reprimanded for in front of classmates. Embarassment or negative attention reduces children’s learning potentials because their brains learn to avoid participation to reduce the risk of potential mistakes. Sharing your “bad teacher” experiences can help teachers avoid making those same mistakes.

Could Neuroscience Have Helped Amy Winehouse?

"They tried to make me go to rehab," sang Amy Winehouse, the troubled rock star "Rehab." "I said 'No, no no."' Now she is dead at the age of 27. Is this a morality tale, or just a senseless tragedy? New research suggests it may actually be a problem that science can eventually solve.

Faith and Fiction

By Jennifer Haupt on July 24, 2011 in One True Thing
Wally Lamb, Jennifer Egan, Jane Smiley, and other novelists tell how they keep the faith with their writing.