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Listen Your Way Up the Ladder

“We think we listen, but we don’t,” says Nancy Kline in her book Time to Think. “We finish each other’s sentences, we interrupt each other, we moan together, we fill in the pauses with our own stories, we look at our watches, we sigh, frown, tap our finger, read the newspaper or walk away. We give advice, give advice, give advice.”

Reality Check

By Susan R Barry Ph.D. on January 24, 2012 in Eyes on the Brain
We may mistake a change in our bodies for a change in the outside world.

Mind and Heart: The Doorways to Existence

We get into trouble when we listen to the voice of our mind and identify it as who we are. We are not our minds, but a much greater consciousness.

The Biggest Myth in Time Management

By Peter Bregman on January 24, 2012 in How We Work
The truth is, we can't ever really get away from it. There is no escaping the nonstop surge of email, text, voicemail, Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn — and that's just the technology-based stream. How can we ever catch up?

We can't.

Am I worthy? Lesson 1 in Vulnerability

When you finally allow people to see who you are they may reject you and you can't protect your ego by saying that they didn't really know you. That thought alone terrifies me.

A Possible Cure For Pornography Addiction—In an Essay

By Ravi Chandra M.D. on January 24, 2012 in The Pacific Heart
David Mura’s classic essay is an absolute must read for anyone interested in how male sexuality interacts with pornography and other sexual addictions. The essay goes right to the heart, and makes it possible to “cure” pornography addiction in about 10,000 words that stimulate deep reflection and maturation.

See Beings Not Bodies

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on January 24, 2012 in Your Wise Brain
When we encounter someone, the mind summarizes & simplifies tons of details. Though fast and efficient this process has lots of problems

Cat Killed and Defaced As a Political Statement

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on January 24, 2012 in Animal Emotions
Sometimes it's difficult to figure out why some people do what they do to other animals. Our relationships with animals are often challenging, frustrating, complicated, and ambiguous, and this incident should surely make everyone reflect on how we interact with other animals and why some people do the heinous things they do to innocent beings.

The Association Between Violence and PTSD

By Tracy Stecker Ph.D. on January 24, 2012 in Survivors
"It is better to light one small candle than to curse the darkness" Confuscius.

The worst part for him was standing there watching, not being able to do anything to help as he watched an Afghan man whip an innocent 8-year old Afghan boy at his captain's urging.

Occupying the Toy Aisle One Pink Lego at a Time

By Polly Palumbo Ph.D. on January 24, 2012 in Momma Data
A drama has settled over Lego's new Heartlake City, a pink and purple village with girly figures sporting hearts and butterfies. The feminized, pre-assembled play sets that include a beauty shop, bakery and stage have been accused of promoting gender roles, sexualizing girls and stunting spatial abilities. Are toys marketed towards girls really so harmful?

The Healthy Side of Narcissism

It's hard to love a narcissist. Although we tend to emphasize narcissism's negative qualities, however, there can be benefits to having narcissistic tendencies. Research shows that people high in "adaptive narcissism" have higher self-esteem, and can be more successful in relationships, health, and work. A little bit of narcissism may be a good thing.

Rather Partial: The Delicate Art of Clinging Right

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on January 24, 2012 in Ambigamy
We speak more accurately than we realize when we say that we're partial to someone or something. Love, addiction, attachment, commitment, co-dependence, community, parisitism, leaning on a crutch, all have in common the basic dynamics. You lose an inclination or ability to do something for yourself thereby becoming a part of a large whole.

Coping With Boredom At Work

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on January 24, 2012 in The Human Beast
Of all the motivational problems that people encounter at work, the biggest may simply be getting through the day.

Declaration of Co-dependency: Face it, We're Addicted Through Love

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on January 24, 2012 in Ambigamy
Set aside positive and negative connotations, the dynamical behavior underlying love and addiction are the same. In both cases we lose an ability to do something for ourselves and become dependent on someone or something else. The right question is simply who and what to love and be addicted to?

Lack of Empathy: The Most Telling Narcissistic Trait

By Randi Kreger on January 24, 2012 in Stop Walking on Eggshells
Narcissists don't consider the pain they inflict on others; nor do they give any credence to others' perceptions.They simply do not care about thoughts and feelings that conflict with their own.

The American Dream: A Replay

By Peter Corning Ph.D. on January 24, 2012 in The Fair Society
A popular theme in science fiction and Hollywood movies is the idea of a do-over in life. What if income had been distributed in this country over the past 30 years the same way it was in the 1950s and 1960s? It would be a very different country.

Many Ages at Once

By Lisa Rivero M.A. on January 24, 2012 in Creative Synthesis
Gifted children will not necessarily fit comfortably within a group of age peers or meet usual expectations in terms of their development. For young children, this lack of fit may lead to misdiagnoses or premature diagnoses of learning and other disorders.

Seeking Serial Killers

By Katherine Ramsland Ph.D. on January 24, 2012 in Shadow Boxing
Using a serial killer to help solve crimes is the stuff of fiction. Until now. A true crime writer teams with a criminal profiler to get a new perspective on cold cases. They use a serial killer to learn more about the motives and methods involved, allowing viewers of their new TV series to hear what this killer has to say.

Novelty And Challenge Bring Happiness—Right?

By Gretchen Rubin on January 24, 2012 in The Happiness Project
It's very true that novelty and challenge bring happiness. It's also very true that novelty and challenge often bring feelings of anxiety, frustration, anger, boredom, and insecurity. Learning to do new things, or to face new situations, isn't always fun.