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Self-Discipline: Can It Verge on Masochism?

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on November 30, 2011 in Evolution of the Self
Examples of self-disciplined behaviors seriously interfering with personal pleasure and excitement are virtually infinite. Comfort, amusement, delight, adventure, entertainment, titillation--you name it--focusing on what, ultimately, will best serve your interests involves all sorts of sacrifices. . . .

By Way of Introductions...

By Michael Erard Ph.D. on November 30, 2011 in The Will to Plasticity
In which the author introduces himself

Getting Kinky: How to Share Your Fetish or Fantasy

How should you bring up your fantasy, fetish, or kinky desire with a date or mate? How can you convince your partner to get "creative" in the bedroom? Read on and find out!

The Little Things

By Richard Louv on November 30, 2011 in People in Nature
The little things are what we remember, what we know, of family life. Of life.

Knowing Awe Is Better Than Knowing It All

By Lara Honos-Webb Ph.D. on November 30, 2011 in The Gift of ADHD
Living a life with the purpose of outsmarting others is not really that smart. You are selling yourself short if you believe that your purpose is only to be better than others.

What's Your "Pigeon of Discontent"?

By Gretchen Rubin on November 30, 2011 in The Happiness Project
For the past few years, for the weekly video as part of the Happiness Challenge, I've proposed a resolution for your consideration...

Who Was the Buddha?

By Toni Bernhard J.D. on November 30, 2011 in Turning Straw Into Gold
This is the story of how a young man came to be known as The Buddha ("Buddha" means "awakened one"). He was not a god. He was a human being like you and me. As with all ancient tales, we can't know what is to be taken literally and what is to be taken metaphorically. It doesn't matter to me. I'm inspired by his story either way.

8 Ways to Put Off Decisions - and Life

By Susan Biali M.D. on November 30, 2011 in Prescriptions for Life
Are you truly moving forward in your life, or are you unwittingly deceiving yourself with "decisions" that hold you back? Life coach Dr. Susan Biali shares eye-opening insights from a wildly popular lifestyle guru, The Art of Non-Conformity's Chris Guillebeau

Don’t Speak 'Til You See the Whites of Their Eyes

"What can I help you with?" asked the Apple Store clerk as he kept his eyes focused on what he was entering into his iPhone.

"I'll wait ‘til you're finished," said I.

"No, go ahead," said he. "I can multitask."

"No, you can't!" said I, which finally got him to look at me and listen.

Creativity & Time: 12 Riffs to Show Up & Shape Time

By Jeffrey Davis M.A. on November 30, 2011 in Tracking Wonder
Instead of managing time like some begrudged worker, we can shape it. Think of yourself as a potter more than a manager. To show up and shape time as a creative has less to do with calendars and more to do with loving the mind. And the body.

The Climate Change Winds (of Fear) May Be Shifting

By David Ropeik on November 30, 2011 in How Risky Is It, Really?
Abstract risks scare us less than concrete ones. risks in the future scare us less than those which are more immediate. Extreme weather events may make climate change concern deeper and stronger and instigate action and progress.

"I Do" for Good

By Rachel Clark on November 30, 2011 in Marry, Divorce, Reconcile
"When there is love in a marriage, there is harmony in the home; when there is harmony in the home, there is contentment in the community; when there is contentment in the community, there is prosperity in the nation; when there is prosperity in the nation, there is peace in the world." Chinese Proverb

What Are the Limits to Human Self-Deception?

By Stanton Peele on November 30, 2011 in Addiction in Society
A litany of recent headlines shows people's infinite capacity to decide that they are fine and that others -- often victims of their actions -- are in fact deluded and culpable.

Radiance and Fascination: The Zander Effect

By Jonathan Fields on November 30, 2011 in Awake at the Wheel
Recently, I sat in an airplane hanger with 4,000 CEOs and thought leaders from around the world, listening to a line-up of world-class speakers. The event was the HSM World Business Forum. And I've had the privilege of "covering" it for the last 3 years as a blogger.

Inducing Jealousy to Get Your Mate's Attention

By Maryanne Fisher Ph.D. on November 30, 2011 in Love's Evolver
Have you ever purposely tried to elicit a jealous reaction in someone you are dating? By trying to make them jealous, your actions may make your mate unhappy and may hurt their feelings. Maybe they'll even breakup with you. So why are you purposely hurting someone you love?

Welcome to one of the most intriguing aspects of romantic relationships.

The Special Skills of People Who Are Always Getting Stereotyped

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on November 30, 2011 in Living Single
People who are most often stereotyped, rather than getting beaten down by that relentless aversive experience, instead seem to develop special coping skills. They end up more resilient, rather than less so.

Play Fighting: The Male Banter Game

By Audrey Nelson Ph.D. on November 29, 2011 in He Speaks, She Speaks
Men never get over ritual combat. Women would prefer for everyone to play nicely, and they want everyone to agree in a discussion.

Stereo Secrets

By Susan R Barry Ph.D. on November 29, 2011 in Eyes on the Brain
Stereograms may reveal drafting tricks of ancient monks.

Motherhood versus Career: The Epic Battle that Need Not Be

Motherhood versus career. It's the quintessential double bind that sets the stage for the epic battle so many women in the twentieth and twenty-first centuries have waged, mostly against themselves.

The Art of Listening: How Open Are Your Ears?

How would you rate yourself as a lover? Rate yourself on your listening skills to assess how well you can connect with a partner. Here's a self-assessment quiz that zeros in on the five key listening skills for gratifying relationships at work and at home.