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Unresolved Grief Following Divorce Can Be Deadly

What you can't be with won't let you be...
Woo Me With Your Words
Languages Are Vanishing

Enjoying Your Emotions

By Thomas Scheff Ph.D. on November 15, 2009 in Let's Connect

The Four Moral Emotions

By Ilana Simons Ph.D. on November 15, 2009 in The Literary Mind
Recent research on emotion has shifted the traditional focus away from the "basic" emotions to another set of emotions which are thought to be more distinctly human. Focus has turned to the "self-conscious" emotions, which are sometimes also referred to as "moral," "social," or "higher-order" emotions. These are the emotions that an organism can only feel if it has a highly developed sense of self-reflection. Usually, the "self-conscious" emotions are listed as these four: guilt, shame, embarrassment, and pride.

Libel in Fact: Aspiring to Rational Judgments Using DSM-I

By John D Mayer Ph.D. on November 15, 2009 in The Personality Analyst
The logic behind psychiatrists' diagnoses of Senator Goldwater.

How Much Should One Spend on An Engagement Ring?

By Gad Saad Ph.D. on November 15, 2009 in Homo Consumericus
The accepted wisdom regarding the amount of money that a man should spend on an engagement ring is that it should be equivalent to three months of his salary. A recent study published in Human Nature put this norm to the test, as well as explored factors that might affect the amount spent when purchasing an engagement ring.

What Teachers Wish They Could Say To Parents

Why do certain diminutive descendants of humankind get to act like little green monsters?Actually, I shouldn't say that because it gives green monsters a bad name.There are kids who hold court like Henry VIII--or, to be more precise, like Richard the Third.These children will neither have fun nor be fun as they grow up. Their parents do them no favors by indulging them and regarding their selfish behavior as "independence" and their nastiness as "personality."

10 Habits of Happy Couples

By Mark Goulston M.D., F.A.P.A. on November 14, 2009 in Just Listen
Try any of these for 21 days and it will become a habit that takes little energy to keep going.

Today's Antidepressants: Some Sad Facts

There is a long list of sad facts about today's antidepressants.  I'm going to put down what I reckon are the saddest of the sad facts; others are welcome to add their own.  In this post I report the findings of scientific research. 

Love and Sacrifice: The Life of the Caregiver

By Robyn Walser Ph.D. on November 14, 2009 in Mindfulness for Life
The stress of caregiving and the need to care for ourselves.

Take Your Time. Especially When You’re in a Hurry.

By Gretchen Rubin on November 14, 2009 in The Happiness Project
A few weeks ago, I posted Eight excellent tips for living that my parents gave me. Soon after, I ran into a friend who said, “I loved the tips your parents gave you. My mother had a great one, too. She always said, ‘When you’re in a hurry, take your time.’”

Reducing Inequalities May Increase Envy

By Aaron Ben-Zeév Ph.D. on November 13, 2009 in In the Name of Love
 It is often assumed that a reduction in inequality would lead to a drop in the level of envy. I believe that this assumption is incorrect and that, on the contrary, when inequalities are decreased the level of envy increases.

Are Antidepressants Just a Crutch?

Recently I evaluated a new patient, a young woman who wondered whether medication might ease her depression. She was in therapy elsewhere, and although seeing me was her idea, she was apprehensive about adding an antidepressant. I did end up recommending one, at which point she asked: "Aren't antidepressants just a crutch?"

Proms, Plays, & Yearbooks: Erasing queer lives from school

Recent school controversies around the country demonstrate how parents, administrators, and other school officials are harming students and teaching homophobia and intolerance. In Mississippi the issue is a female student who wore a tuxedo instead of the “drape” designated for female students for her yearbook photo.

Boot Camps Don't Prevent Young Offenders from Reoffending

By Michael Ungar Ph.D. on November 13, 2009 in Nurturing Resilience
Though I know parents would prefer to believe that boot camps help prevent troubled young people from continuing their delinquent behavior, in fact the evidence shows that quasi-military-like treatment programs for troubled youth don't prevent them committing more crime. What does work, however, may surprise you!

Sunken War Chests

By Steve Livingston on November 13, 2009 in Tinted Lenses
In democratic societies, wars require the support of the public. In this post, I discuss some of the media manipulations and judgment biases that foster such support even in the face of continued and demonstrable failure.
Telling Your Spouse You Want a Divorce

Telling Your Spouse You Want a Divorce

By Sam Margulies on November 12, 2009 in Divorce for Grownups
How you tell your spouse that you want a divorce can determine whether the divorce is relatively peaceful or litigious and destructive.

Our Capacity for Interruption or . . . How We Get Away with Daydreaming

By Amy Fries on November 12, 2009 in The Power of Daydreaming
At least the two Northwest Airlines pilots who flew 150 miles past their appointed runaway didn't claim "daydreaming" as a distraction. Instead, they asserted that they were caught up in doing business on their laptops.
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What Do Dreams Do for Us?

What Do Dreams Do for Us?

By Ilana Simons Ph.D. on November 11, 2009 in The Literary Mind
Freud said that whether we intend it or not, we're all poets. That's because on most nights, we dream.

Don't Worry, Be Happy! The Surprising Benefits of Optimism

By Susan Biali M.D. on November 11, 2009 in Prescriptions for Life
 Pessimists are much more likely to be depressed, struggle in their careers, have relationships fail, and are more likely to get sick.  So why on earth would you insist on being one? Luckily, you can learn to be optimistic and enjoy all the health and life benefits that come with a positive attitude.  This post from wellness expert Susan Biali, MD will help you brighten up your life, starting today.

Handwriting and Fine Motor Skills: New Insights into Autism

By Faith Brynie Ph.D. on November 11, 2009 in Brain Sense
 A new study reveals that children with autism may have trouble forming letters without demonstrating difficulties in other cognitive, social, or sensorimotor domains.

How to Make Yourself Happier.

By Gretchen Rubin on November 11, 2009 in The Happiness Project
My First Splendid Truth is: To be happier, you have to think about feeling good, feeling bad, and feeling right, in an atmosphere of growth. Although this sounds like a simple and rather obvious formula, it took me a huge amount of time and thinking to work it out. Even once I’d come up with it, however, I didn’t understand the true importance of the fourth element, the atmosphere of growth. But the more I think about the elements of a happy life, the more convinced I’ve become of its importance.