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The Therapist's Office

By Eva Ritvo M.D. on May 20, 2012 in On Vitality
What does our office say about us?

Gay Rights and Gays Wronged

First, North Carolina voters overwhelmingly approved a constitutional amendment prohibiting same-sex marriage. The next day, President Obama made history supporting the right of gay couples to say two simple words North Carolinians (and those in most other states) will not allow: "I do."

I Want to Like My Body...But How?

By Dara Chadwick on May 20, 2012 in You'd Be So Pretty If...
As I sat in the chair at the salon last week, chatting with my stylist as she cut my hair, we got to talking about our bodies and how they’re changing as we age.

Am I Asking Too Much of a Friend?

By Irene S Levine Ph.D. on May 20, 2012 in The Friendship Doctor
I've recently been coming to terms with some deeply buried grief, and also struggling with self-injury problems as well. My "best friend" of 19 years has hardly been there for me and only seems to come around when he needs me.

May: Psychopath Month

By Ronald Schouten M.D., J.D. on May 20, 2012 in Almost a Psychopath
April may be the cruelest month, but May 2012 appears to be psychopathy month.

Weigh to go Vogue

By Marcia Herrin Ed.D., M.P.H., on May 20, 2012 in Eating Disorders News
I join with Tyra Banks, supermodel and host of America’s Next Top Model, in applauding Vogue’s decision, but I don't think Vogue went far enough.

Poultry vs. Prada

By Amy Gutman on May 20, 2012 in Plan B Nation
As you may have heard — because, really, i won't shut up about it — I have a new purse it's made of rubber and looks pretty much exactly like a chicken. It cost $34.99 on

The Many Uses of Laughter

By Neel Burton M.D. on May 20, 2012 in Hide and Seek
Some of the uses of laughter are relaxation, pleasure, courting, bonding, problem solving, truth revealing, and above all, ego defence.
What's Wrong With a Little Lust in Your Life?

What's Wrong With a Little Lust in Your Life?

Lust can be as much a victory as a vice, as much part of comfortable love as of sizzling intimacy, if we learn how to do it right.
The Single Best Tip Before You Give Your Heart to Someone

The Single Best Tip Before You Give Your Heart to Someone

Years ago I was the creator of Recoupling Therapy where I helped divorced ex-spouses successfully get back together. It caught national attention and landed me on Today, Oprah and in the N.Y. Times and Los Angeles Times.

Who Cares About Wildlife?

By Susan Clayton Ph.D. on May 20, 2012 in On Being Green
Friday, May 18th, was Endangered Species Day, reminding us of the huge number of species that face extinction. Some scientists consider the loss of biodiversity to be a bigger environmental threat than climate change. Why should we care?

Envy as a Major Source of Anxiety and Discontent

Envy is a tool for self-empowerment---really!

Bilinguals in the United States

Bilinguals represent about 20 percent of the population in the United States. Who are they? Where do they live? What languages do they speak in addition to English?

Hell Yes: The 7 Best Reasons for Swearing

By Neel Burton M.D. on May 19, 2012 in Hide and Seek
Swearing may be frowned upon, but can have many unexpected benefits.

Soldiers, Jocks, and Victims of Domestic Violence: Brain Damage Comes to Our Attention

By Lynn E. O'Connor Ph.D. on May 19, 2012 in Our Empathic Nature
A few days ago a Scientific American blog post directed our attention to yet more information about the kind of debilitating brain trauma /brain damage that a single blast from a bomb can inflict upon our soldiers in active duty.

What Is Your "Relationship" with Alcohol?

The title of her book, Drinking: A Love Story, by Caroline Knapp, succinctly captured the essence of the late author's gradual descent into alcoholism. The end point of this tragic journey lies at the far right end of the drinking spectrum.

The Latest Information on BPD

The latest on BPD from the meetings of the American Psychiatric Association.

Pictures and Quotes About Our Furry Friends

An animal's eyes have the power to speak a great language. —Martin Buber

Dealing with Your "Inner Critic"

By Dennis Palumbo on May 19, 2012 in Hollywood on the Couch
Among the majority of my creative patients — TV and film writers, directors, actors, etc., a primary concern is the struggle against their “inner critic.” By that I mean the persistent, sometimes harsh and almost always shaming “voice” that belittles or invalidates their work.

The Complexity of ‘That's So Gay'

By Mark McCormack Ph.D. on May 19, 2012 in Men 2.0
Young straight men today insist 'that's so gay' isn't homophobic. Perhaps we should listen to them.

A Psychoanalytic Appreciation of Maurice Sendak

By Kristi Pikiewicz Ph.D. on May 19, 2012 in Meaningful You
Before the publication of “Where the Wild Things Are” in 1963, children’s literature was comprised largely of folk tales, fairy tales and near-Victorian tales of good little children whose job was to please their elders – or else. These stories were morality tales meant to teach children the lessons of how to behave in an adult world.

How to Live Your Life Like an Olympian

Sports are a great metaphor for life. Learning to live like an Olympian is easier than you think.

What’s the ONE Big Secret to Self-Control?

By Douglas T. Kenrick Ph.D. on May 18, 2012 in Sex, Murder, and the Meaning of Life
There’s a mind-numbingly large body of literature on will-power, enough to make you so exhausted you’ll want to eat an extra couple of brownies, or drink an extra couple of glasses of beer. But there’s one very simple trick that side-steps most of the obstacles.

My Son Was Rejected

My 17-year-old son came home yesterday with a rather interesting story and I'm trying to put some thoughts together on what the best course of action is for him. He was chatting up a girl he is interested in and all was going well until he decided to pay her a "compliment" by telling her that she had "awesome curves".

Fostering the Skills Critical to Success

By Steve Baskin on May 18, 2012 in S'mores and More
Young adults lack many skills that are critical to success in the 21st century. Ironically, perhaps the best place to learn these modern skills is at one of the last tech-free environments: summer camp.

You're Wonderful! You're Terrible!

This is always an interesting time of year, when one studies human behavior and is a college professor. The ratings come in from the students to tell us what they think of our teaching.

The Lost Art of Listening

By Jeanne Christie Ed.D., Ph.D. on May 18, 2012 in What's Your Script?