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Readers Drive Learning: Important Thoughts About Intentions and Choice

By Timothy A Pychyl Ph.D. on March 16, 2009 in Don't Delay
Readers' replies to "Zen, choice and procrastination" were insightful and stimulated further writing and learning on my part. Here are some important distinctions about changing our intentions or failing to act on them.

Alive Sexuality

Sex is one of the strongest motivating forces in life. It has the potential for creating intense pleasure and fulfillment or for causing considerable pain and suffering. The effect of a natural expression of sexuality on one's sense of well-being and overall enjoyment of life cannot be over-emphasized.

Why LinkedIn Works

The incredible rise in popularity of and other social networking sites represents a fundamental shift in how we are dealing with slowing economic prospects: we hunt for people, not jobs.  Network theory explains why that works a lot better.

Second-hand Procrastination: How Your Procrastination May Harm Others

By Timothy A Pychyl Ph.D. on March 15, 2009 in Don't Delay
That's right, second-hand procrastination . . . when procrastinators finish their binge of work, social devastation lays all about.

The Addictive Personality

By Stephen Mason Ph.D. on March 14, 2009 in Look At It This Way

Zen Moment: Social Media isn't a "thing," it's a state of being

It’s okay if you nod knowingly when people talk about social media but haven’t got a clue what it really is. I’ll let you in on a secret: No one does. That’s because it isn’t a “thing.” It’s a way of life. As much as you may not want to hear this, it’s also something that’s here to stay. The only choice is to exhale and get with the program.

East Meets West: Zen, Choice and Procrastination

By Timothy A Pychyl Ph.D. on March 13, 2009 in Don't Delay
I've been struck by the response to my posting about failing to follow an intention, like the story of sleeping instead of getting out for the early-morning run. Readers have said that I have it wrong. I see it differently. It's not about choice.

Older Fathers Take Note: A Reply to Paul Raeburn

By Timothy A Pychyl Ph.D. on March 12, 2009 in Don't Delay
As an older dad, Paul Raeburn's most recent blog, "More bad news on the risks faced by the children of older fathers" caught my interest. 

The laziness myth

By Jenna Baddeley on March 12, 2009 in Embracing the Dark Side

Return to Aristotle: Virtue, Self-Control and Even Some Greek Vocabulary

By Timothy A Pychyl Ph.D. on March 12, 2009 in Don't Delay
"So too we become just by doing just acts, temperate by doing temperate acts, brave by doing brave acts." Peter Ubel quotes Aristotle in the final paragraphs of his book, Free Market Madness, with an appeal that we "Return to Aristotle."

Do You Look Fat in This?

By Anneli Rufus on March 11, 2009 in Stuck
 As a child, I used to watch grown-up ladies writhe in envy of skinny supermodel Twiggy. I watched the same grown-up ladies chuckling with delight over the self-deprecating antics of plus-size comedienne Totie Fields. In those days, Totie and Twiggy exemplified how the media turned famous females into fat-and-skinny caricatures: Size was the main feature of their fame, and the media played it so relentlessly that hundreds of millions of females felt hideous and ludicrous. That was ages ago. Yet virtually nothing has changed. The media still obsesses over the size of famous females, only now it does so behind a vaguely feminist false mask of concern. 

Confidence in Children

By Maureen D Healy on March 11, 2009 in Creative Development
Are you raising confident children?

Plants Make You Feel Better

By Jonathan S. Kaplan Ph.D. on March 11, 2009 in Urban Mindfulness
Stressed at work or school?  Recent research has suggested that houseplants can lighten our mood and improve productivity.

How To Apologize to a Woman

By Sam Margulies on March 11, 2009 in Divorce for Grownups
Most men don’t know how to apologize. In intimate relationships an effective apology can quickly heal an inadvertent injury. Similarly, an ineffective apology or the complete failure of an apology can cause an inadvertent injury to be experienced as a major wound to the relationship.

Closing the Intention-Action Gap

By Timothy A Pychyl Ph.D. on March 11, 2009 in Don't Delay
An employee intends to get to work on time, but rarely does. A friend says he'll pick you up to take you to the airport the next morning, but fails to show up. You tell yourself that you'll begin exercising tomorrow morning, but tomorrow comes and goes without exercise. What do you think of each of these brief scenarios? What makes them similar yet different?

Five Reasons A Smart Young Woman Adores TWILIGHT (Part 2 of 3)

Edward. It would be impossible to discuss the obsession with Twilight without addressing the pivotal character of Edward. The obvious explanation for the obsession as that all these girls are in love with this boy--myself included. Why? Besides the danger aspect (bloodsucking, death, eternal condemnation, and so forth), the best reason I can come up with after many months of thinking about this is that he exists solely for the needs and desires of Bella (i.e. the reader). He is rarely preoccupied with his own problems, which you'd think, as he's a vampire, would be plentiful, and devotes himself entirely to her-exhibit A, he stays with her every night. Oh, and he loves her unconditionally.

A New Beginning

By Phyllis R. Silverman Ph.D. on March 10, 2009 in Raising Grieving Children

Chaos and Your Career: Sunny Days or Storm Warnings Ahead?

If you stop and think about it career planning is a lot like weather prediction.

Dog Has Always Been Man’s (And Woman’s) Best Friend

By Harris B Stratyner Ph.D., CASAC on March 10, 2009 in

Finding Bliss: Expecting Blisters or Baconnaise?

By Allison Aboud Holzer M.A.T., M.F.A., on March 10, 2009 in
On a recent Daily Show episode, John Stewart responded to President Obama's statement that "this is America: we don't do what's easy, we do what's necessary" by holding up a jar of Baconnaise. Stewart sarcastically retorted that Americans LOVE doing what's easy; so much that products exist like Baconnaise - for people who love bacon but don't actually want to exert the effort of cooking it! With the "happiness industry" rapidly on the rise, and the science of happiness rushing to keep up, do we expect that bliss-products and gurus will provide happiness to us with the same kind of ease? If so, I think we need to check our expectations.

Doing Dumb Stuff

By Stephen Mason Ph.D. on March 10, 2009 in Look At It This Way

Feelings Trump Reasons: Irrationality and Procrastination

By Timothy A Pychyl Ph.D. on March 10, 2009 in Don't Delay
The alarm goes off at 5 a.m. Why? Because you set it last night with the intention of an early-morning run. Instead, you shut off the alarm, choosing the pleasures of sleep over the benefits of exercise. Peter Ubel writes, "No one could call this choice irrational." Not so. I can, and it's an irrationality that we know as procrastination.

The Kiddy Shield

By Stephen Mason Ph.D. on March 09, 2009 in Look At It This Way

NY Mayor Michael Bloomberg: No Food for Singles

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on March 09, 2009 in Living Single
The economic stimulus package would allow poor and out-of-work singles to continue to have access to food stamps while they are actively looking for work. New York Mayor Michael Bloomberg refuses to accept the money. The Mayor doesn't have to find the money; he is getting the money. That money will create even more money. The food stamps will go to eligible singles who want to work and are trying to find work. Those singles aren't going to get Bernie Madoff-like penthouse accommodations. They are going to get to eat, just barely enough.

Why Kids Procrastinate

By Timothy A Pychyl Ph.D. on March 09, 2009 in Don't Delay
What do we know about parenting and procrastination? 

Why Do Smart Teens Love Twilight? Part I

I love vampires (witness the fact that I teach Bram Stoker whenever possible, am devoted to HBO's TRUE BLOOD, and once wrote a play titled "Dracula's Wives" which-any Jung fans here?-was produced in Brooklyn about three blocks from where Rebecca goes to school) and of course I am a cheap date for all thoroughly readable books.What happened? I loathed TWILIGHT.