Sometimes with couples I feel like the surgeon in the operating room, who, upon seeing the spread of the tumor, closes the patient back up and sheds a silent tear. The patient had waited too long to seek treatment...
When parents teach their kids to say "yes" to the presence of anger and "no" to the expression of anger through aggressive or passive aggressive behaviors, they build a foundation for lifelong emotional intelligence and strong relationships.
Imagine walking into a restaurant and asking for a Babe, lettuce, and tomato sandwich on toast. I'm sure the incredulous waitperson would ask "You want a what?" Millions of intelligent and highly emotional pigs are brutally slaughtered for unneeded meals. Imagine if these pigs were dogs. No one has to eat a pig and it's easy to stop.
I just came a cross a blog by sexpert, Dr. Laura Berman where she was writing about older people and sex. It is no longer unusual to see people in their 50's, 60's, 70's, 80's and beyond being portrayed as sexy or sexually active in the media.
When an immigration officer denied me permanent residency I spent countless sleepless nights worrying about my future before his decision was overturned. When institutions refuse explanations for their decisions, our trust in the world alters. Our bodies change. We find ourselves overpowered by generalized anxiety that does not let us rest...or worse.
If you're seeking employment in the academic and nonacademic worlds you will likely need a CV and a resume. Make sure both documents answer the question: have I made my top three relevant skills/strengths clear to the reader?
Martin Scorsese was most interested in George Harrison's "intellectual spirituality," his "search for meaning, a search for the part of being human that seems to yearn for something that is more than the physical world. He ultimately may have found a way to live with himself, to a certain extent, to deal with the end of his life. That’s inspiring.”
In previous posts I've detailed the problems that the self-loathing encounter in relationships, as well as the struggles their partners face. While I tried to give some advice to their partners, I have never dedicated a post to trying to help the self-loathers themselves until now. What can such a person do to sustain a healthy relationship?
Many years ago, early in my clinical training, a couple brought their 7-year-old daughter to see me. The parents were perplexed. The girl, whom I'll call Emily, was rambunctious at home, but would never utter a word anywhere else.
Use alone time to get to know yourself just a little bit better and cultivate a happy attitude. The next time someone bumps into you and spills coffee, look up, smile, and be grateful for the encounter. He could turn out to be the love of your life.