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Mindful Eating: The French Paradox

By Jan Chozen Bays M.D. on March 21, 2009 in Mindful Eating

How Distant Would You Like Me To Be, Darling?

It is commonly claimed that the closer two people are to each other, the greater their intimacy and love will be. It seems, however, that some distance is also required in order for love to flourish. While many married couples are busy thinking how to reduce the distance between them, others would like to enlarge it. 

Should we re-think positive thinking?

By Joanne V Wood Ph.D. on March 20, 2009 in Regarding Self-Regard
Everyone knows that to be successful and happy, we should say favorable things to ourselves, such as "I can do it!" and "I'm a good person." But are positive self-statements actually beneficial? 

On the Shoulders of Giants

By Meg Daley Olmert on March 20, 2009 in Made For Each Other
As huge blocks of western culture calve away, The New York Times is waxing nostalgic  for another time of great change in an editorial on horse domestication. At first it may seem downright odd, but their curiosity about the mysterious "something" that allowed humans and horses to merge zeroes in on the only way to survive a changing global climate-cooperation.

They're Just Not That Into Sex

By Anneli Rufus on March 20, 2009 in Stuck
Over the last few decades, many in-groups and identities have emerged and flourished whose key qualifier is sex. Gay. Straight. Bi. Trans. Metrosexual. Butch. Femme. Boi. Top. Bottom. Questioning. Genderqueer. Polyamorous. Intersex. Of course our sexual orientations and choices would define us: We live in an intensely sexualized society. Now another sexual identity is entering the limelight. Yes, it's at the extreme end of the sexual spectrum, but it's not about wanting or having more (or more transgressive) sex. It's about not wanting or having sex at all. Meet the asexuals.

A Lack of Taste

By Stephen Mason Ph.D. on March 20, 2009 in Look At It This Way

Biased Planning and Procrastination

By Timothy A Pychyl Ph.D. on March 20, 2009 in Don't Delay
Successful pursuit of our goals begins with goal setting. The thing is, we're overly optimistic, often setting unrealistic time estimates for goal completion. One form of this optimism is known as the "planning fallacy."

Only serial killers deserve to eat lobster

By Todd B. Kashdan Ph.D. on March 19, 2009 in Curious?
There is nothing more revolting than eating lobster.  And I am not referring to the weird situation of taking a living creature and boiling it alive for our gustatory amusement. Read on and you'll see what I mean...

Fragrant Attraction

By Rachel Herz Ph.D. on March 19, 2009 in Smell Life
Are you searching for sex in a bottle? Do liquid aphrodisiacs exist? What is the power of fragrance for sexual attraction? Come and find out...

Identify "The Gaslight Effect" and Take Back Your Reality !

By Robin Stern Ph.D. on March 19, 2009 in Power in Relationships
How can you identify someone's destructive behavior?

A Procrastinating Student Defends her Position (and My Reply)

By Timothy A Pychyl Ph.D. on March 19, 2009 in Don't Delay
Andrea Millet wrote a piece that was published in the cordweekly.com yesterday. In it, she defends the last-minute efforts of the procrastinator. She writes, "Procrastination can be a helpful tool - it's not a fault but instead a skill, a carefully perfected strategy for motivation and focus." The problem is, she couldn't be more wrong.

The Bogus War on Drugs

By Stephen Mason Ph.D. on March 18, 2009 in Look At It This Way

Clarice Meets Hannibal

By Marisa Mauro Psy.D. on March 18, 2009 in Take All Prisoners

Parents as Propagandists (Part Two)

By Steve Livingston on March 18, 2009 in Tinted Lenses
Many observers have readily accepted cyclical models of family violence, substance abuse, and crime, to the point where appeals to "break the cycle" accompany much public information on these issues. It therefore seems odd that we should be relatively squeamish about exploring generational cycles of development and transmission of prejudice.

Eat Chocolate!

By Susan McQuillan M.S., RDN on March 18, 2009 in Cravings
An ounce a day really could keep the doctor away. Come on over to the dark side.It's true! Chocolate really is good for you. Some people have always known that; others still need to be convinced. But evidence continues to pile up in favor of enjoying a little of the dark stuff every day. 

A Panda's Lessons About Goal Setting

By Timothy A Pychyl Ph.D. on March 18, 2009 in Don't Delay
Master Shifu to Po, "You actually thought you could learn to do a full split in one night? It takes years to develop one's flexibility, and years longer to apply it in combat." Goal setting - without realistic goals, we're set up for failure before we start.

Spring into Mindfulness

By Jonathan S. Kaplan Ph.D. on March 17, 2009 in Urban Mindfulness
Seasonal changes can facilitate mindfulness. As the weather changes, so does our perspective. Springtime, in particular, is a wonderful time to become more aware of the growth and life that surrounds us.
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Striking a Balance Between Ivy League or Bust

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on March 16, 2009 in Singletons
From babyhood to teen years many Chinese parents use "unconventional techniques to turn out an Ivy-caliber child." How far should you go?

Sleep and the ADHD Student

By Frank Lawlis Ph.D. on March 16, 2009 in Redefining Stress

Psychological Characteristics Owners of AggressiveDog Breeds

Owners of high risk for aggression dogs admit to more criminal activity and are more likely to engage in sensation seeking and high risk behaviors.

Readers Drive Learning: Important Thoughts About Intentions and Choice

By Timothy A Pychyl Ph.D. on March 16, 2009 in Don't Delay
Readers' replies to "Zen, choice and procrastination" were insightful and stimulated further writing and learning on my part. Here are some important distinctions about changing our intentions or failing to act on them.

Alive Sexuality

By Robert Firestone Ph.D. on March 16, 2009 in The Human Experience
Sex is one of the strongest motivating forces in life. It has the potential for creating intense pleasure and fulfillment or for causing considerable pain and suffering. The effect of a natural expression of sexuality on one's sense of well-being and overall enjoyment of life cannot be over-emphasized.

Why LinkedIn Works

The incredible rise in popularity of LinkedIn.com and other social networking sites represents a fundamental shift in how we are dealing with slowing economic prospects: we hunt for people, not jobs.  Network theory explains why that works a lot better.