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Self-Loathing and Relationships: Believe in Others Who Believe in You

In previous posts I've detailed the problems that the self-loathing encounter in relationships, as well as the struggles their partners face. While I tried to give some advice to their partners, I have never dedicated a post to trying to help the self-loathers themselves until now. What can such a person do to sustain a healthy relationship?

Scared Speechless: Children with Selective Mutism

By Greg Markway Ph.D., on October 09, 2011 in Shyness Is Nice
Many years ago, early in my clinical training, a couple brought their 7-year-old daughter to see me. The parents were perplexed. The girl, whom I'll call Emily, was rambunctious at home, but would never utter a word anywhere else.

Is the Technology Revolution Passing You By? A Look Behind the Numbers

By Tristan Gorrindo M.D. on October 09, 2011 in The Digital Family
Find it hard to believe the average person is really sending 1200 text messages a month?

She's Just Too Needy

By Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on October 09, 2011 in Love Doc
If you're are the taciturn, strong, silent type, she's likely to feel unfulfilled by you.

The Love Myth and the Monster Called 'Alone'

By Rita Watson MPH on October 08, 2011 in With Love and Gratitude
Use alone time to get to know yourself just a little bit better and cultivate a happy attitude. The next time someone bumps into you and spills coffee, look up, smile, and be grateful for the encounter. He could turn out to be the love of your life.

What You Miss by Doing What Everyone Else Does

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on October 08, 2011 in Living Single
Following the conventional life path can be comfortable, but are you missing out on creating the life that works best for you?

When Neutrality Hurts: The Sexual Orientation Curriculum Policy in Minnesota

An educational curriculum policy in the suburban Anoka-Hennepin School District north of Minneapolis has spurred controversy and discussion about how sexual orientation issues should be discussed in schools.

How Steve Jobs Helped the Healing Arts to Think Different

Those of you who know me know I am a Mac and not a PC. The death of Steve Jobs reminds me about not only the impression his life's work made on me, but also on the evolution of the arts therapies during the digital age.

Hard Work Beats Talent (but Only If Talent Doesn’t Work Hard

In a world where we are ridiculously overcommitted to making sure everyone is equal in every way, a new study just published in Psychological Science contains some sobering news you might not like. It kills the myth that talent doesn't matter.

The Smartphone Marketplace and Reason-Based Choice

Because of a psychological quirk called reason-based choice, we would rather avoid a choice altogether than get it wrong. This gives Apple's iPhone a hidden advantage in the smartphone marketplace.

6 Reasons It's Good When Grown-Ups Get Married

You're doing this on purpose; you're not getting married because you can't find a decent place studio apartment or because you found a great white dress on sale. You're not getting married because you think it will absolve you from the necessity of forging your own existence.

Visitation Dreams

By Patrick McNamara Ph.D. on October 08, 2011 in Dream Catcher
If I, an individual who studied dreams with a skeptical scientific cast of mind, could not shake the conviction that I had just communicated with my dead parents, how much stronger must be the conviction of someone with a less skeptical approach to dreams than me?

Jobs or Good Jobs?

By Ken Eisold Ph.D. on October 08, 2011 in Hidden Motives
Focusing on the unemployment crisis alone can cause us to ignore the quality of the jobs we need to create.

Change, for Better or for Worse

By Arthur Dobrin D.S.W. on October 08, 2011 in Am I Right?
The inevitability of change places the burden of choice upon us.

10 Failsafe Test-Taking Tips

Whether you're a test-taker, a parent helping a child with homework, or an academic tutor, you can benefit from these 10 simple strategies. You won't need to rely on luck to ace your way through life. A little psychology can go a long way toward maximizing your performance on any kind of test.

My Sister is Being Controlled by a Possessive Friend

I have three sisters and we are all close. We've never had problems with each other's friends. My younger sister, who is 25, has a possessive, controlling friend who is also her business partner.

The Secret Life of a Psychologist

By Shawn T. Smith Psy.D. on October 07, 2011 in Ironshrink
Jobs can require us to live double lives and be the keepers of secrets. That’s why the best attorneys, psychologists, and escorts make the most boring dinner guests.

He Was So Nice. Could He Be a Killer?

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on October 07, 2011 in Creating in Flow
Keeping secrets can be fun, even exciting. But not when you find out you're the one who's been fooled. It's a shock to learn that you were just as gullible as many hundreds of others.

A Wrong Answer is a Creative Answer

One of the biggest barriers to creativity is this notion of the "right" answer. We spend our lives being taught to look for and respond with a predetermined answer some other person discovered or delineated, so of course when we want to come up with something original, we're stymied. Find out how to get unstuck!

Music as a Healing Instrument and Barometer

By Julie K Hersh on October 07, 2011 in Struck By Living
Can music tell us something about another person's emotional state?

Gender Creative & Transgender Kids in Schools: What's the Big Deal?

With Chaz Bono's public transition recent media attention to transgender issues has been heightened, but what are the impacts on families who have gender creative and transgender youth? What can be done to make schools more inclusive spaces for these kids?

Does Facebook Increase Jealousy?

Does Facebook cause jealousy, or is jealousy already built in to a relationship?

The Impossibility Zone

By Matthew Shanahan M.Sc. on October 07, 2011 in Living It
Do you get placed under demands greater than your resources can meet? Or do you, conversely, place others in an 'impossibility zone'?

Five Minutes of Mindfulness Magic

I once read that the most common movie line is, “Let’s get outta here.” Here's an alternative: Be here now!