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Can You Make Yourself Smarter? Only if You Try

By Timothy A Pychyl Ph.D. on April 19, 2012 in Don't Delay
An article in the New York Times summarizes some compelling evidence that we can improve short-term memory that in turn improves fluid intelligence. Yet, as the author writes, “. . . cognitive exercises may prove to be up against something even more resistant to training than fluid intelligence: human nature.”

Social Comparison: Taming the Beast

Our social radar is inherited from earlier mammals. Animals compare themselves to others because it promotes their survival. Social comparisons trigger threatened feelings that are easier to manage when you know they're a blast from the past.

I Can't Stop Thinking About My Husband With his Ex-Wife

What to do when you fell like the second-hand wife.

Five Ways to Not Raise Bullies and Mean Girls

Quentin, 3-and-a-half, was happily darting around the playground, like usual, when out of nowhere another little boy ran right up and kicked him in the shins. Quentin looked stunned, like he couldn't believe what had just happened. But he didn't kick back.

Natural Options for Insomnia

Picture this: you’ve had a long day at work. You come home and climb into bed, exhausted, longing to to sleep. But the hours tick by and still your eyes are open, you’re tossing and turning. Or maybe you doze off, only to wake up tossing and turning at 3 AM. If this sounds familiar, you may have something that affects millions of people worldwide—insomnia.

Leadership, Empowerment, and Interdependence

For some years now, I've been learning through ongoing experimentation what collaborative leadership means. It's not been easy, because our either/or lens on reality renders the space between coercive leadership and no leadership elusive, almost invisible.

Emotional and Physical Pain Activate Similar Brain Regions

By Alan Fogel on April 19, 2012 in Body Sense
In order to get over grief, resolve anger, and even embrace happiness, we have to really feel those things in the body. We are quick to access the body locations of pleasurable feelings (food, drink, sex, warmth, touch) so why not also let ourselves go to the places of emotional pain?

For a Better Marriage, Find Some Couple-Friends

By Pamela Haag Ph.D. on April 19, 2012 in Marriage 3.0
Do you and your partner have “couple friends” — other couples that you socialize with as a couple? Have you thought about their role in your marriage? It may be more important than you think.

How to Respond to Emotional Outbursts

By Peter Bregman on April 19, 2012 in How We Work
Uncovering the real issue happens when people feel safe enough to be vulnerable.

To Be and Not to Be

By Robert J Landy Ph.D. on April 19, 2012 in Couch and Stage
When I tell people that I am a drama therapist, they often ask: “It that therapy for actors?” “Could be,” I say, “but trained actors can be difficult clients.”

Career Success Starts With a "T"

T-shaped professionals possess skills and knowledge that are both broad and deep. Developing and promoting your T-shape abilities may be the ticket to your career success.

Imagining Other People's Choices Clarifies Your Own

By Ilan Shrira on April 19, 2012 in The Narcissus in All of Us
Many of our decisions are tied to how we view ourselves and how other people see us. We know that getting a tattoo, buying an SUV, becoming a vegetarian, dating on-line, moving to New York City, and getting back together with a spouse who was unfaithful, are all behaviors loaded with personal and social meaning.

The Value of Goals

Life is about goals: lose weight, run faster, graduate, get married, have 2.5 children, move to a new house, and get promoted. As achieving goals is often just beyond our grasp we search for answers. Don't look for get rich quick schemes. Achieving goals takes effort.

Bullying Intervention Programs: Where Have We Gone Wrong?

A school in Canada addressed bullying by essentially assigning a 'bodyguard' to a student. This is emblematic of how many schools make mistakes in their reponse programs. This post presents 5 common mistakes and suggestions for how to avoid them.

Why Mindless Eating May Be Healthier Than You Think

By Zanthe Taylor M.F.A. on April 19, 2012 in A Million Meals
While I take issue both with Dara-Lynn Weiss's actions and her projecting her own body issues onto her young daughter, it's indisputable that her anxiety over having a chubby child is one shared by many, many parents.

What's Your Ten-Point Manifesto?

By Gretchen Rubin on April 19, 2012 in The Happiness Project
I love a good manifesto. I love Bob Sutton's manifesto about work, and Madame X's manifesto about money, and Frank Lloyd Wright's manifesto for his apprentices.

A New Breed of Green Careers in Health

By Richard Louv on April 19, 2012 in People in Nature
On Monday, April 16, the first-ever White House Summit on Environmental Education was held in Washington. This summit came at a precarious moment for environmental education and an economy that depends more than ever on environmental literacy—and, I would add, ecopsychological health.

Self-Control Is More Than Strength and Brute Resistance

By Timothy A Pychyl Ph.D. on April 19, 2012 in Don't Delay
So often, self-control is portrayed along only one dimension—willpower strength. Willpower may be like a muscle, but self-control involves skill too. Here's a new book that speaks to our weakness of will.

When a Boss Pulls the Plug on a Friendship

I was recently dumped by one of my closest friends, whom I loved dearly. I am devastated, sad, hurt and disappointed. But I have an extra big problem: my ex-friend is my boss.

Is Chocolate Healthy?

Is chocolate the health food of the future—or is that another mirage?

Hoarding and Posterity

Sometimes it's an archive; sometimes it's hoarding.
The Philosophy of Friendship, Part 2

The Philosophy of Friendship, Part 2

By Neel Burton M.D. on April 19, 2012 in Hide and Seek
True friends seek together to live truer, fuller lives by relating to each other authentically and by teaching each other about the limitations of their beliefs and the defects in their character, which are a far greater source of error than mere rational confusion.

Does Playing Hard to Get Make You Fall in Love?

Do you love or lust after someone more when you can't have them? Does their indecision and disinterest just make you want them more? Read on to understand why...

"Brainy" Is What "Brainy" Does

In his recent article "How Brainy Is Your Major", my good friend Jonathan Wai defines "brainy" and "smart" as doing well on a standardized test. I beg to differ.

6 Reasons Gift-Giving Men Are Good Lovers

Why is it that some people receive joy in buying a gift for lovers, friends and family, while others find no pleasure in giving? Gift givers are better lovers because of their expansive energy and emotions.

Why the Real World Is Better for Kids Than an iPad

Will eReaders and iPads really do more for our babies than banging on pots and messing around in the mud? Insight from a middle schooler's roller coaster project.

Barrett's Banalogies

By Joachim I Krueger Ph.D. on April 18, 2012 in One Among Many
God cleverly continues to refuse being cast as a testable hypothesis. When scientists try to use their craft to prop of belief, the results are amusing.