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Where's the Line Between Acceptance and Narcissism?

A commenter to an earlier post about loving yourself asks important questions: "Where does one draw a line between acceptance and narcissism? How does one begin to accept themselves when doing so feels wrong and narcissistic?” In my latest post, I try to offer an answer.

Why I Exercise

Why do I exercise? Hint: It's not for weight loss.
When You Ask a Child to Sing ….

When You Ask a Child to Sing ….

Researchers in Canada and Japan asked preschoolers (4 and 5 year olds) to create a song.Their results reveal some interesting differences about children’s education and about cultural expectations and differences.

He is Verbally Abusing Me: Why Me?

A victim of verbal abuse may manage to get out of an abusive relationship and feel relieved, but then meet someone new who is also an abuser. Or she might manage to get out of a relationship but then realize that her colleagues or friends are verbally abusing her too.

Should You Have Cosmetic Surgery?

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on March 29, 2015 in How To Do Life
A debate on whether to have cosmetic surgery.

No Substitute for “Real” Relationships

Studies confirm that things, money, material riches are not the solution to human longing. Despite unprecedented affluence, health care, and technological advances, few--even among the best off elites--claim to be truly satisfied. What really matters requires riches of the heart, riches of the spirit.

Thousands of Cormorants to be Killed: There Will be Blood

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on March 28, 2015 in Animal Emotions
The U.S. Army Corps of Engineers plans to perform a heinous experiment that includes killing 11,000 cormorants and destroying 26,000 nests to save salmon despite experts arguing that killing the cormorants is wrong and won't work. Conservation has a bloody history and there simply is no reason to continue these killing ways.

What do Children Think about Love?

A group of over thirty preschoolers and kindergarteners were asked what they thought of the word “love.” While younger children were primarily focused on an external conceptual line of thinking, the older children had moved to one that was more internally based.

Middle Age Job Seekers need to get Social to Succeed

By Dwain Schenck on March 28, 2015 in Reset
Many middle age and older workers are taking little comfort these days in the lower national employment rate. Many of those who lost their jobs for one reason or another three to four years ago are still struggling to land even steady part time employment. The “oh boy” moment of how adversely unemployment was affecting me hit in the summer of 2012.

Shaming Women: Sex, Toys, and Cosmetic Surgery

Stigmatizing women continues. But let us be grateful to women's advocates -- those who expose the finger pointers.

From “wow” to “meh” – 8 ways to deal with any letdown

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on March 28, 2015 in Off the Couch
Has this happened to you? You love everything about your new job – your terrific boss, your fabulous co-workers and your first assignment. Even your little cubicle is in the perfect location, with a bit of sunlight from a nearby window and near all of the right people. And then, sometimes all of a sudden, sometimes just bit-by-bit, you start to feel less excited.

You're Okay . . . That's All You Need to Remember

The desire and expectations you have for your own personal growth should be tempered by the acknowledgement that you are okay and that you, alone, know yourself best.

Has Personal Technology Killed the Magic of Travel?

Travel used to take us out of the comfort and routine of our habits, put our sense of self in flux, and liberate us from our idea of who we are. Travel held the capacity to make us feel and experience ourselves differently.

Are We Losing Our Need for Physical Touch?

By Ray Williams on March 28, 2015 in Wired for Success
Has our hi-tech, media-socialized world lost something critical to our species—non-sexual human physical touch? Hasn't human physical contact set us apart from other animals, and has helped us develop complex language, culture, thinking and emotional expression?
The Discipline of Marriage: Advice from Long Relationships

The Discipline of Marriage: Advice from Long Relationships

By Karl Pillemer Ph.D. on March 28, 2015 in Lessons for Loving
Despite dire media reports, most young people want to get married - and stay married for life. A study of long-married elders offers advice on the role of commitment throughout a long relationship.

Do Your Habits Control the Meaning of Your Life?

To change the meaning of our lives, we must change our habits.

Some Clarification For Angelina Jolie Pitt's Followers

By Karolyn A. Gazella on March 28, 2015 in The Healing Factor
Angelina Jolie Pitt should be applauded for talking about her very difficult decision; however, did she miss a valuable opportunity to clarify some issues and talk more about proactive prevention that does not include surgeries?
Danger to Self and Others

Danger to Self and Others

By Katherine Ramsland Ph.D. on March 28, 2015 in Shadow Boxing
The recent airline disaster involving a co-pilot crashing a plane highlights the need to rethink risk evaluations for suicide.

How to Apply Spring Cleaning to Your Body, Mind and Soul

By Gregg McBride on March 28, 2015 in The Weight-ing Game
What are you sitting on, keeping in your home or potentially hoarding on your shelves that might be holding you back mentally? Anything you need to get rid of? Any de-cluttering you need encouragement on? You might be surprised to learn that your mind is in need of spring cleaning even more than your living space is.

The Best Way to Get Love is to Show Love

Without realizing it, you communicate our emotions to others through our behavior as well as our words. In the best of all possible worlds, you would communicate only the positive, and not the negative emotions to those in your social world. By communicating "micro-affections," you and your relationships will benefit.

Birth Your Way

By Sharon Praissman on March 28, 2015 in Beyond the Egg Timer
Women over 35 are more susceptible to birth interventions. However, training for labor, finding providers who meet your needs, and good fortune can lead to a happy birth experience.

Contrarian Advice on Succeeding in Your Career

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on March 28, 2015 in How To Do Life
For those with doubts about the effectiveness of conventional career advice.

Could Your Therapist Help You Solve This?

By Donna Barstow on March 28, 2015 in Ink Blots Cartoons
Don't be afraid to ask your therapist the hard questions, even when they're personal, passionate, and somewhat embarrassing.

Why Do We Kiss?

By Neel Burton M.D. on March 28, 2015 in Hide and Seek
Kissing is not universal among human beings, and, even today, there are some cultures from which it is completely absent.

How Movies Fool Your Brain

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on March 27, 2015 in Creating in Flow
At our house, when we watch a movie that’s nothing more than an engaging time-waster, we think of it as brain-dead-movie time. But brains are most certainly not “dead” when watching a movie.

Changing the ‘No Casserole’ Response to Mental Illness

A mother of two who is active in the International Bipolar Foundation shared a story the other day. When her youngest daughter was diagnosed with diabetes, friends called, sent cards and flowers, brought food, and posted encouraging Facebook messages.

Detox From Negative News In The Media

By Marlynn Wei M.D., J.D. on March 27, 2015 in Urban Survival
Feeling weighed down by all the negative news in the media? Here's how to detox from the influx of negative events and news in the media.

Your Childhood And Your Child

The process of making connections between the past and the present is very important to family relationships.

Tweeting As Therapy

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on March 27, 2015 in Ambigamy
A lot of therapy focuses on "what's wrong with you?" but eventually graduates to what's up with us?," an embrace of the human condition in all its details. One way to play with "what's up with us?" is to take notes like a social scientist. Observe, reflect, jot share.