Being at Peace With the Pain of Others

Being at peace with others' pain will helps us be supportive of their pain.

Relationships Cause Conduct Disorder, Not "Bad Seeds"

No genes or group of genes dictate specific behaviors

Steve Albini Shows That Punk Rock Ethics Are Good Business

Record Engineer and Musician Shows Truly "Alternative" Path in Business

Is Coding Camp a Good Thing? Answer: Not to Me

Should kids be spending their summers in front of a screen?

Who Will Clip Your Toenails When You Cannot?

How family connections can affect the littlest things as we age

The Magical Healing Power of Caring & Hope in Psychotherapy

Focus on the relationship, not the technique.

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“That Thing is Huge!”

“That Thing is Huge!”

By Deborah Carr Ph.D. on July 08, 2015 in Bouncing Back
The surprising ways we're hurting our friends and family who struggle with their weight.

Musings on a Pin Head

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on July 08, 2015 in How To Do Life
The case for a pin head being a miracle. If that's so, Planet Earth is a ...

Crusting Over

If you are like most people, you were much more vulnerable and open when you started experiencing intimate relationships than you are now. Before the disappointments and heartbreaks that you’ve most likely faced, you were more willing to enter your partner’s internal world with reverence and unbounded curiosity, and opened your heart and soul to that lover.

In Search of Consummation

Five hundred years ago, communities recreated themselves in moment sof privileged festivity. Now, we are encouraged to travel and shop afar for experiences, and to share these publicly as proof of who we have become. The best part of life ... is to the getaway, the period of glorious self-indulgence. How long before we plot our next excurision?
Can You Create Lasting Change?

Can You Create Lasting Change?

When it comes to creating the changes you really want to make in your work or in you life, do ever find you have difficulty making this last?

A Few Confederate Flags Down, But Many Trappings Remain

By Robert Klitzman M.D. on July 07, 2015 in Am I My Genes?
Symbols of the Confederacy -- not only flags, but uniforms, and portraits of Robert E. Lee and other leaders -- persist in the South as potent symbols. Removing flags from state offices is important, but these other symbols, and the pervasive psychological attitudes they represent and reinforce, need to be eliminated as well.
Depression: Here's One Forgotten Approach

Depression: Here's One Forgotten Approach

The use of character strengths is not a cure for depression. It is an important adjunct. In fact, it's an often forgotten aspect of depression therapies. This is surprising because it couldn't be easier for people with depression or their therapists to integrate strengths into treatment. Here's how...

5 Ways to Protect Yourself from a Leading Cause of Death

These five lifestyle choices can reduce your risk of dying from a leading cause of death by 50 percent.

Why Working Mothers Shouldn’t Feel Guilty

What do people really think about working mothers?

We Can Dream: A Marginalized Peoples Version of ‘Inside Out’

Ever wondered what Pixar's ‘Inside Out’ film would look like for peoples who identify with a particular social group (e.g., racial, ethnic, cultural, sexual orientation, etc.), and whose social group is an important part of their identity and personality, but whose social group is often inferiorized, discriminated against, othered, or marginalized by society? Read on.

The Mind Of An Addict

There is a gap between what they prefer to do and what they actually do.
After Divorce: Ten Principles for Parenting

After Divorce: Ten Principles for Parenting

Divorce can disrupt a child’s life and development, but the basic principles of good parenting hold true through the challenges. Current research shows that most children are beginning to function reasonably well within two years after their parents' divorce. Some kids even benefit, especially those whose pre-divorce family included fear, chaos, unpredictability, or abuse.

If Not Now, Zen?

Both the past and future weigh on us like heavy stones. But we are, after all, human, so we will inevitably do this past and future game.Take a breath and smile. Be here now.

Inside Inside Out (No Spoilers!)

If you want someone to know what you’re feeling, they’ll need the story, not just the headline, and certainly not just which section of the paper it’s in.

Are Gay & Lesbian Couples as Violent as Straight Couples?

As we achieve marriage equality for LGBTQ and heterosexual couples, the Data Doctor answers a question about the dark side of relationships.

What's the Best Way to Deal With a Negative Body Image?

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on July 07, 2015 in Off the Couch
Lianne* came to see me for help with her eating. "I can't stand myself," she said. "I've tried every diet I can think of. I lose weight...and then I gain it all back...and more." Lianne was smart and very funny. She had a successful job and many women friends. But she didn't like her body. And she didn't like herself.
Women by Design: Transforming Home, Transforming Self

Women by Design: Transforming Home, Transforming Self

By Toby Israel Ph.D. on July 07, 2015 in Design on My Mind
Women can express and transform their psychic and home interiors

Religious Individuality

By John A. Johnson Ph.D. on July 07, 2015 in Cui Bono
Eric Dietrich posted "It is not that there are no gods or goddesses, but rather that there are no [true] religions." I agree, but not just because no religion is true. I go a step further. Because each individual's religious experience is unique, there are as many versions of a religion as there are members. Ultimately, there are no Christians, Buddhists, etc.

Food Can Affect Your Brain: Breaking News?

Scientists and nutritionists have known for years that there is a strong relationship between healthy diet and healthy brain. Do you know all of the facts?

Shame and Depression

Low on energy = low on activity. That is a sure fire path to feeling blue. How does a person deal with what seems like an inevitable failure of motivation and activity?

Being at Peace With the Pain of Others

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on July 07, 2015 in Your Wise Brain
When you recognize the truth of others' pain, it is strangely calming. You still care about the other person, and you do what you can, but you see that this pain and its causes are a tiny part of a larger and mostly impersonal whole.

How Betrayal Saps Your Self-Esteem

Whether you’ve been lied to, cheated on, or otherwise made to feel a loss of trust, it’s always painful when someone betrays you. How you respond may depend as much on the nature of the betrayal as on your personality and values. Whatever the cause, one of betrayal's most painful aspects is the cost it takes on your self-esteem.

Lessons Learned From the World’s Happiest People

By Jaime Kurtz Ph.D. on July 07, 2015 in Happy Trails
Can Americans be more Scandinavian?

Scents and Sensibilities

It may be time for new exhaust fans where you live and work.

Relationships Cause Conduct Disorder, Not "Bad Seeds"

To paraphrase a certain politician, it's the relationships, stupid! In order to avoid looking at their own or their family's behavior, both parents and professionals seem to want to think that children can be born as "bad seeds." However, human genes do not work that specifically. It is not toxic people that create most dysfunctional families, but toxic relationships.

Tylenol Blunts Positive Emotions Too

By Art Markman Ph.D. on July 07, 2015 in Ulterior Motives
A while back, I wrote a blog entry on studies demonstrating that acetaminophen (the active ingredient in Tylenol) can dampen people’s responses to negative events. So, if you experience social pain, you may actually be able to medicate yourself for it in the same way that you take pain killers for a headache.

Advanced Placement Classes Under the Microscope

By APA Division 15 on July 07, 2015 in PsychEd
Last spring, over 4 million high school students took more than 2 million Advanced Placement (AP) tests. According to the College Board, students in AP courses learn more material, are more prepared for college, and finish a bachelor’s degree earlier than non-AP students. But, what is the real impact of AP programs?
Sadness or Depression

Sadness or Depression

Depression has been getting more and more media attention, especially when it is mentioned by extremely well-known people who have experienced it. This is the case of a very popular Brazilian preacher, the Catholic priest Marcelo Rossi, who, in his most recent book, "Philia," publicly declared that he suffered from this mental disorder.

Dealing With Trauma

Controlling what we remember could lead to programming trauma victims to eliminate painful memories and strengthening the ability to retain certain types of information.

Steve Albini Shows That Punk Rock Ethics Are Good Business

By Michael Friedman Ph.D. on July 07, 2015 in Brick by Brick
Steve Albini is known as one of the greatest recording engineers of his time. He shares how punk rock ethics and transformational leadership are important to a good business.