Singles, You Can Lower Your Risk of Divorce

The things you can do before you marry that can change your odds of divorce

Theo Fleury Is Teaching Us How to Heal

Hockey great explains power of conversation

20 Tactics the Pros Use to Deal with Difficult People

Can you reason with unreasonable people?

The Inverse Innovation Cycle: How Failure Becomes Success

There's something that leaders don't tell you about success.

Empathy for a Child Abuser?

Empathy for the Undeserving Can Be a Useful Strategy for Changing Families

How to Feel Better When You’re Feeling Bad

Buddhist-inspired wisdom for navigating difficult times.

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Carl Rogers' person-centered approach

Is non-directive therapy the same as client-centered therapy?

How Are You Dancing With Life?

We think life is static, but in reality, it is always in movement. If we are open to that movement, we discover who we are and who we are becoming.

Gone with the Wind and Xica: Two Myths of Slavery

75 years ago Gone with the Wind was released, a movie that romanticized slavery with stereotyped images of African Americans that remain familiar to this day. Slavery in Brazil was more widespread and lasted longer than in the United States. The Brazilian movie Xica is also about slavery, but its stereotypes of Afro-Brazilians are very different from the American ones.

If You Want Your Relationship to Flourish, Speak Up

You may not want to distract your partner from the tasks at hand even if you are feeling neglected. That being said, if you are feeling like you want to be closer to the one you love, you need to speak up. Many times, just a few words are all it takes to help your partner remember to take some steps in your direction.

The Scientific Case for Owning Up to Your Porn Use

Many people believe that porn use should be hidden from a relationship partner. However, a new study suggests that when women think their partners are honest about their porn use, they tend to be happier with their relationships.

A Heart That Is Ready for Anything

By Tara Brach Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in Finding True Refuge
There’s a bright light of awareness that shines through each of us and guides us home, and we’re never separated from this luminous awareness, any more than waves are separated from ocean.

Forgetting Apple’s Logo: Why We Forget What We Often See

Where was the last fire extinguisher you saw? Do you remember where the “B” key is on your keyboard? Even things we see and interact with constantly can be forgotten—sometimes because we see them so much.

Teasing: 7 Myths You'll Be Relieved To Debunk

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in Ambigamy
"Touchy touchy. You're being too sensitive!" "No I'm not. You're just being incredibly insensitive." Here's a quick guide to deciding who is being hypersensitive and who is being insensitive.

Letting Go of Self-Destructive Behaviors

By The Book Brigade on March 03, 2015 in The Author Speaks
The millions of teens and adults who engage in self-destructive behavior do so because they never learned more constructive ways of soothing themselves in moments of distress. Many have engaged in such behaviors for so long that they can't envision a way out. But it's possible to replace self-destructive acts with kinder means of coping.

Creepy New Marketing Targets Female Sex Hormones

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in The Human Beast
During the fertile phase of their monthly cycle, women are prone to greater risk taking. For psychologists, this means that they are more likely to initiate sexual affairs. Marketers discovered that women are more likely to try new brands as well. Now they plan to use this fact in targeted marketing. Assuming that they get away with it, will the scheme work?

Colorblindness Is a Poor Adaptation to Neo-Diversity Anxiety

American racial, intergroup anxiety is getting worse. And one poor adaptation people are trying to use to avoid their own racial neo-diversity anxiety is the “I don’t see color” strategy.

5 Reasons Why People Leave Bad Bosses, Not Companies

People leave bad bosses, not companies. Here's why.

Happiness With Life 6: Serve Yourself a Slice of Happiness

I don't care how physicists define time. Time, to me, is choice. This blog, Serve Yourself a Slice of Happiness, provides the mindsets and strategies to choose pleasure each and every day of our lives.
Does Happiness Lie Within?

Does Happiness Lie Within?

By Steve Taylor Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in Out of the Darkness
Consciousness has a natural quality of well-being which we tap into when our minds are quiet and empty
The NoFap Phenomenon

The NoFap Phenomenon

By David J Ley Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in Women Who Stray
The NoFap movement gets lots of media attention, as they trumpet the dangers of masturbating to porn. But, their claims are based on weak science, and subjective anecdotes. Worse, they are regurgitating old myths about sexuality, which treat male sexuality in reductionistic fashion.

Balancing Inhibition and Exhibition

By Gregg Levoy on March 03, 2015 in Passion!
The desire to keep your spark, your life-force, intact, will always have to contend with agents of decay and distraction. All the forces of resistance and inhibition, from within and without, that can rob you of your vitality if you let them. Here's how to referee that boxing match.

How to Say What You Truly Mean

Saying what you mean is more than a matter of finding the right words. It’s the intonation, or tone of voice, that adds punch to our language. If you’re a victim of “uptalk,” without knowing it, you may be leaving people with a wrong, and confusing, impression.

A Visit to the Psychiatric Hospital Made Me Sick

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in Insight Therapy
Our psychiatric inpatient care system is insufficient and often detructive. But the inpatient population is not a wealthy, vocal, or well-organized pressure group. In our current cultural moment, without a strong voice in the Halls of Power, you may well end up wandering aimlessly down the corridors of an ill-staffed and ill-equipped hospital ward, talking to yourself.

It's a Wrap!

By Dana S Dunn Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in Head of the Class
How can we get students to review what they did wrong on exams and papers?

Singles, You Can Lower Your Risk of Divorce

Many singles are interested in marriage but fear divorce. You can do things before marriage to increase your odds of lasting love in marriage.

When Boys Feel Like Girls and Girls Feel Like Boys

By Elizabeth Wagele on March 03, 2015 in The Career Within You
“I told my mom, and she reacted extremely negatively, telling me that it was a phase, that I would never truly be a girl, that God doesn’t make mistakes, that I am wrong. If you are reading this, parents, please don’t tell this to your kids.”

Helping Your Anxious Child Overcome Bedtime Fears

By Tamar Chansky Ph.D on March 03, 2015 in Worry Wise
It’s not their bed, or the house, or the dolls—it’s what their mind, and specifically their “worry brain” is telling them about those things that is making them so frightened. So while you’re tempted to just reassure your child that everything’s fine, chances are you already know—that doesn’t work.Instead, teach your child to be the boss and not get tricked by their worry!

A Response to Sam Harris's Writings on Moral Truth Pt 2 of 3

By John A. Johnson Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in Cui Bono
In August of 2013, Sam Harris issued a challenge to refute the central thesis of his book, The Moral Landscape. This thesis is that "questions of morality and values must have right and wrong answers that fall within the purview of science." This is part 2 of a 3-part post explaining why I agree with everything in his book except the central thesis.
When Fractions are Better Than Decimals

When Fractions are Better Than Decimals

By Art Markman Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in Ulterior Motives
In order to graduate from high school, people usually spend about 13 years (K-12) learning about math concepts. One of the things that math does is to give us a universal way to think about quantities. The beauty of the number 2, for example, is that it refers to a pair of items regardless of whether those items are bowling balls, butterflies, or beer barrels.

Employers Trust Single Lesbians and Married Straight Women

Marital status, gender, and sexual orientation biases do effect hiring decisions—but not necessarily in the ways you'd expect.

The First Myth About Positive Emotions

By Todd B Kashdan Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in Curious?
Learn about one of the big myths about positive emotions. Don't make the same mistakes that the majority of authors, journalists, and scientists are making.

The Most and Least Popular Dog Breeds

A full listing of the popularity ranking of all 178 breeds of dogs recognized by the American Kennel Club. The trends over the past five years show some interesting consistencies and some intriguing changes.
To Be Creative, What Are the Best Habits to Follow?

To Be Creative, What Are the Best Habits to Follow?

By Gretchen Rubin on March 03, 2015 in The Happiness Project
When we shape our habits to suit our own nature, our own interests, and our own values, we set ourselves up for success.

Theo Fleury Is Teaching Us How to Heal

By Michael Friedman Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in Brick by Brick
Former professional hockey player Theo Fleury is no stranger to confrontation, both on and off the ice. In 2009, he bravely and publicly confronted a very personal issue—sexual abuse and alcoholism. He explains how communication is pertinent to well-being, and even though the road ahead may not be easy, he truly believes that people can learn to heal.

20 Tactics the Pros Use to Deal with Difficult People

You can't reason with an unreasonable person, but verbal de-escalation techniques can help. Learn how professionals handle the most difficult of situations.