What Narcissists REALLY Want—and Can Never Get

What narcissists long for is worlds apart from what they actually pursue.

Childhood Sexual Abuse Taken Out of Context

What goes on when the abuse is NOT happening is often just as important

Putting Humanity and the Humanities Back Into Medicine

Treat the patient, not the lab test.

We Succeed by Our Failures

The critical role of misbehavior and apology for kids and for parents

Why High School Stays with You Forever

Why do memories of high school stand in such stark contrast to other memories?

When Men Aren't As Good-Looking As They Think

Research finds, again, that men tend to overestimate their own attractiveness.

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To Date or Not to Date

By Wendy Paris on July 28, 2015 in Splitopia
We may think that divorce opens the door to a rousing round of nonstop dating, but many people find they need a break between marriage and getting back out there. Taking a break can bring real benefits.

Does Your Child Need To See A Psychologist?

By Mack R. Hicks Ph.D. on July 28, 2015 in Digital Pandemic
The idea that all children are pretty much the same is a great American Myth. Teachers need to discover their students' learning styles and personalities.

What Narcissists REALLY Want—and Can Never Get

Among other things, narcissists typically come across as arrogant, manipulative, entitled, and woefully lacking in empathy. But if these defining features are understood at a deeper level—as powerful psychological defenses to protect them from experiencing a truly frightening vulnerability—a quite different picture of them emerges. . . .
Why People With Mental Illness Haven’t Gained From the ADA

Why People With Mental Illness Haven’t Gained From the ADA

The ADA requires employers to make reasonable accommodations only if they are aware of a person’s disability.

Childhood Sexual Abuse Taken Out of Context

Child sexual abuse is a big risk factor for a wide variety of psychiatric disorders. But why do some victims turn out one way, others a different way, and still others turn out without any disorders at all? So called empirical studies of child abuse are limited to such variables as who the perpetrators were, what did they do, and how often. There's a lot more to the story.

How Do You Handle Your Insecurities?

It’s natural to feel insecure from time to time, but these feelings can get in the way of your happiness. Figuring out where those insecurities come from is the first step to overcoming them.
Invisible

Invisible

By Fran Simone Ph.D. on July 28, 2015 in A Family Affair
Conflict is a part of every relationship. It’s often more pronounced for family’s affected by addiction. Often moms, dads, sisters and brothers disagree on how best to handle the thorny situations fueled by the addict’s behavior.

You Can Change—People Do It All the Time

By Temma Ehrenfeld on July 28, 2015 in Open Gently
When you hear "People don't change," you're hearing half the story.

Prison Art: Is It Therapy or "Therapeutic"? So What?

There is no doubt that making art in prison can be therapeutic--but is it necessarily therapy? This blog teases apart the differences between the two, all the while exploring the age-old question: so what?

The Yin and Yang of Aging

Resolving the inverse relationship between the decline of one’s physical being and the evolution of one’s psyche (barring the onset of a debilitating cognitive disease, of course) seems to me to be one of life’s most daunting challenges, but certainly one worth taking on.

Why Your View of the Future Can Make You Depressed

Most people assume that if you're depressed, that colors your view of your future. New research turns that thinking on its head, showing that, for many, if your view of your future is negative to begin with, that can actually make you depressed. The flip side is that a positive view of your future stimulates greater mental health.

Putting Humanity and the Humanities Back Into Medicine

By Allen J Frances M.D. on July 28, 2015 in Saving Normal
The relationship between medical art and science is changing rapidly, with the science now overwhelming the art. Doctors more and more function like technicians, not healers. A knowledge of the humanities is crucial if doctors are to treat patients, not lab tests.
We Succeed by Our Failures

We Succeed by Our Failures

When we reflect on our childhood we tend to recall the tough times -- times when we as kids screwed up, or when our parents failed. It turns out that the dance between love and hate, doing right and doing wrong, and above all making amends is critical for secure attachments. We learn to trust other, indeed, we learn to be moral as part of a normal developmental process.

Music Training Improves Adolescent Brain Development

Music training during adolescence helps the teenage brain hone skills necessary for academic and life success.
The Problem With Wanting

The Problem With Wanting

Wanting make us unhappy. The more desires we have, the less satisfied we are with what already have. How can we stop wanting things we don't really need?

Elder Fun

By Bernard L. De Koven on July 28, 2015 in On Having Fun
Fun, for us elders, has become more of a spiritual thing.

The Psychology Of Live Online Casino Gambling

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on July 28, 2015 in In Excess
One of the main reasons I don’t like gambling at Internet casinos is that I believe the majority of game outcome are likely to be pre-programmed and/or predetermined. To me, this is somewhat akin to playing with imaginary dice! But what do we know psychologically about what factors promote and inhibit gambling online?

How Behavioural Science Tried to Abolish Morality

Previous psychologists and psychiatrists have tried to empty human conduct of moral meaning.

Stories of Seclusion: Afraid He'd Lose His Temper, He Hid

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on July 28, 2015 in How To Do Life
Injustice, especially if it could cost your livelihood, can cause great anger.

Wilderness Therapy

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on July 27, 2015 in Minority Report
Why getting outdoors may be the best medicine for your psychological health. It can not only free you from your daily world of connection but also test you psychologically as you push yourself in your various pursuits.
Can You Create Good Habits That Stick?

Can You Create Good Habits That Stick?

Do you have the chance to do what you do best each day at work? Take a moment and think about it. Do you have the chance to do what you do best each day?

Living Closer to the Bone, Part 2

By Michael Jawer on July 27, 2015 in Feeling Too Much
Evolutionary and behavioral science is giving credence to what Darwin observed and intuited 140 years ago. Studies indicate with a fair degree of certainty that animals have intense experiences comparable to human feelings of joy, anger, love, exuberance, delight, compassion, sorrow, and grief.

Positive Psychology of Mindfulness

When students call out "Present', make sure they know what it means. So what does "Present" really mean? It does not just mean "here" - it means here in the moment and mindfully in touch with the learning.

Why High School Stays with You Forever

For some of us, high school shines like an enchanted kingdom; for others, it is remembered as an endless Hell of daily torments. For most of us, it is something in between, but memorable nonetheless. Is it the collision between evolved psychological mechanisms and the nature of the modern high school that is to blame?

Inside Out Movie Focuses on the Importance of Emotions

By Kate Roberts Ph.D. on July 27, 2015 in Savvy Parenting
Disney's Pixar Inside Out movie teaches through entertainment, the importance of processing and understanding a child's emotions.

Emotions, Culture, and Heart Disease

The relationship between expressing hostility and heart disease is a strong candidate for a psychological universal. Or is it?

Attractiveness Changes Our Perception At an Early Age

Not only does attractiveness influence children's trustworthiness of a person, it even changes how the brain's neural system responds.

Rx Pain Meds and Teens – A Troubling Combination

Do you know about the dangers lurking in your medicine cabinet? Chances are, like many of us, you have one or more unused prescription bottles sitting in your medicine cabinet right now. For parents with teens, this can be a very dangerous scenario.

4 Keys to Happiness

Happiness is not about what you need from others, it is really about what you are willing to give to others.