Parental Guilt: The Dilemma

Who is minding the children when both parents work?

Idea Killers and Conversation Murderers

The “Yes, But” problem in workplace communications.

Death by Selfie

People are literally dying to take photos of themselves

Single Mothers and Their Health, Around the World

Single parenting causes poor health? 6 ways you were misled

Three Simple Steps to Heal Conflict and Strengthen Love

A three step technique toward authentic intimacy

The Surprising News about Children's Mental Health

New research suggest today’s kids are in pretty good psychological shape

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Reflections on ‘Montage of Heck’

Cobain is the poster child for emotional devastation. And yet, at the same time, there is something in his music which resonates powerfully with his generation. This documentary affords us a view as to how it all got established and played itself out – his pain, his shame, his his inability to relate, his drug addiction, his art, his suicide.

After the Break-up: Embracing the Lessons

By seeing a broken relationship as presenting lessons to learn, you can boost your resilience and bounce back from heartache. Embracing lessons also leads to fewer regrets and helps you see any breakup as an opportunity for growth and a better life, rather than a reason to lose hope, feel diminished, or die.

After the Break-Up: Making Sense of What Happened

Whenever someone breaks up with you, it’s normal to ask “why?” and try to make sense of what happened. This week, I received an inquiry from a reader who is mystified by a sudden breakup. She describes the relationship and breakup, revealing some clues as to what went wrong, including enmeshment, dishonesty, and insecurity, which doomed their relationship from the start.

Workover: Rejected From His Dream Job And They Won't Say Why

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on May 26, 2015 in How To Do Life
Advice I gave to a caller to my NPR-San Francisco radio program.

The Key To Relationship Success…And Failure

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on May 25, 2015 in Ambigamy
Today's most popular advice on successful marriage: Don't show criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. But this has couples criticizing each other for showing these traits, and defending against that accusation. The solution lies deeper than banishing these "four horsemen of the apocalypse."

BPD and the Effective Therapist

What personal features predict better success in working with Borderline patients?

The Best Weight Loss Advice

Experts weigh in! A registered dietician, nutritionist, a weight loss coach and others provide their most essential advice for weight loss. Surprisngly, no two people came up with the exact same advice!
Did I Offend You? Take Responsibility for a Racial Slight

Did I Offend You? Take Responsibility for a Racial Slight

Did I Just Offend You? Taking Responsibility for a Racial Slight. We are often unaware of our own attitudes and biases. By Max Belkin, Ph.D.

Be the Hope

In April 1989, a stranger came to visit me in the most unlikely of places, a psychiatric ward and gave me the gift of hope that changed my life forever, and continues to transform the lives of thousands of people around the world. Although her visit was short, she taught me that a random act of kindness can give hope and change a life forever.

Five Steps to Improve Your Listening and Empowerment

Five Steps to Improve Your Listening and Empowerment: How to get your direct reports to quickly tell you what they need from you, so both of you feel more effective. The Managers' Misstep and the VIVID tool are both explained.

Wrong Self-Appraisals Result from the Use of Wrong Criteria

Mental conflicts, including intrusive thoughts or emotions (e.g., rumination on trauma or other negative events, self-blame, shame, hopelessness, guilt, anger, or sadness) result from both unawareness that the self-schemas or appraisals are regulated by one’s pattern schemas, and the use of wrong or distorted pattern schemas for self-evaluations.
Being a Great Manager: The Art of Supervision

Being a Great Manager: The Art of Supervision

Management is about leadership, fairness, clarity, flexibility. But with different staff with different personalities and experience, it's about adapting you style to best meet their needs. Some tips.

The #1 Rule for How to Inspire Passion in Others

By Gregg Levoy on May 25, 2015 in Passion!
For anyone in a position of leadership or stewardship—whether you're a parent or teacher, minister or manager, performer or politician, this much is certain: your passion is critical to their engagement.

The Importance of Goodbye

We live in a society that resists acts of communal mourning so we avidly watch when TV broadcasts the death of a famous person.
 5 Ways to Deepen Relationships

5 Ways to Deepen Relationships

It's easy to go to sleep in our important relationships; it's easy lose the connection without even realizing that that is happening. Here are 5 areas to bring mindfulness to so that our relationships can thrive.

Exploring Facebook Depression

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on May 25, 2015 in Media Spotlight
There's no question that Facebook is popular given its 1.23 billion active users in countries around the world. In many ways, Facebook seems to be a perfect social tool for staying in contact with friends and family members without ever needing to leave the house. So why do so many Facebook users report feeling depressed and lonely? The answer may be surprising.

Mortality and the Luck of the Draw

By E E Smith on May 25, 2015 in Not Born Yesterday
A woman who reportedly went to extraordinary lengths to protect herself, and still died in a freak accident, reminded me of another who did much the same thing, and still met death in an unexpected way. The two had little in common except how far they went in order to stay alive, which––as it turned out––was not in the cards.

Sex Without Intimacy/Intimacy Without Sex

By Isadora Alman MFT on May 25, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
We all know that the ideal relationship contains both sex and intimacy, but does it have to? Is that true for everyone?

How to Parent Kids Who Simply Don't Get Along

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on May 25, 2015 in Insight Is 20/20
If you have kids who simply don't get along, focus on separating them and encouraging solo play. It's a lot harder to parent kids who don't get along than those who have the usual sibling spats, so don't add stress to your life by telling yourself they should get along better. Parents already deal with enough 'shoulds.'

Forgiveness and the Meaning of Memorial Day

We can forgive those who harm us, but we can't forgive those who kill us.

Parental Guilt: The Dilemma

Today both men and women worry about short-changing their children because of their both working, and their own parents often feed their guilt. The result is an epidemic of over- and under-parenting in which the needs of the children take precedence over the need of the parents, leading to out of control children who have trouble becoming responsible adutls.
What's Your Purpose?

What's Your Purpose?

I would like to enlist the help of Psychology Today readers with some research I'm doing into different types and levels of purpose.

Memorial Day, 2015

Memorial Day is THE day to know and understand that prejudice and bigotry are domestic enemies of our constitution; domestic enemies of America.

On the Battlefield of the Psyche

By Pythia Peay on May 25, 2015 in America On The Couch
Decker said, I once had an interview with the Tibetan Buddhist leader, the Dalai Lama. When I asked him for his advice on how to work with veterans he said . . first, they had to have some kind of spirituality. And secondly, they had to know that it was their job—their duty—to kill people. He also made a distinction between having to kill during war, and committing murder.

The Inconvenience of Tackling and Eliminating Defiance

Parenting is a an inconvenience in the lives of parents, that every parent has to bring themselves to be at peace with. The parenting relationship is not one that money alone can solve, or one that can be tackled remotely.

Reconnecting with Nature

Listening to and communing with nature affects our health, both physical and psychological. Whether is is taking a walk or listening to the sounds of other species, creating a sense of connection with the natural world is beneficial, restorative, and necessary for our well-being.

Lobotomy Cuts Both Ways (Diametrically Speaking)!

A patient cured of epilepsy by brain surgery acquired hyper-mentalistic symptoms as implied by the diametric model and predicted by the imprinted brain theory.

How Marketers Manipulate You Into Becoming Their Friend

New research reveals how shockingly easy it is to manipulate consumers to like and forgive marketers that deceive them.

A Workover: A Teacher Wants a Change

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on May 25, 2015 in How To Do Life
Advice I gave to a caller to my NPR-San Francisco radio program.