The Magical Healing Power of Caring & Hope in Psychotherapy

Focus on the relationship, not the technique.

The Road Let's Travel: Why David Brooks Should Start a Cult

How the things you say pave the road to character.

What I Learned From 2,000 Hours Of Freudian Psychoanalysis

In 9 bullet points--My very productive exercise in futility

Six Ways to Get What You Want Without Whining

Do people call you a whiner? These 6 tips will you get your way the right way

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 8

Are Women really More Talkative than Men?

Near Misses Are Motivating

Nearly winning a prize is more motivating than winning it.

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The Smart One or the Pretty One? Pretty Is as Pretty Does

"'She’s really pretty, but it’s like she doesn’t even know it!' people would say admiringly of certain girls.
Only then can you forgive a girl for being pretty: if she’s an idiot or a liar."
Maggie Mitchell

The Mastectomy Chronicles, Pt. 1: A Sizemic Change

In a society that values appearance, and which has historically equated self with body, how does a woman remain whole in the shadow of mastectomy?

Surviving the Family Car Trip

Before you tell a child to sit still, stop annoying everyone, or threaten to leave him on the side of the road if he doesn’t stop asking questions, try offering another source of stimulation. Give the child a meaningful role like navigator or ice cream finder and see if bad behavior doesn't change into something more socially desirable.

Anger: Not All Bad?

Similar to SUVs, canned cheese spread, and guys who ask to split the check on the first date, anger has gotten a bad rap.

Ninety Minute Therapy Sessions

By Isadora Alman MFT on July 06, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
Psychtherapy sessions, like other intense encounters, must have a length that satisfies all parties involved.

The Importance of Rest

By Jennifer Hamady on July 06, 2015 in Finding Your Voice
Getting adequate rest has become a priority in our household. Because without proper sleep, we are unable to be our best in our work, for each other, and most importantly, for our precious son.

Fraudulent Draft Day Fantasies

The lights of the NHL shine bright on draft night and they can easily blind optimal motivation. Sometimes dreams can be so vivid and so emotionally sustaining they leave an individual neglecting to attend to important initiatives and hurdles during the journey.
Who Will Clip Your Toenails When You Cannot?

Who Will Clip Your Toenails When You Cannot?

They never tell you when you are little that you will one day clip the toenails of your parents or siblings. Such little things must amount to great differences in the quality of life as we age. If you needed one more reason to build and maintain lifelong, loving relationships. . .

Must We Forgive?

By Jeanne Safer Ph.D. on July 06, 2015 in The Last Taboos
Forgiving can bring peace, if not always equilibrium, after violent crimes as well as crimes of the heart. But I question the imperative to grant it, especially the automatic, instantaneous kind that is so often idealized.

Is Your “Game Over” or “Job Over?”

Is Your Job Over or Is Your Game Over: learn from the pros.

The Confederate Flag: Heritage or Hate?

Do Confederate soldiers deserve monuments, flags, glory, and honor? Or is it time to dismantle Confederate monuments and remove the flag from the public arena?

Finding Romance in Middle-age

Being single in middle age is complicated. Working long days, staying in touch with grown children, managing medical and financial complexities . . . how do people summon the energy to manage break-ups and pursue romance?

Quiet Days in Charlottenburg

Returning to “The Institute,” psychology presents itself in a Germanic light. Here are reflections on the illusion of absolute value and the differences (if there is any) between equanimity and indifference.
If You Love Cats, This May be Why

If You Love Cats, This May be Why

Many of us love cats, but we may not have considered one major reason why we find them so irresistible. This article explores how cats have an uncanny ability to surrender to affection. We humans would do well to be more like a cat in the sense of deepening our capacity to receive love and affection.

Codependent or Just Insecure?

By Ann Smith on July 06, 2015 in Healthy Connections
What had been labeled in the past as codependency is actually human beings doing what comes naturally – LOVING.

A Waking Dream

By Greg O'Brien on July 06, 2015 in On Pluto
The barkers have started selling new cures. Praise the Lord and pass the Aricept!

You’ve Reached The Top! Now What?

Why do so many ambitious and talented executives and entrepreneurs plateau, burn out, and at times regress once they “reach the top” of whatever ladder, mountain or organizational structure they’ve been climbing?

The Magical Healing Power of Caring & Hope in Psychotherapy

By Allen J Frances M.D. on July 06, 2015 in Saving Normal
Psychotherapy works at least as well as drugs for most mild to moderate problems and should be used first. A good relationship is much more important in promoting good outcome than the specific psychotherapy techniques that are used.

How Good Are You at the Art of Conversation? A Quiz

What makes a good conversationalist? These 10 key factors may surprise you.

The Road Let's Travel: Why David Brooks Should Start a Cult

How does what we say pave the road to character? David Brooks has some words of wisdom.

How to Win the Innovation Race

By Jeff DeGraff Ph.D. on July 06, 2015 in Innovation You
You don't want to run the whole innovation relay only to find that you dropped the baton somewhere along the way. Practice, polish, and perfect those hand-offs.

Women’s World Cup Win: Contributions to Tween Self-Esteem

Each of these players tells a unique story. What bonds them all together is their love of soccer and their desire to be the best. Role models such as the USA Women’s National Soccer team are important for our tweens and teens. Their accomplishments as individuals, and of course, their victory as a team model important lessons.

The Three Ways We Think About Money

Dear Son,

Today I want to talk to you about how people make decisions. Many choices in our lives have uncertain outcomes. Choosing between two alternatives often involves a risk, such as whether you should spend your birthday money on a new bicycle or on a PlayStation.

National Academy of Sciences View of Cancer Care

More than a decade after the Institute of Medicine first addressed the quality of cancer care in the United States the barriers to achieving excellent care for all cancer patients remain daunting.

"Killer" Cats?

Conservationists have been scapegoating cat owners for decades, but hard evidence that pet cats (as distinct from feral cats) actually have any long-term effect on the populations of their prey has proved hard to come by. New approaches will be needed if there is to be any meaningful dialogue between the two camps.

People Are Not Disposable

Relationships and friendships take effort, and no one is perfect. Although it may be difficult for you to discuss your feelings with someone who has hurt you, and you may be scared to open the discussion, it is the only way to resolve your issues. A few well-chosen words and taking the time to listen to one another could easily save your friendship or your marriage.

Dogs and the Death Penalty

Serious attention is being given to the human death penalty right now—both its overall constitutionality and morality, and also the particular methods by which it is carried out. This is a good opportunity to reexamine the use of death penalty language in relation to companion animals and assess whether it helps or harms.

4 “Selfies” That Drive People Crazy

We all worry where we stand with others. These four self-portraits, and the gaps between them, provide a map of your self-conscious thoughts.

Spiritual Beings on a Human Journey—Remembering Our Stardust

Something in us already knows that we are spiritual beings on a human journey, not just finite and little me-s. So what gets in the way of our remembering our infinite nature, our stardust. How to not forget who we really are...
7 Things I Love About Women With Postpartum Depression

7 Things I Love About Women With Postpartum Depression

When we can harness that arousal, we can guide her toward support resources that she is unable to utilize distress is high.