Get Out of Yourself

Put your mind on something else, or your troubles will take up the whole world.

Understanding the Islamic State - A Fool's Errand?

The quest to understand the "validity" of a religious sect will be unsatisfying.

Our Top-Down Brains and How They Help Us Adapt to the World

What the gold-white, blue-black dress debate reveals about how our brains work

Why We Hate It When People Invade Our Space

John Travolta and Joe Biden put it in the news, but it's an everyday problem.

Born to Gossip

Every sentence is a juicy tidbit about who did what to whom.

Living in the Here and Now

Chronic restlessness has blinded me to my life’s many blessings.

The Latest

Finding "The One" Is Overrated: Emotionships Matter More

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on March 01, 2015 in Living Single
New research shows the power of having different people in your life who are good at helping you with different kinds of emotions. People with a diverse portfolio of "emotionships" are more satisfied with their lives. People who put all their emotional eggs into one relationship basket get celebrated by all the sappy love songs but they are not necessarily better off.

Evaluating a Counselor or Psychotherapist

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on March 01, 2015 in How To Do Life
Evaluation may be the most valuable skill we're not taught. I attempt to here.

Why You Can't (and Shouldn't) Be Happy Most of the Time.

By Frank T McAndrew Ph.D. on March 01, 2015 in Out of the Ooze
We work very hard to reach goals, anticipating the happiness that they will bring us. After a brief fix of “yippee," however, we quickly slide back to our sorry-ass, humdrum, ordinary state of being. Studies of lottery winners and others who seem to "have it all" throw cold water on our dream of a different life. And yet, we persist. Why?

The Attraction of Terrorism

By Arthur Dobrin D.S.W. on March 01, 2015 in Am I Right?
Young people want challenges; they need challenges; they yearn to discover their own strengths; they want to be part of something larger and more meaningful than their individual selves.
The Secret Life of Married Parents

The Secret Life of Married Parents

How would you react if your next door neighbor told you she and her husband had a Parenting Marriage? Would it make you mad, sad or would you want to know more?

Why You Should be More Grateful

By Neel Burton M.D. on March 01, 2015 in Hide and Seek
Despite its many benefits, gratitude is hard to cultivate.

Self-Regulation of Creative Behaviors

Psyching yourself to be creative.

A Dress of a Different Color

By Maureen Seaberg on March 01, 2015 in Sensorium
The dresses of the year, are, in fact, marsala!

Gangs: Protecting Today’s Youth - Part Two

Many youth who join gangs are looking for a family because they are lacking one at home. A gang is not a family, nor will it ever replace one. A little acceptance, love, compassion, and support can go a long way in deterring youth gang involvement.

Meaning is Where the Action Is

Whether a therapist’s expression of emotional understanding will produce therapeutic or counter-therapeutic effects will depend on the emotional meanings that such expressions have for the patient.

Is Overprescription of Antidepressants Sexist?

A thoughtful editorial in today's New York Times, made me consider a new reason for concern about the overprescription of antidepressants: they are written disproportionately to females and may be suppressing women's natural emotionality.

The Blue/Black-White/Gold Dress & Questioning Reality

The blue and black & white and gold dress debate is actually very deep and profound.
The Effect of Napping on Toddlers’ Nighttime Sleep

The Effect of Napping on Toddlers’ Nighttime Sleep

By Dennis Rosen M.D. on March 01, 2015 in Sleeping Angels
A recent review of 26 different studies on how napping during the day effect the sleep of toddlers at night found that there is, indeed, a connection between the two.

Get Out of Yourself

We are fortunate when something happens that extricates us from an excessive focus on ourselves. The hardest burden in life is self-centeredness.

8 Warning Signs Your Lover is a Narcissist

The Mayo Clinic research group defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration." How do you know when your romantic partner may be a narcissist? Here are eight telltale signs...

“Side Effects” Turns A Million

By Christopher Lane Ph.D. on March 01, 2015 in Side Effects
The blog "Side Effects" receives its millionth consecutive click.
Can Bacteria Make You Fat?

Can Bacteria Make You Fat?

The problems of keeping things in the family

Delivering Bad News

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on March 01, 2015 in A Sideways View
Whilst it is usually both easy and enjoyable giving people good news, it is often very difficult delivering bad news to people. What do we know about the process and the best way to do it?

Empty Man Syndrome

By Alex Korb Ph.D. on March 01, 2015 in PreFrontal Nudity
For some people depression is a hole they can't ever seem to climb out of. Often there are several factors conspiring against them.

The First 100 Days: Be A Stranger (As Long As You Can)!

By Tim Leberecht on February 28, 2015 in The Romance of Work
When you start a new job, your story has already started before you walk through the office door for the first time. The beginning of your tenure is a great opportunity to capitalize on being an outsider and to make new mistakes.

Overcome Hopelessness Thinking and Stop Feeling Depressed

By Bill Knaus Ed.D. on February 28, 2015 in Science and Sensibility
Can you think your way out of feeling depressed?

Envy and Social Propinquity

Did you ever notice how you will envy those most like you in some important way? If you love chess you won't envy Yitzhak Perlman, just as if you play violin you won't envy Bobby Fisher. What is the deeper meaning beneath this phenomenon and how can it help us better understand those pangs of envy we sometimes feel?

How to Get a Date by First Asking a Simple Question

Have you ever wanted to ask out someone you know, or get a date with an attractive stranger? In either case, you can increase your chances of getting a "yes" by first asking a simple question, or making a small request. Find out what the research has to say here...

One Man’s Sorrow, Enlightened by Grief

By Nancy Berns Ph.D. on February 28, 2015 in Freedom to Grieve
Paul said he was surprised by his grief: “I don't think that I had any inkling that I had any depth or capacity for that much grief. It just took me by surprise.”

Healthy Relationships Overlooked in Search for a Quick Fix

By Amy Banks on February 28, 2015 in Wired For Love
Simply thinking about your strongest relationships can change your brain chemistry in a positive way. Imagine the benefits of being face to face with the people you love!

How Fault-Finding Destroys Loving Relationships

Do you really understand what destroys relationships?

Not Allowed to Dance?

By Kimerer LaMothe Ph.D. on February 28, 2015 in What a Body Knows
It is always interesting to look back to those twists and turns in the path that have gotten you where you are. This week, I’ve done just that, prompted by some quality time with Yvonne Daniel’s thoughtful, thorough book, Dancing Wisdom: Embodied Knowledge in Haitian Vodou, Cuban Yoruba, and Bahian Candomble (2003).

Is Writing a Hit TV Series In Your Future?

By Katharine Brooks Ed.D. on February 28, 2015 in Career Transitions
Is writing for television one of your career dreams? If you’re ready to transform your ideas into reality, here’s a book that can help you every step of the way.

How I Try to Make My Work Life Healthy

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on February 28, 2015 in How To Do Life
We're working longer and harder. At least we can work healthier.

What Your Pet Can Teach You About Being Human

By Susan Weinschenk Ph.D. on February 28, 2015 in Brain Wise
What's important in life? How can we be happy and at peace? Maybe our pets can tell us.