How 1930s Psychoanalysts Thought Self-Harm Explained War

Psychoanalysts in the 1930s saw self-harm as evidence of universal drives, which explained not only self-injury but war and violence. What is the legacy of their research today?

Homer Simpson as Parent

Humor is very often a sneaky way to engage with cultural and moral issues that would meet with resistance if they were discussed in a more serious way.

Porn "Addiction" in the Mainstream Media

The mainstream media presents pornography addiction as a legitimate disorder when in fact this is far from certain. In addition it offers questionable advice and suggestions.

MLK: Expanding Compassion to All Brothers and Sisters

 “I am moved to break the betrayal of my own silences and to speak from the burnings of my own heart.”

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Healing from a Toxic Childhood? The Two Words You Need Most

By Peg Streep on January 16, 2018 in Tech Support
The culture thinks that persisting is hard and requires grit while quitting is easy. The truth may surprise you, especially when it comes to toxic relationships.

Is Facebook Spying on an Ex-Flame The New Normal?

Has Facebook stalking become the new normal? Research indicates that post-break up covert monitoring of an ex-flame after a breakup is increasingly common.

What Your Senior Cat Wishes You Knew

Do you live with an older cat? Here are some suggestions for helping her to stay comfortable and contented.

Reacting and Responding

The distinction between reacting and responding is an important one and one I have emphasized in my psychotherapy and counseling practice.

Perfectionism + Social Media = Too Much Teen Stress

The similarities between seedless watermelon and our quest for perfection online. #Imperfectionisbeauty #MarilynMonroe #GoDark #MarkTwain

Should You Try To "Get Over" Grief?

Grief is overwhelming. It is painful beyond measure. Should you active try to "get over" it?

Life as a Bilingual II

The blog "Life as a bilingual" is more than seven years old and has been consulted by a large number of visitors. We look back on this wonderful adventure.

How the “Porn Addiction” Movement Disrespects Women

By Marty Klein Ph.D. on January 16, 2018 in Sexual Intelligence
Assuming that women can't control their emotions in the face of their partner's porn use disempowers them--and undermines the partnership a couple needs to work things out.

3 Tips to Reduce Stress for Better Brain Health

Learn 3 simple strategies to feel less stressed and maximize memory!

#MeToo - Changing Brains, Relationships and Power Dynamics

By Amy Banks on January 15, 2018 in Wired For Love
Neuroscience has something to add to the #MeToo movement.

Five Learning Tips for Smart Adults

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on January 15, 2018 in How To Do Life
Alternatives to the course.

Don’t Let HCPs Ruin Your Life in 2018

High Conflict People are increasing rapidly. Use these four counter-intuitive skills to deal with them.

I Finally Fit In:The Importance of Friends with Disabilities

A new study finds that friendships among adults with disabilities is beneficial. Might that be true for young people, too?
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Dating Made Simple

A new way to look at relationships is simple, and profound.
MLK: Expanding Compassion to All Brothers and Sisters
Compassion to All Brothers and Sisters
Thresholds for Racism
Thresholds for Racism
Purely Symbolic and Without Substance?
Racially Coded
A Moral Compass for Troubling Times
A Moral Compass for Troubling Times

Inspiration Point

Sternberg wrote: "My entire future trajectory changed, as a result of just one teacher."
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Tips to Make Your New Year’s Resolutions Stick

By Linda Walter LCSW on January 15, 2018 in Life Without Anxiety
Don't ditch your New Year's Resolutions, learn how to make successful changes.

Cat Person, Aziz Ansari and Power in the Age of Trump

The New Yorker's "Cat Person" short story seemed to be a prelude to the current Aziz Ansari story. What can we learn about power and vulnerability in the Trump era?

What We Mean When We Talk About Entitlement

By Jane Adams Ph.D. on January 15, 2018 in Between the Lines
Can a little bit of entitlement help you think out of the box? New data suggests it spurs creative problem-solving.

How Free-Market Capitalism is Feeding Economic Inequality

By Ray Williams on January 15, 2018 in Wired for Success
While there have been many benefits from capitalism, increasingly, it has mostly benefited large corporations and wealthy individuals and it is feeding income inequality.

A Fish Out of Water

By Barbara Klein Ph.D., Ed.D. on January 15, 2018 in Twin Dilemmas
Being a twin in a non-twin world.

You've Got the Magic Touch

If you're a hardcore NPR listener like I am, you may have heard the Morning Edition show with Michelle Trudeau talking about the health-promoting properties of touch.
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Why Pro Sports Make Us Cry

By Steve Albrecht DBA on January 15, 2018 in The Act of Violence
Watching your football team lose can bring anger and tears.

Five New Year’s Resolutions to Improve Your Mental Health

This time of year is marked by the making of (and breaking of) resolutions. Set yourself up for success this year.

Top 10 Tips for Keeping Your Cool

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on January 15, 2018 in Emotional Fitness
Keeping your wits about you when the kids are acting up, your boss is down on you, and your mate is all over the map can be a challenge. Here are 10 tools to help.

Mothers, Eating Disorders, and Histories of Trauma

Advice and reflections for mothers with a history of trauma and an eating disorder. What is an attempt to be corrected or avoided gets repeated.

Kangaroo: A Riveting, Deeply Troubling, Must-See Film

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on January 15, 2018 in Animal Emotions
In this new documentary, you'll learn about the plight of kangaroos as they're brutally killed across Australia, much of which is unknown because it happens in the dark.

Stories That Heal Primal Wounds

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on January 15, 2018 in Moral Landscapes
Primally wounded people often feel betrayed by their selves, their bodies, their weaknesses. Stories can jar us loose when we get mired in these traps.

What's In Your Mind?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on January 15, 2018 in Your Wise Brain
Believe in realistic thinking. Life is often hard but try to focus on the good facts in life. Let them become good experiences and let them really sink in.