A Riddle For All Ages

The high cost of mind-reading fails.

What Makes A Great Lover

Is a great lover determined by parts or practices?

5 New Insights on Anger

Number 3 will blow your freaking mind.

Three Paradoxical Ways for Coping With Romantic Abundance

Love Is in the Air, But the Air is Too Dense

WOSPs, the Amalfi Coast, and Unstructured Play in Children

Organized Sports Has Killed Unstructured Play in Children

Can Improv Comedy Treat Social Anxiety?

How learning improv comedy reduces social anxiety for some

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4 Reasons to Have the Last Say

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on August 03, 2015 in Creating in Flow
There are several good reasons to write out a brief narrative essay that expresses something we'd like to be remembered by. Whether it's to be used as a eulogy or shared with close family or the world, the experience itself is eye-opening.

10 Ways to Spot and Cope with Any Narcissist

By Craig Malkin PhD on August 03, 2015 in Romance Redux
Most people, even those narcissistic enough to be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, won't strut about insulting you at the start of a relationship. If they did, no one would fall in love with them. In these videos, you'll learn to recognize--and cope--with all forms of narcissism, no matter how subtle they might be.

Life and the Essence of Adolescence

By Daniel J. Siegel M.D. on August 03, 2015 in Inspire to Rewire
During a summer vacation on a lake in Wisconsin, I look at my son and daughter, my nieces and nephews, and soak it all in. Life is a passing of these moments, I know, ones we cannot hold onto. A startling discovery of exploring this important adolescent period of life is that the ESSENCE of adolescence is also the key way to keep our brains vital and growing.

The Loneliness of Social Media, Part Three

Loneliness is neither inevitable nor inescapable. If you are willing to take a number of simple and practical actions you can overcome loneliness and create a meaningful and satisfying social life for yourself both in daily life and on social media.

Happily After Ashley Madison: The Redemption of Infidelity

I am a couple’s therapist. I believe in relationships and marriage. To believe that an injured partner should be shamed for staying and working things out seems to be in conflict with our cultural message that marriage and relationships matter and should be fought for.

Poor Social Judgment and Schizophrenia

This article examines the qualities of alienation, introversion and divergent thinking that may typify the individual with schizophrenia. These characteristics can synergistically contribute to poor social judgment as seen in the behavior and choices of that individual. In fact, they may form a triad and a pattern as seen persons with schizophrenia generally.

Welcome to Our Blog!

We are pediatric psychologists with expertise in treating children and adolescents with chronic pain. This blog is for parents who want to help their child better manage chronic pain.

Why We Need Work

As much as we might like to inhabit another vision – perhaps lounging on the deck of our new home as we gaze at the ocean across an unpopulated beach – it would be our undoing. What work teaches, and what the Puritans emphasized, is the value of charting a trajectory for one’s life and of maintaining that trajectory.

Inviting Mara to Tea

By Tara Brach Ph.D. on August 03, 2015 in Finding True Refuge
One of my favorite stories of the Buddha shows the power of a wakeful and friendly heart.

“Complimenters” and “Ghosters”: Is There Room in Your Tent?

By Rita Watson MPH on August 03, 2015 in With Love and Gratitude
In a society that lacks the cohesiveness of a tribe, new social connections might remain stuffed in a box.

Understanding Human Mating Strategies

Human reproductive strategies are shaped by evolution to shift as a function of environmental conditions. Same goes for wild garlic. We can learn a lot about ourselves from the world around us.

"You Have Today to Do What Matters Most"

Susan Cain interviews author, Tom Rath, on his secrets to living wisely, staying healthy, fighting anxiety, and his life as a proud introvert.

Anxiety Means Two Opposite Things

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on August 03, 2015 in Ambigamy
Are you anxious? Should you be? It depends on whether your anxiety is founded or unfounded.

Eating Disorders Online: Support or Triggers?

Much of the public learned about pro-ana and pro-mia websites from an episode of the Oprah Winfrey show back in 2001. When people go online for information and support about eating disorders, does what they find help or make them worse?

Not Even Murderer Dylan Roof Is An Island

Dylann Roof is not insane. Dylann Roof is not a lone wolf. Dylann Roof was not socially isolated. Although he had friends who gave him a place to stay, his so called friends did not really engage him in social interaction. Not insane, not a lone wolf, but Dylann Roof was social disconnected.

A Riddle For All Ages

By Kaja Perina on August 03, 2015 in Brainstorm
When my son was old enough to understand the basic concept of infinity (but hardly its nuance), he presented me with a “trick riddle.”

Making Social Media Work For You

By Thelma Duffey Ph.D. on August 03, 2015 in Works in Progress
Following a loss, social media can be a constant reminder of what other people seem to have in their lives. Take a few steps to proactively make social media work better for you.

What Makes A Great Lover

By Isadora Alman MFT on August 03, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
The ingredients that comprise a great lover may surprise you.

Are You a Chronic Journal Ditcher?

By Sherry Hamby Ph.D. on August 03, 2015 in The Web of Violence
Higher emotional clarity and better self-understanding? Sounds great, right? Here are some tips to help you stop ditching that journal and stick to a writing routine.

How the American Psychological Association Lost Its way

By Roy Eidelson Ph.D. on August 03, 2015 in Dangerous Ideas
In Toronto this week, APA leaders will face members’ confusion and rage during Council governance meetings, a three-day teach-in organized by Psychologists for Social Responsibility, and open town hall meetings. Can this soul-searching be channeled into fruitful reforms, not just to the organization, but for the future of the field? A lot is at stake in the days ahead.

Before There Were TED Talks, There Were Chautauquas

By Jeff DeGraff Ph.D. on August 03, 2015 in Innovation You
Before there were TED talks, there were Chautauquas. In the late-nineteenth century, Americans looking for cultural stimulation and intellectual inspiration gathered for weeklong retreats of lectures, performances, and conversations.

Refill Your Cupboard

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on August 03, 2015 in Your Wise Brain
Stress builds up over time, so it's important to do small things throughout the day to keep the stress meter in the "green zone." There are many ways to lower the sense of stress in your mind or body, even in the middle of a busy day.

Sharing Is Important, Not Easy

More adult sons and daughters are returning to the family nest to live; which complicates life for both them and their parents.

How to Be a Natural Helper

By Sherry Hamby Ph.D. on August 03, 2015 in The Web of Violence
There are easy ways to make a positive impact on the lives of people who are experiencing adversity, and you don't need a professional license or degree to do so.

What I've Learned about Friendships in my 20s (So Far)

By Rubin Khoddam on August 03, 2015 in The Addiction Connection
Navigating your twenties is hard, especially socially, as we make and lose friends. But here are some tips I've learned about friends in my twenties so far.

Who Should Own A Gun?

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on August 03, 2015 in Media Spotlight
Are there specific guidelines for mental health professionals to follow in judging the risk of allowing certain people to own guns?
A new article published in the journal Professional Psychology: Research and Practice provides practical guidelines for firearm assessments and the sort of questions that professionals should ask prospective gun owners.

Soliloquest

By Bernard L. De Koven on August 03, 2015 in On Having Fun
Talking to yourself is sometimes very, very fun.

Here's How You Can Become An Expert

By William R. Klemm Ph.D. on August 03, 2015 in Memory Medic
Is there a shortcut to becoming an expert?
My College Roommate Sent Me a Sketch of Myself

My College Roommate Sent Me a Sketch of Myself

By Gretchen Rubin on August 03, 2015 in The Happiness Project
It’s funny, though, what can unleash a memory.

The Pet Privilege: How Animals Help Children Thrive

Granddaughters Ava and Sara discuss their delight in owning their cats, Ellie and Rudy, and describe their enjoyment of frequent visits with our dogs, Bliss and Oakley. Research underscores that pet ownership and animal interaction can assist children in optimal life development in some surprising ways.