Some people cannot allow their intimate partners to predict their behaviors. They seem to intentionally thwart expectations even when they have participated in the plans for them. The reasons they behave that way defy rational thinking but do have an understandable basis and can be challenged and healed. Read More
The search for authenticity is a distinctive feature of contemporary culture. But what does authenticity mean in a consumer culture where products and brands are marketed on the basis of their claims to authenticity? And what does it mean when self-help books preach the gospel of authenticity with the goal of helping people to improve their value in the social market? Read More
I want to start with marveling at how far we are, collectively, from taking our needs seriously and making them a priority. Instead, we have been trained to view our needs as a sign of weakness or dependence, and as something bottomless that cannot be controlled. Read More
LaRae Quy was a brand new FBI Special Agent, and it was the height of the Cold War, but she was given a huge job. Her assignment was to go undercover and locate a known Soviet spy operating somewhere in Silicon Valley, and to convince him to start spying for the U.S. How can this relate to your business?
Many of us know that forgiveness is a good thing, right?
But what about forgiving ourselves?
Even if we’ve gotten pretty good and consistent about offering forgiveness to others, isn’t forgiving ourselves often the most difficult?
Understanding why self-forgiveness is difficult can give us clues to make it easier.... Read More
We all want to live a happy and satisfied life. While we can’t control all the variables we can use quality science and best practices to maximize the odds that we will have a happier and more satisfied life. Surprisingly, focusing on relationships and others rather than money and status is likely to help you achieve what you desire. Yet most people ignore these facts. Read More
Today’s parents have a whole new set of table manners to grapple with—those associated with technology. And, according to our survey data, this is a dicey area, where what’s good for the gosling turns out not to be so good for the goose. Some sensible tips are offered to help ease tensions at the dinner table. Read More
Leaders can often avoid difficult conversations by convincing ourselves that the other person cannot handle it or will be uncomfortable. However, our personal fears may be preventing us from realizing opportunities to discuss what matters most to the other person. Read More
Why do couples stop having sex? Why does our sexuality get packed away, so we feel we have to go out of our way to uncover it? Taking time for sex shouldn't be seen as an indulgence or an inconvenience. Sexuality makes us feel alive. It can be a way to reenergize or relax, reconnect or reestablish feelings of excitement toward our relationship. Read More
The challenge of being friends with someone who is diagnosed with ADHD is that if you take his or her behavior personally, the relationship may be hard to sustain. What looks stand-offish can be distraction. An ADD adult impulsively makes commitments he may have trouble keeping.
Defensiveness is just ego? Nope. Defensiveness has its place and serves a purpose, keeping you focused on your work and not your doubts. The question isn't whether to be defensive but in which situations. It has its place and we should focus on where to place it, and where to replace it with receptivity. Read More
It’s no fun being the target of someone’s snobbery. These five tools are all you need to manage the unhappiness a snob can cause. You don’t have to out-snob the snob, but you can overcome the feelings of shame, envy, and inferiority that snobbery can trigger. Read More
All the emphasis that has been placed on the intellect for so many years is now proving to be misplaced. Research from the HeartMath Institute shows that the heart generates a more significant field than the brain, making it the “most powerful electromagnetic field produced by the body.” Read More
A couple of weeks ago I was asked by Paramount Pictures to host a pre-release screening and audience discussion of Jason Reitman’s new film Men, Women & Children at the famed ArcLight Theater in Hollywood. Read More