At times, we might think we have arrived at this place of having a healthy professional ethical identity all on our own. We attended good training programs, read the books, wrote the papers, worked with the practice clients, and finished our training in good shape—we worked hard for our academic degree and credentials. Read More
If you must have the talk, set the stage gently and do not try to ambush your guy just before walking into a party. Perhaps, instead of having the talk, just ask him first if he has given any thought to the relationship. Chances are that he will say, “No.” So drop it. Then revisit again if you feel it is necessary. Read More
I work for a business that represents some former friends. They have a nine-year-old daughter who was a BFF with our nine-year-old daughter. Over the summer, the friends offered to care for our daughter one day a week while I was at work. It all started out almost too well, with tons of energy and generosity. Read More
Darren was furious. Claudia too couldn't understand why her new husband Darren's family hadn't invited them to their recent dinner party. Worse, her in-laws had tried to keep the party a secret from them. Darren was so upset, he couldn't stop talking about it. It would ruin his Christmas. How could they get even?
Why not read a magnificent novel about ordinary people in Japan, 1984, who suddenly enter a parallel universe where there are two moons, Little People with enormous powers, and magical encounters? A love story, and a horror story. Read More
Emotional IQ is to marriage what athletic talent is to sports. Emotional IQ indicates talent in the realm of relationships. Talent helps. But talent alone does not lead to great performance as a husband or wife. You also need to develop strong marriage communication and conflict resolution skills.
Making your kids the centerpiece of your life may seem like a good idea, but generally it's not. Besides the more obvious risks and dangers such as overprotection, indulgence, and other practices that can lead to a sense of entitlement and prolonged dependency. Read More
One of the things that I notice about successful couples is that nearly all of them demonstrate a capacity to not only see the beauty and goodness in each other, but to reflect it back to one another on an ongoing basis. Read More
Two evolutionary psychologists put into perspective the current practice of intensive coupling, the supposed superiority of coupled people, and the myth that what all singles want, more than anything else, is to become unsingle. Read More
When my mother died two weeks ago, I turned to writing to make sense of it all. I was asking myself, "Does this mean that I don't have a Mommy anymore?" I wasn't expecting to find my answer so quickly, and I'm hoping I can give solace to others who have a similar situation with an aging mother or father who for most of their life has been their only parent. Read More
We all know the damaging ramifications of a sexual relationship between patient and doctor. But imagine the potential for destruction of careers and lives when the principals are two of the giants of psychoanalysis and a disturbed woman. Read More
I think of them as Fat Lady Gifts, those items that try so hard to make us feel feminine. If you’re giving an overweight woman a gift this Christmas, or if you want to discourage certain repeat offending items, I encourage you to take this advice to heart. Read More