Charlie: When it comes to relationships, it's very possible that the ten most powerful words you'll ever hear are "You can be right or you can have a relationship." And the most powerful word of those ten is "or." I first heard this phrase about twenty-five years ago when a friend from whom I'd been trying to gain some sympathy instead gave me something far more valuable: the realization that b Read More
Tired of being belittled, misunderstood, or having your words twisted around by a bully? If you're a "normal" nice person, when you encounter someone difficult your natural reaction is to try to reason with them and win them over. Forget it! Medical doctor and life coach Dr. Susan Biali explains simple strategies for dealing with these types once and for all. Read More
I will forever believe in and nurture my relationships. Yes, there are rough patches—sometimes it seems like you just jump from one to another. Sex always has its own set of issues and sometimes it's even used as a weapon to garner power with a partner. But a committed couple can work through these problems. Read More
I developed a friendship with someone that started out as a physical therapist. Lately she has become extremely clingy and needy. She is constantly texting and if I don't respond quickly she immediately jumps on me asking if something is wrong. Read More
Surprisingly few marriage therapists inquire in sufficient detail about the frequency and satisfaction levels of their couples' sexual activity, or focus enough on sexual issues during treatment.
Dear Dr. Alasko: Our 20-year-old son dropped out of college a couple of months ago—he was an English/philosophy major-because he wants to work at something "meaningful." He said that studying was pointless and doesn't truly "help" people. We, of course, would support him in anything he wants to do. Read More
Gentlemen: You want to become irresistible to the ladies. Become a successful artist. A recent study validates the adage that women have a weakness for the achieving artistic types. Even Robert Pattinson’s wax replica is intoxicating to his legion of female fans! Read More
We all complain many times a day to our families, friends, co-workers, customer service representatives, and even strangers in the elevator. But what many of us don't realize is that how we voice our complaints can have huge implications for our mental health Read More
It is generally agreed that we should always try to do the best we can. Yet, if we really examine this assumption we find that it may lead to an unhealthy compulsion. When taken to the extreme, the need to be your very best can derail your ability to live a more balanced life. Read More
Whether withholding loving words through the silent treatment or withholding sex as punishment each is a game that is detrimental to relationships. In the sexless marriage oftentimes couples need to step back, put their priorities in order, and learn the art of kissing and making up. Read More
Human beings have remarkably inventive ways to rid themselves from painful feelings. The more agonizing the emotion, the more resourceful one has to be. People with borderline and narcissistic disorders experience may experience a great deal of pain, so they get pretty savvy.