"Here," my mom's oncologist said, handing me a thumb-sized vial of her spinal fluid, "take this down the street for analysis." There was nothing I wouldn't have done for my mom that day, even as I knew that the spinal fluid analysis would only confirm that her cancer had spread to her brain and there was nothing left for us to do. Read More
Narcissists require others for "narcissistic supply." They fear losing it. People with BPD fear real or imagined abandonment. These twin fears incite behaviors that wound their loved ones and ironically drive them out of relationships with the people who need them so desperately.
How many times have you discovered that you are actually standing in your own way? Old habits die hard. Old thinking seems entrenched. Long-held fears are holding tight and opening up to new possibilities and new story lines seems impossible. Read More
I am faced with this excruciating emptiness daily. Is it covering up all of the intense and hot emotions brewing under the surface? I would almost feel better if it were covering up something, because I hate this void! I want to know that there is something other than this horrible black hole inside of me. Am I really just a blank page? Read More
Diagnosing depression as an illness and treating it with anti-depressant medication may create new difficulties. The risks include dampening your ability to feel happiness and sexual arousal, and causing weight gain, drug dependency and relationship problems. What if you treat depression instead as indicating a problem in your life? Read More
The failure of a romantic relationship is always a difficult experience, but regarding it as a personal failure is even worse. But what does it mean for a relationship to a failure, and does this imply that you have failed personally as well? Read More
People with narcissistic and borderline personality disorder want to be the focus of your life. This can make it difficult to tell BPD and NPD apart when you really want to know what you're dealing with. With a little education, you'll know whether or not the person in your life is a narcissist or borderline (although someone can have both). Read More
Sad love. The concept is seemingly as ineffable as love itself, although most people understand exactly how sad love feels. Separately, sadness is felt as a heavy emptiness that may be coupled with a yearning to have what is unattainable or to bring back what was lost. Read More