Dear Dr. Alasko: Our 20-year-old son dropped out of college a couple of months ago—he was an English/philosophy major-because he wants to work at something "meaningful." He said that studying was pointless and doesn't truly "help" people. We, of course, would support him in anything he wants to do. Read More
Gentlemen: You want to become irresistible to the ladies. Become a successful artist. A recent study validates the adage that women have a weakness for the achieving artistic types. Even Robert Pattinson’s wax replica is intoxicating to his legion of female fans! Read More
We all complain many times a day to our families, friends, co-workers, customer service representatives, and even strangers in the elevator. But what many of us don't realize is that how we voice our complaints can have huge implications for our mental health Read More
It is generally agreed that we should always try to do the best we can. Yet, if we really examine this assumption we find that it may lead to an unhealthy compulsion. When taken to the extreme, the need to be your very best can derail your ability to live a more balanced life. Read More
Whether withholding loving words through the silent treatment or withholding sex as punishment each is a game that is detrimental to relationships. In the sexless marriage oftentimes couples need to step back, put their priorities in order, and learn the art of kissing and making up. Read More
Human beings have remarkably inventive ways to rid themselves from painful feelings. The more agonizing the emotion, the more resourceful one has to be. People with borderline and narcissistic disorders experience may experience a great deal of pain, so they get pretty savvy.
I don't know about you but I'm amazed at what seems to be considered as acceptable behavior out there. This is clearly seen among politicians during the recent GOP debates, celebrities of all types, and many others in the news. But it seems to be more and more true of people in general. Just ask anyone who works in customer services. Read More
There are a couple tricks of the mind that make people overlook perfectly good partners. But, you don't have to make those mistakes. Learn to overcome the biases...and find the love you're looking for! Read More
Do you avoid conflict? Feel reluctant to offer differing opinions? Do you err on the other side, disagreeing often and inadvertently making yourself unpleasant to talk with?
This triple A (AAA) strategy for expressing disagreement can enable you to share your differing viewpoints in a way that keeps your relationships harmonious.
For the New Year, in the month of January, we have been discussing recovery and finding your path to emotional wellness from pathological love relationships in 2012. When women get mild relief from the unrelenting symptoms of the aftermath with a pathological, it can be palatable to them. Read More
I'm a senior in high school and have no social life whatsoever. It's not that I have no friends--I have a group of people that I'm really close with in school. We're always together, talking, laughing, whatever. However, come Friday afternoon, that's it. You wouldn't know we even knew each other over the weekend. Read More
A married man wanted "closure" from his lost love obsessions and went to a therapist for help. He was not interested in renewing a relationship, just in trying to get over it. Was his therapist right to tell him to contact her?