Last August, lost my cell phone. I left it in a cab in NYC and to make matters worse had not properly backed up my contacts. In an effort to regain some of those contacts, I sent out messages on Facebook. Some people responded and some did not, which made me feel very sad. Read More
Of all the barriers that discourage committing to a new lover, the wall of bitterness is the most deadly. There is no greater warning sign to a potential relationship than cynicism about the past. Those black clouds signal the presence of a failure-demon, who lies in wait for the first time you do not meet his or her expectations. Read More
I was sitting in the doctor's office 20 minutes early for an appointment that would be a half hour late thumbing through a six month old magazine, when I came across an article on the amazing things being done with service dogs. Read More
What drives us to feel jealous and suffer over this stirring emotion isn't always the "smiling enemies" we formulate in our minds. The "sexy secretary" and "college love" are rarely the threats we think they are, but the overwhelming, possessed state of suspicion we enter because of these characters, can be a real hazard to our closest relationships. Read More
It is crucial to remember that politics are made up of people, and these people's underlying psychology is analogous to those of divorcing parents. We reprint an article we wrote for Politico here hoping to remind everyone that what we need most is not competition between parties, but collaboration. Read More
How often do you argue with your spouse about driving, the television being too loud, their snoring, the toilet seat being left up, or needing to remind them repeatedly about social engagements? Technology to the rescue! Read More
A large trade association is stung by accusations from staff that it practices racial and sexual bias. Anger and resentment erupt when a senior VP is threatened with a lawsuit.A public interest organization engaged in social justice advocacy is confronted with staff allegations of hostile, abusive management practices. Read More
Suppose high school sweethearts separate, then marry other people and have children ... and suppose one has a son and the other a daughter, about the same age...
Can the grown children ever fulfill the love that their parents lost so many years before? Read More
I am a 34-year-old man who had a dream. It sounds silly but it was to make a film.
When I told my friends about this (which was in March) they were extremely supportive of the idea, which I found surprising but then... Read More
"Why can't we see each other on Friday evenings?" Aimee asked.
A look of annoyance crossed Gene's face as he said "That's my night with the guys. I've told you that over and over."
"OK, OK, I get it." Tears welled up in her eyes. Read More
My experiences in martial arts have had a huge influence on me. The concepts of self-discipline, focus, body awareness and respect for others, along with the overall health benefits have been usefully applied in many aspects of my life. This influence began back when I was 13 for no better reason than my older brother did karate. Read More
Teaching your partner to satisfy you is similar to teaching a teenager to drive. Teaching both skills requires giving clear and direct verbal instructions, as well as providing demonstrations. Read More
I just spent the week with Sookie Stackhouse in Bon Temps, Louisiana. I had never seen an episode of True Blood until six days ago when I watched episode 1 season 1 on HBOGO on my ipad. Yesterday, I left Sookie screaming in the Finale of Season 4. Read More
In my decades of practice as a psychotherapist, this is the insight that has inspired me most: Our deepest wounds surround our greatest gifts.
I've found that the very qualities we're most ashamed of, the ones we keep trying to reshape or hide, are in fact the key to finding real love. I call them core gifts.
For his movies Brad Pitt has to memorize lines and carefully think through his motivations. But in real life he doesn't seem to think before he speaks. In fact, he could use a second take. In a recent interview with Parade magazine he basically said that he didn't like his life much when he was married to Jennifer Aniston and that their marriage was, well, boring. Read More