"Do I have your divided attention?" he often asks.

Humor is justified with a ''mild'' mental illness. There are small battles with my ADD but it's really not that serious.I would like to add that people with depression have concentration problems,which is why they get thrown into our category. Is humor not one of the many things that separates us from depressives?To me your humor shows who you are, then again, Bipolar people are very funny as well."That was a joke''. I sometimes think the ADD perspective of levity irritates Depressives. Wonderful post-Sincerely,David

Albert Einstein was very good at math this is not something that those with ADD are good at.He also cheated on his wife something that those with ''just'' ADD don't do as well. He falls into the depressive category.-David

The author of this article is so lucky to have a wife who is willing to understand that he has a problem. Everyone else is not so fortunate.

After several blows to my head, and exposure to Black mold......I started noticing some problems with my attention and auditory processing,etc... in 11th grade....and I tried to laugh it off because I felt bad about it. Instead of getting me checked out, my mom just criticized and scolded me. Later my "friends" in college eventually distanced themselves from me, started treating me like I was stupid, and started criticizing me behind my back.

Today I'm in a borderline abusive relationship with an older man who thinks I'm just "ignoring him intentionally". My professors in college could clearly see how my problem impacted concepts that I clearly understood.....and they never said anything to me. Two years ago I went to Disability Services at school and they never bothered to refer me to a place where I could get diagnosed. My old counselor ignored my email when I turned to him after disability services ignored me.

Today instead of giving me advice all my mother does is criticize me, tell me that my current counselor isn't good enough, and she BRAGS about how both she and my younger brother are still in touch with all of their old friends. YES, she knows that I don't have any close friends because no one stood up for me when I was unfairly ousted from college. She also makes up things to tell her old friends AND MY OLD FRIENDS to make them feel like I'm an idiot. For example she said,"When my daughter got her new glasses she said,"I can finally see the tops of trees." I was an honors student, graduated with a 3.4gpa, and was very articulate. I never said that and would never say something so shortsighted and stupid.

Anhyow, having a disorder is hard....especially when people think you're "extremely smart" and just ignoring them or being lazy....its especially hard if a sociopath thinks you're "just ignoring them", "playing games", or "being lazy". It may help a little at first to make light of it...but over time as caring relationships gradually disappear or become rare....it becomes too painful to make light of it. I couldn't begin to describe to you how much it hurts sometimes. I want close mutual friendships so badly...but in the end people who never bother to speak to me just treat me like its fully and completely my fault that I don't have close friends anymore. When was alone, bullied, and/or failing to maintain relationships EVERYBODY accused me of blaming my problems on other people...including my old counselors. When I couldn't find a job I was told that I wasn't trying hard enough

I'M A WOMAN, I'M NOT WHITE, AND MOST PEOPLE DON'T CARE!!! All I ever get is isolated, blamed, ignored, and judged.....while others treat someone else better than me just to make me look like a horrible person. "Not hearing" people and "miscopying" information only magnifies the issue. I even got arrested for profanely asking my bullies who worked hard to make others isolate me to just leave me alone. After the arrest I was stalked by the campus police, and MY statements that I gave complaining about the bullying were all thrown in the trash. I was treated like a liar....and I was treated like like a potential Virginia Tech Shooter in the making. My parents don't want to stand up for me at all.

I wish that I could have people in my life who could care enough to understand that I have a problem which impacts my life in many ways.

Instead I'm just being frozen out and being made out to look like some things that I'm not. That's because several other people don't want to feel guilty about wanting to reject me.....and they need to cover their tracks. I just want to get help and be left alone.

The problem is that you're not funny. Moreover, you're in lala land, coming up with these visions of all people with ADHD.

Tell me, please: Have you ever studied this subject, or do you just sit down and use your endless imagination to spin these scenarios?

What kind of blind grandiosity does it take to think that is sufficient?

Staggering. Just staggering. "Oversight" is the correct word.

Dr. Lawliss,

Get on medication. Get some help. You live in the land of denial. I bet your wife isn't quite as happy about living with you and your ADD as you are. For those of us who live or have lived with adults with ADD, there isn't very much humor in it. It's difficult to laugh at the huge problems ADD causes in lives, both for the person with it, and the ones who have to deal with it day after day. Lost jobs, lost income, wasted money, rages, forgetting important thing, blaming spouses, making up one excuse after another, expecting other people to compensate for you. High stress. Exhaustion.

People with ADD are notorious for not believing or understanding the affect their disorder has on them, or the people that have to live with it. Wake up and do some good in the world, will you?

You negative people give ADHD a bad name. It is not as bad as the "experts" make it out to be. Of course, the more negative they are about ADHD, the more money they reap selling their convoluted BS to naive sheeple. Pathetic.

Gina: Is there a forum where you do not post your lying BS?

I don't think you are really attempting to take ADHD (or anything else, apparently) seriously. I haven't read a single serious perspective from your past 3 articles about the affects of ADHD on relationships/marriage. This article goes off on weird (you'd say creative) tangents about humor and only hints at what your own spouse has to deal with your marriage. Humor is subjective. I hope your wife is laughing with you. Also, is anyone editing these articles--see your third sentence.

As I posted to an earlier article, ADHD creativity is all well and good but if it's never used to benefit the marriage relationship (planning a date, vacation or other fun-for-both activity) that's not really a plus. If you'd taken the last two sentences of this article and expanded on that, maybe you'd be actually be adressing some of the real relationship issues with ADHD.

Note to Cannabis, if you really understood and could experience ADHD from the non-ADHD partner's perspective you'd be better informed. It is a "spectrum" disorder which means there are levels, from mild all the way to causing real difficulties.