Evolution of the Self

On the paradoxes of personality.

Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D., who holds doctorates in English and Psychology, is a clinical psychologist and author of Paradoxical Strategies in Psychotherapy. See full bio

May 20, 2009, Addiction

Comments on "Feeling Good--Vs. Feeling Good About Ourselves (Part 1)"

Feeling Good--Vs. Feeling Good About Ourselves (Part 1)

By Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D. on May 20, 2009 in Evolution of the Self

Feeling Good--But Not Necessarily About Ourselves

I think it's safe to say that whenever we feel good about ourselves, we feel good, period. Of course, we could be sick (i.e., not feel very good), but we could still feel just fine about who we are. Barring any health considerations, our most potent safeguard against life's ups and downs is developing the most positive sense of self possible. Thus protected against the "slings and arrows of outrageous fortune," we can almost always feel good--regardless of what's going on in the day-to-day drama of our lives. Read More

Great articles

Submitted by Jason on May 20, 2009 - 11:40am.

Your articles are always so relevant and insightful. I look forward to reading the second part of this post. I wish you lived in Canada so I could talk to you in person!

Feeling Good

Submitted by Neal on June 11, 2009 - 9:10am.

Lee- I guess part of the struggle is “not knowing” that there is a better way to feel good about yourself. As you stated the temporary shortcuts, just lead to more of the same. You have taught me about real personal change & boundaries. This has help to empower me & feel good about my choices, which in turn, gives me feeling of self worth. Most of the time, I fear the change necessary because the "OLD WAY" always seems easier, in fact, the old way leads to the same path & the new way (change in behavior or action) brings new forth conclusions that are far & above my expectations.
Enjoy the day,
Neal