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You Just mentioned a very
You Just mentioned a very important point which is going to the wrong places, i believe this can delay the search a lot
I think this is a good
I think this is a good article, but would like to mention that women shouldn't lower their standards to get a man. The book "he's just not that into you" explains perfectly that women deserve to be treated like the princesses they are. Not that men can't have flaws, just as long as those flaws aren't fatal in the relationship (like dating a married man or an alcoholic).
Uhm, no...
> The book "he's just not that into you" explains perfectly that
> women deserve to be treated like the princesses they are.
While you're right that the book flatters and panders to women by presenting a universe where all women are 10's and all men are big fat 0's, it fails to reconcile why it is then that any woman would want to have anything to do with such scum.
Not to mention the obvious fact that only a tiny tiny minority of women are in fact 10's or anywhere near to being princesses (even with relaxed definitions of the word). I mean, even Cinderella required a Fairy Godmother, but I don't know too many women these days who have one of those.
There's a straight line from Cinderella to "The Rules", and the book is just a superficially hipper and more modern version of the latter Really Dumb Book. In my opinion. But it does serve a function by making it easy to weed out those women who are big fans because they're usually so eager to mention it.
the perfect hang up
Thanks for mentioning the "he has to be perfect" thing. My roomate is always attracted to guys with a free spirit who like to create and also are sensitive. She speaks of how much she loves these traits but wont accept thier counterpoints such as the free spirit not being on time or the sensitive guy over-reacting. If she truely values these traits there has to be a comprimise and acceptance of the other side. A timely and un-emotional seeming man would bore her to death. There is no Mr. Perfect and it pains me to see her stressing about little things rather than enjoying the company of someone she for the most part really enjoys.
Value Scale
I've found that "the more one has of a thing the less value it has." If this is true, then the reverse should also be true: "the less one has of a thing the more value it has to them."
I'm thinking of sex and cigarettes. Yep it's true.
It seems insane to me to that
It seems insane to me to that the most important factor the happiness survey found was a "meaningful relationship." I don't believe that people really believe that deep down, and if they do, they need to look around and see if people who are in so-called meaningful relationships are really so much happier than they are.
I also think it is very sad to suggest that people should settle for Mr/Ms Will Do. What is the point of being in a relationship if it's not Mr/Ms Right? Would it just be better to stay to single than to have to live day in and day out with someone whom you merely tolerate?
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