Psychology Today Blogs http://www.psychologytoday.com/posts 30 en-US The Dynamics of Social Networking: Anxiety and Avoidance http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-almost-effect/201407/the-dynamics-social-networking-anxiety-and-avoidance Attachment styles influence our relationships in the cyber-world as well as the real world.<p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-almost-effect/201407/the-dynamics-social-networking-anxiety-and-avoidance" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-almost-effect/201407/the-dynamics-social-networking-anxiety-and-avoidance#comments Relationships Social Life Sun, 13 Jul 2014 14:46:00 +0000 Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D. 154997 at http://www.psychologytoday.com How to Recognize and Handle Manipulative Relationships http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/communication-success/201407/how-recognize-and-handle-manipulative-relationships Psychological manipulation can be defined as the exercise of undue influence through mental distortion and emotional exploitation, with the intention to seize power, control, benefits, and privileges at the victim’s expense. Here are five types of psychological manipulation you may find in unhealthy relationships...<p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/communication-success/201407/how-recognize-and-handle-manipulative-relationships" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/communication-success/201407/how-recognize-and-handle-manipulative-relationships#comments Addiction Aging Anxiety Behavioral Economics Child Development Creativity Depression Education Environment Ethics and Morality Evolutionary Psychology Gender Happiness Intelligence Law and Crime Media Parenting Personality Philosophy Politics Procrastination Psych Careers Psychiatry Race and Ethnicity Relationships Resilience Self-Help Sex Social Life Stress Therapy Work abusive partner abusive relationship anger management brainwashing bullying conflict management conflict resolution confronting bullies controlling relationship deceptive practice difficult behavior difficult people emotional abuse emotional exploitation exploitation fundamental human rights hostile humor how to deal with bullies how to say no How to Spot and Deal with Manipulative People humiliation individual rights inferiority complex influence intimidation lying manipulative people manipulative relationships manipulator manipulators martyrdom mental abuse mental distortion mixed messages oppression passive aggressive personalities relationships physical abuse Psychological manipulation sarcasm self-blame sexual abuse shaming superiority complex temper tantrum victimhood work conflict work hostility Sun, 13 Jul 2014 13:20:55 +0000 Preston Ni, M.S.B.A. 137323 at http://www.psychologytoday.com Why Do I Always End Up in “Bad” Relationships? http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/contemporary-psychoanalysis-in-action/201407/why-do-i-always-end-in-bad-relationships Why Do I Always End Up in “Bad” Relationships? An irrelationship is a relationship used to hide from a ... relationship! By Mark B. Borg, Jr., Ph.D., Grant H. Brenner, MD, &amp; Daniel Berry, RN, MHA. <p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/contemporary-psychoanalysis-in-action/201407/why-do-i-always-end-in-bad-relationships" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/contemporary-psychoanalysis-in-action/201407/why-do-i-always-end-in-bad-relationships#comments Anxiety Happiness Relationships Therapy Sun, 13 Jul 2014 12:57:57 +0000 The Contemporary Psychoanalysis Group 154932 at http://www.psychologytoday.com Silence of the Facts: Sexual Values Aren’t Beholden to Data http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/insight-therapy/201407/silence-the-facts-sexual-values-aren-t-beholden-data Science can discover what was, observe what is, and predict what will be. But it is agnostic on the question of what should be.<p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/insight-therapy/201407/silence-the-facts-sexual-values-aren-t-beholden-data" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/insight-therapy/201407/silence-the-facts-sexual-values-aren-t-beholden-data#comments Ethics and Morality Evolutionary Psychology Philosophy Sex Sun, 13 Jul 2014 11:56:53 +0000 Noam Shpancer, Ph.D. 154898 at http://www.psychologytoday.com Are You Excellent at Running a Meeting? A Self-Assessment http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/how-do-life/201407/are-you-excellent-running-meeting-self-assessment A self-assessment checklist that can help you run meetings better, And that can be key to becoming a workplace star. <p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/how-do-life/201407/are-you-excellent-running-meeting-self-assessment" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/how-do-life/201407/are-you-excellent-running-meeting-self-assessment#comments Work leadership management meeting meetings running a meeting staff meeting Sun, 13 Jul 2014 07:06:56 +0000 Marty Nemko, Ph.D. 154966 at http://www.psychologytoday.com Sole Survivor Finds Hope in a Hogwarts Wizard's Words http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/beyond-heroes-and-villains/201407/sole-survivor-finds-hope-in-hogwarts-wizards-words Sole survivor Cassidy Stay memorializes her slain parents and siblings with words from the fictitious Albus Dumbledore, Hogwarts' school headmaster in J. K. Rowling's Harry Potter series of novels: "Happiness can be found in even the darkest of times, if only one remembers to turn on the light." Her courage, her resilience, and her choice of words speak for themselves.<p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/beyond-heroes-and-villains/201407/sole-survivor-finds-hope-in-hogwarts-wizards-words" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/beyond-heroes-and-villains/201407/sole-survivor-finds-hope-in-hogwarts-wizards-words#comments Aging Law and Crime Media Resilience Spirituality 911 Albus Dumbledore angels balloons Cassidy Stay Dumbledore family murder harry potter Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban Hogwarts hope inspiration J. K. Rowling Jo Rowling mass murder massacre resilience sole survivor Texas Sun, 13 Jul 2014 06:20:10 +0000 Travis Langley, Ph.D. 154989 at http://www.psychologytoday.com Understanding Interracial Relationships http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/it-s-man-s-and-woman-s-world/201407/understanding-interracial-relationships-1 A popular strain of social science research conceptualizes interracial unions as social exchanges, with the implicit assumption that white is “better,” at least in the eyes of the romantic partners. But wouldn’t interracial couples tend to endorse racial equality? Generally, how might researchers' assumptions about race, sex, beauty, and gender bias theories and findings?<p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/it-s-man-s-and-woman-s-world/201407/understanding-interracial-relationships-1" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/it-s-man-s-and-woman-s-world/201407/understanding-interracial-relationships-1#comments Gender Race and Ethnicity Relationships Sun, 13 Jul 2014 02:27:33 +0000 Elizabeth Aura McClintock, Ph.D. 154988 at http://www.psychologytoday.com So, Why Do You Want to Become a Doctor? http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/hide-and-seek/201407/so-why-do-you-want-become-doctor British psychiatrist Dr Tom Stockmann explores the question.<p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/hide-and-seek/201407/so-why-do-you-want-become-doctor" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/hide-and-seek/201407/so-why-do-you-want-become-doctor#comments Psych Careers Sat, 12 Jul 2014 23:51:39 +0000 Neel Burton, M.D. 154985 at http://www.psychologytoday.com Premature Ejaculation? Self-Help Usually Cures It http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/201407/premature-ejaculation-self-help-usually-cures-it A recent study show that a booklet can teach two-thirds of men to last as long as they'd like.<p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/201407/premature-ejaculation-self-help-usually-cures-it" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/201407/premature-ejaculation-self-help-usually-cures-it#comments Anxiety Relationships Self-Help Sex premature ejaculation Sat, 12 Jul 2014 23:34:17 +0000 Michael Castleman, M.A. 154984 at http://www.psychologytoday.com LeBron James to Cleveland: "I'm Coming Home" http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/evolution-the-self/201407/lebron-james-cleveland-im-coming-home If there’s such a thing as a city's "psyche,” then Cleveland’s just got a boost beyond anything other than their Indians’ winning the World Series back in (gasp!) 1948. So how can a single individual--namely, basketball superstar LeBron James--have such a monumental effect on so many people?--as though all of Cleveland’s citizenry just won an Olympic gold medal?<p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/evolution-the-self/201407/lebron-james-cleveland-im-coming-home" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/evolution-the-self/201407/lebron-james-cleveland-im-coming-home#comments Personality Relationships Sport and Competition Sat, 12 Jul 2014 20:12:13 +0000 Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D. 154973 at http://www.psychologytoday.com Why Are So Many Smart Women So Clueless about Single Life? http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-single/201407/why-are-so-many-smart-women-so-clueless-about-single-life High-profile women such as Arianna Huffington and Mika Brzezinski want us to "thrive" by defining our success by metrics other than money and power. But in their discussions of women, the only other metrics they come up with are marriage and parenting. Do they really mean to relegate the millions of single women with no kids to the dustbin of humanity? <p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-single/201407/why-are-so-many-smart-women-so-clueless-about-single-life" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-single/201407/why-are-so-many-smart-women-so-clueless-about-single-life#comments Happiness Media Relationships Self-Help Arianna Huffington burnout caregiving demographics family feminism friends Julianne Moore Katie Couric marriage Mika Brzezinski money myths about single people parenting power single women singlism social life stress success Thrive movement traditional roles work Sat, 12 Jul 2014 19:31:57 +0000 Bella DePaulo, Ph.D. 154972 at http://www.psychologytoday.com Creativity Rocks When You Walk http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/creating-in-flow/201407/creativity-rocks-when-you-walk If empirical studies move you, I mean really move you to get up and get moving, then recent experiments may sway you. It’s been found that walking may lead to more creativity. Plus some ideas to keep daily walks from boring you.<p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/creating-in-flow/201407/creativity-rocks-when-you-walk" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/creating-in-flow/201407/creativity-rocks-when-you-walk#comments Creativity Self-Help creativity ideas motivation Susan K. Perry walking Sat, 12 Jul 2014 19:09:55 +0000 Susan K. Perry, Ph.D. 150931 at http://www.psychologytoday.com Self-Validation http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/pieces-mind/201407/self-validation Learning to validate yourself <p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/pieces-mind/201407/self-validation" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/pieces-mind/201407/self-validation#comments Self-Help Sat, 12 Jul 2014 17:08:51 +0000 Karyn Hall, Ph.D. 154049 at http://www.psychologytoday.com Not Every Disaster is a Trauma http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/feeling-our-way/201407/not-every-disaster-is-trauma A new, old terminology for PTSD.<p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/feeling-our-way/201407/not-every-disaster-is-trauma" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/feeling-our-way/201407/not-every-disaster-is-trauma#comments Psychiatry Resilience Stress Therapy Sat, 12 Jul 2014 17:08:09 +0000 Michael Karson, Ph.D., J.D. 154965 at http://www.psychologytoday.com On Being a Good Mother http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/dreaming-freud/201407/being-good-mother How to be a good mother? <p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/dreaming-freud/201407/being-good-mother" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/dreaming-freud/201407/being-good-mother#comments Education Relationships Sat, 12 Jul 2014 16:20:15 +0000 Sheila Kohler 154963 at http://www.psychologytoday.com Pink Freud http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-me-in-we/201407/pink-freud What does psychoanalysis have to say to someone trans or queer?<p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-me-in-we/201407/pink-freud" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-me-in-we/201407/pink-freud#comments Creativity Evolutionary Psychology Gender Sex anatomy Ann Pelligrini binary castration clio's psyche consciousness cross-dressing eroticism feminine feminist feminized fetishism Freud gender genderfluid jew Jewish LBGT libido Lucian Freud Marilyn Charles masculine normal normative psychoanalysis psychoanalytic Sander Gilman sex sexuality trans transgender women Sat, 12 Jul 2014 14:23:45 +0000 Molly S. Castelloe, Ph.D. 154960 at http://www.psychologytoday.com What Do Grown Unschoolers Think of Unschooling? IV in Series http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/freedom-learn/201407/what-do-grown-unschoolers-think-unschooling-iv-in-series Most of the grown unschoolers in our survey were very happy with their unschooling and said they would unschool their own children. A few, however, were unhappy, and their descriptions of their childhoods make it clear why they would be. This final report in the series describes the advantages and disadvantages of unschooling, in the respondents’ own words.<p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/freedom-learn/201407/what-do-grown-unschoolers-think-unschooling-iv-in-series" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/freedom-learn/201407/what-do-grown-unschoolers-think-unschooling-iv-in-series#comments Child Development Creativity Education Happiness Parenting Free to Learn grown unschoolers unschooling Sat, 12 Jul 2014 13:37:25 +0000 Peter Gray 154955 at http://www.psychologytoday.com Do Chimpanzees Like Music? http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/music-matters/201407/do-chimpanzees-music Chimpanzees prefer West-African and North-Indian music. That is the conclusion of an interesting study, co-authored by primatologist Frans de Waal, that appeared last week in the Journal of Experimental Psychology: Animal Learning and Cognition.<p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/music-matters/201407/do-chimpanzees-music" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/music-matters/201407/do-chimpanzees-music#comments Animal Behavior Cognition Creativity Ethics and Morality Evolutionary Psychology Neuroscience frans de waal music cognition music evolution musicality Sat, 12 Jul 2014 13:19:08 +0000 Henkjan Honing, Ph.D. 154957 at http://www.psychologytoday.com Another Reason Narcissists Are So Hard to Live With http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201407/another-reason-narcissists-are-so-hard-live People who are high in narcissism can be entitled, demanding, and self-centered. As if this didn’t make life with them difficult enough, new research shows that their desire for perfection creates even more misery for their partners. <p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201407/another-reason-narcissists-are-so-hard-live" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201407/another-reason-narcissists-are-so-hard-live#comments Happiness Relationships cognitions conflict egocentrism intimacy narcissism perfectionism relationship tips self-promotion Sat, 12 Jul 2014 12:49:00 +0000 Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D. 154928 at http://www.psychologytoday.com Should You Retire? http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/how-do-life/201407/should-you-retire Ten questions to help you decide whether to retire.<p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/how-do-life/201407/should-you-retire" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/how-do-life/201407/should-you-retire#comments Aging Work retirement retiring should I retire Sat, 12 Jul 2014 07:25:23 +0000 Marty Nemko, Ph.D. 154942 at http://www.psychologytoday.com Turning Brazil's Loss Into A Teachable Moment for Kids http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-dolphin-way/201407/turning-brazils-loss-teachable-moment-kids Good parenting is the best coaching. Teach your kids that losing is temporary and a natural part of life! It’s not whether you win or lose, it’s how you handle the outcome of the game. Turning Brazil’s loss into a teachable moment for kids. <p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-dolphin-way/201407/turning-brazils-loss-teachable-moment-kids" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-dolphin-way/201407/turning-brazils-loss-teachable-moment-kids#comments Child Development Parenting Resilience Sport and Competition brazil child growth children Football learning losing neymar silva soccer sports tiger parenting winning world cup Sat, 12 Jul 2014 02:36:31 +0000 Shimi Kang, M.D. 154950 at http://www.psychologytoday.com Do Comedians Possess Bipolar Traits? http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/humor-sapiens/201407/do-comedians-possess-bipolar-traits Do Comedians Possess Bipolar Traits?<p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/humor-sapiens/201407/do-comedians-possess-bipolar-traits" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/humor-sapiens/201407/do-comedians-possess-bipolar-traits#comments Creativity Evolutionary Psychology Intelligence Personality Psychiatry bipolar disorder humor stand-up comedy Sat, 12 Jul 2014 00:58:45 +0000 Gil Greengross, Ph.D. 154946 at http://www.psychologytoday.com You and me…. and the World http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/talking-about-trauma/201407/you-and-me-and-the-world The challenges and obstacles of being an interracial couple<p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/talking-about-trauma/201407/you-and-me-and-the-world" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/talking-about-trauma/201407/you-and-me-and-the-world#comments Happiness Race and Ethnicity Relationships Stress dating family interracial couples racism relationships Fri, 11 Jul 2014 23:46:57 +0000 Robert T. Muller, Ph.D. 154941 at http://www.psychologytoday.com The Dark Side of Dependency http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-dark-side-personality/201407/the-dark-side-dependency Compared to other personality disorders such as antisocial or borderline personality disorder, not nearly as much research attention had been devoted to dependent personality disorder. However, interpersonal dependency is associated with a variety of both negative and positive consequences. <p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-dark-side-personality/201407/the-dark-side-dependency" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-dark-side-personality/201407/the-dark-side-dependency#comments Health Personality Relationships dependent personality disorder Fri, 11 Jul 2014 22:42:50 +0000 David Marcus, Ph.D. 154940 at http://www.psychologytoday.com Don't Change, Be Curious http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fixing-families/201407/dont-change-be-curious Our notions about change can make the process seem overwhelming, but needn't be. The trick is the think of change as a verb, not a noun, that it's about being curious, playful, experimenting with breaking patterns, doing different than doing right just to see what it is like. Some tips...<p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fixing-families/201407/dont-change-be-curious" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fixing-families/201407/dont-change-be-curious#comments Addiction Health Relationships Self-Help Fri, 11 Jul 2014 22:36:28 +0000 Robert Taibbi, L.C.S.W. 154532 at http://www.psychologytoday.com Who's Afraid of "Big Bad Nature"? Far Too Many Kids http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/animal-emotions/201407/whos-afraid-big-bad-nature-far-too-many-kids Park rangers have observed that a fear of nature is growing in kids and adults. Surely conservation psychologists and conservation social workers can help us along in learning how to overcome the unwilding of youngsters. We also need to "rewild education" to allow youngsters to get out into nature and to get down and dirty. Little would be lost and much would be gained. <p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/animal-emotions/201407/whos-afraid-big-bad-nature-far-too-many-kids" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/animal-emotions/201407/whos-afraid-big-bad-nature-far-too-many-kids#comments Animal Behavior Fri, 11 Jul 2014 22:03:04 +0000 Marc Bekoff, Ph.D. 154938 at http://www.psychologytoday.com Delusional Infestations and Real Suffering http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-infested-mind/201407/delusional-infestations-and-real-suffering What if you believed, really believed, that you were infested with insects? After days of incessantly feeling them crawling under your skin, would it be so irrational to use a razor blade to get to them—just a shallow cut at first? Imagine how far you might go to rid yourself of these invaders… <p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-infested-mind/201407/delusional-infestations-and-real-suffering" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-infested-mind/201407/delusional-infestations-and-real-suffering#comments Anxiety Cognition Environment Evolutionary Psychology delusion delusory parasitosis Ekbom syndrome self-mutilation Fri, 11 Jul 2014 21:48:17 +0000 Jeffrey Lockwood, Ph.D. 154933 at http://www.psychologytoday.com Translator Transgressions http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/sideways-view/201407/translator-transgressions The business of live translation from one language to another is fraught with problems. many skilful translators use techniques like exemplification, modification and simplification to help understanding. But these techniques can cause problems and get them into trouble<p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/sideways-view/201407/translator-transgressions" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/sideways-view/201407/translator-transgressions#comments Media Fri, 11 Jul 2014 21:22:26 +0000 Adrian Furnham, Ph.D. 145409 at http://www.psychologytoday.com Maintaining a "Winning" Focus Is Not the Way to Win http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-coach-athlete-relationship/201407/maintaining-winning-focus-is-not-the-way-win Performance, in any discipline, requires engagement. When we shift attention from the task at hand to something that may, or may not, happen in the future (winning/losing and the potential repercussions), we undermine our ability to perform in the moment.<p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-coach-athlete-relationship/201407/maintaining-winning-focus-is-not-the-way-win" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-coach-athlete-relationship/201407/maintaining-winning-focus-is-not-the-way-win#comments Sport and Competition Fri, 11 Jul 2014 19:54:15 +0000 Warrick Wood, MSc. 154874 at http://www.psychologytoday.com The Perfect 46: A Science Fiction Film About Our Near Future http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/genetic-crossroads/201407/the-perfect-46-science-fiction-film-about-our-near-future A new science fiction film that is described as “a sort of prequel to Gattaca” highlights the rise and fall of a genetic startup that analyzes people’s genomes to assess their ability to produce disease-free children.<p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/genetic-crossroads/201407/the-perfect-46-science-fiction-film-about-our-near-future" target="_blank">read more</a></p> http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/genetic-crossroads/201407/the-perfect-46-science-fiction-film-about-our-near-future#comments Ethics and Morality Integrative Medicine Media Parenting Relationships 23andMe direct-to-consumer genetic testing DNA egg donor eugenics fertility GenePeeks genetic testing genetics infertility Lee Silver personal genomics Science science fiction sperm donor The Perfect 46 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 19:32:08 +0000 Jessica Cussins 154924 at http://www.psychologytoday.com