Ever had that "I-need-him-I-know-we-are-meant-to-be-together-I-know-it-I-can't-breathe-I-can't-sleep-I-love-him-so-much" feeling, you may have experienced limerence.
Psychologist Dorothy Tennov's book Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love (1998) gives an insight into that involuntary feeling of want she has described as limerence. Tennov states that limerence in itself is normal and non-pathological. However, limerence can cross the line into pathology when a person is no longer able to function at their day-to-day activities. It is especially tough when a person's feelings of affection aren't reciprocated.
Limerence is characterized by:
- Obsessive thinking about the object of your affection
I know you can identify with this one. You can't get any work done. You've forgotten how to tie your shoes. All you can think about is him/her. You're on a high from the endorphins in your brain. You can't eat, you can't sleep.
- Irrationally positive evaluation of their attributes
Also known as, "Oh, he's an axe murderer? I can work with that."