Dear Dr. G.,
Ok in the month of January on the 19th I at the age of 16 broke up with my boyfriend. He told me that I was demanding and wanted to leave. We used to chat using Facebook so he blocked me. I tried to contact him but he did not answer me. I study in a school where girls and boys have different sections and can't meet each other. I still like him and can't forget him. My mom does not know so please tell me how to get him back as my friend and give detailed tips. Please—I am desperate. Please help me. I cannot contact him.
An Upset 16 Year Old Teen Girl
I am very glad that you reached out for help and advice. Clearly, you are very distressed. You must have really liked this young man. It is not clear how the break-up occurred but it seems as if you were not ready for the relationship to end.
I am not sure why your boyfriend has blocked you on Facebook. Did he do it to help himself get over you or to prevent you from checking in on his life? It is important that you think about the answer to this question. Perhaps he was experiencing you as obsessive and needed to get some distance.
I wish that I could provide you with a detailed response about how to get your former boyfriend back as a friend. Do you really want to be his friend or his girlfriend? This, too, is important for you to understand. Unfortunately, your boyfriend has made it clear in multiple ways that he does not want to be friends at this point in time. You need to respect that.