A client was telling me about interactions she sometimes has with her partner that are less than ideal. Because she struggles with anxiety that can get blown out of proportion and results in her snapping at everyone and everything, there are often several incidents during a typical week that can cause tension or hurt feelings between her and her partner.
As we all know, trying to diffuse an ugly situation in the moment, or shortly thereafter, when hurt feelings are still simmering, can often be challenging.
Their solution: Time on Sundays dedicated to “Questions/Comments/Concerns.”
My client and her partner decided to dedicate a specific time every Sunday to discuss their relationship. Both of them have had tumultuous romantic relationships in the past, and mutually wanted to use preventative strategies to avoid problems this time around. Thus, “Questions/Comments/Concerns” time was created.
During this dedicated time each week, these women focus on each other only–no distractions, no excuses. They believe by addressing problems in their relationship during a time when have agreed upon–as in, when no one is at the peak of emotion about it–they can more effectively tackle the problems and work together to create solutions.