“I don’t think we are a good match. It’s not about you, it’s about me.”
“The chemistry just isn’t there, you know.”
“I think I’m not ready for the next step.”
“I just don’t think this is going to work.”
If you’ve ever signed up for an online dating service, you’ve most likely heard or said – or both – something like this at some point or another. You’ve also probably had people disappear altogether. Silence. Missing in action. No phone calls, texts, or emails. Nothing.
And if you’re like almost everyone I know who has tried this way of meeting someone, you have struggled not to take the rejection personally. But, as you very likely know, it’s not so easy. When someone gives you the brush off, it hurts. Even if it’s someone you don’t particularly like. Maybe you’ve gone out one more time with a guy you thought was just “okay;” you don’t want to be too quick or too critical; and then he shoots you one of these lines. Really?
So why do these rejections hurt so much? And what can you do to protect yourself from injury, or at least heal from them more quickly? Here are some suggestions: