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Three Little Words You Long to Hear: “It’s their fault.”

When you blame your frustrations on others, you waste brainpower that you could have spent meeting your needs. Instead, think like a mountain goat when focusing on your next step. Your brain cannot climb a mountain and curse it at the same time. Read More

Your article made me angry

Your article made me really angry. Your lack of sensitivity towards those of us who struggle in life is typical of those in academia and as I write these words, I can feel my ire rising even more.
It is now 7.30am my time - thank you for spoiling my day!

Oops. Omission in previous post

My original post omitted the following right at the end:
"It's your fault"


I struggled myself, for a long time. Everybody struggles. I looked for a way to may it better. I knew being angry at the world didn't work because I'd tried it, and the people around me were angrier and they were worse off than me. I found that letting go of blame worked for me. I offer it to those it may help. Maybe it's not what will work for you. Hundreds of other blogs will support the blaming of one's anger on the world. What do you think is a good strategy? I hope to learn something from you.

Thank you

Thank you for taking the trouble to reply.
I guess the blogosphere is so full of different types of people, trolls included, that blog-posters are never sure how to respond or indeed what to make of people who comment.
In my case, it seems apparent that what I intended to convey (appreciation), got lost somewhere, no doubt as a result of blogospheric encroachment and clumsy writing on my part.
Fact is, I loved you post. So much so, that I wanted to respond and perhaps give you a chuckle and so I (crudely) attempted hyperbole on the very topic you wrote about. And you were caring enough to perhaps feel I was struggling and so you responded with gentle empathy. Thank you.
My response clearly was a lead balloon.
It's all your fault.


Wow! I think it is blogospheric encroachment. Your writing was so good that I was saying to myself "Yikes, why doesn't he see..." But I didn't realize it was appreciation because the world alas includes people who do not agree with me and I have adjusted to that. So, THANKS FOR THE APPRECIATION.
Now I'm trying to think of something to blame you for so I can return the gesture, but I just can't...

Fault Lines

After finishing college I lived for a short while in an apartment building in which a young upstairs couple fought. I don’t mean they argued. I mean furniture thumped around the ceiling over my head on a regular basis. Both of them would shout precisely the same thing, usually in direct response to whichever one shouted it first: “Why are you doing this to me?!” For reasons known only to them, neither ever seemed to consider the possibility of resolving the issue by leaving. No doubt, one of them really was more at fault than the other, but, regardless, from the outside the solution to the problem was simple for either, at least in principle. (There may have been practical constraints of which I’m unaware.) Sticking around to make the point that other was to blame apparently was more important – or maybe it was just that the steps to the ground floor looked like a cliff.

Who is at Fault?

This question really keeps me thinking: Who is actually at fault? Is Blaming good or right? Seriously speaking, I did not have a convincing answer. However, if a situation is analyzed deeply, it is the wrong or incomplete understanding of the sufferer and doer, which is at fault. This is explained very subtly in the book available at:

That is great and very

That is great and very accurate. Being group stalked in 3 states it must be somebody's fault. I dont harass myself. Poison myself. Or remove a condom. Setups are someone else. Agenda purpose. 3states someone is doing this.

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Loretta Graziano Breuning, Ph.D., is the author of Meet Your Happy Chemicals and founder of the Inner Mammal Institute.


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