Of all the questions I get from readers, the most difficult to answer are always some variation of “but I’ve done everything ‘right’ and my daughter still calls herself fat. What can I do?” Believe me, I know how hard it is to hear your daughter put herself down – especially after you’ve taken care to speak positively to her, about your own body as well as hers.
That’s why I was so taken with this story, which a friend recently sent to me. In short, it’s about a mom who stripped down to her birthday suit to dance and sing a rap song about being perfect, just as they are, with her seven-year-old daughter, who complained of being “fat.”
That, as my grandpa would say, takes real gumption. And I admire that mom’s gusto and bravery in showing her daughter what a woman’s body looks like – not an airbrushed, digitally enhanced magazine interpretation of a woman’s body, but an honest-to-goodness woman made of un-flawless flesh and bone. I don’t think we can discount the value of that. Revealing ourselves, “flaws” and all, has a kind of impact that reaches beyond words.