Ever feel like you're in a time warp? That's exactly how I'm feeling right now. Last week, I received a copy of my soon-to-be-published book on how moms can raise daughters who feel good about their bodies. In it, I explore a bit of my own body image history, some of which involves my middle-school years. At the same time, I'm raising a daughter who's now the age I was when my body image issues began.
Still with me? Oh, good.
Now the time warp part...I recently joined Facebook and have spent the last couple of weeks re-connecting with quite a few of my middle-school classmates. Thinking about that time again - while watching my daughter experience her own middle-school days - has taken me right back.
I'll admit I winced when I was "tagged" in a Facebook photo recently (that's where someone posts a picture of you and attaches your name to it for all to see). It was one of me going to a school dance with two friends and to this day, I remember how uncomfortable I was with myself. I thought I was fat and gross and any of the other things middle-school girls often call themselves.
But here's the thing: When I clicked on the photo for a closer look, I didn't see any of those things. I saw a girl with a frame similar to the one I have today. Back then, I didn't know that what was happening to me was exactly what should be happening. My little girl shape was fading away to make room for the body of the woman I was becoming. I just didn't understand it: Why was I gaining weight? What was I doing wrong?