You would think that for doctors, who work with life and death issues every day, the issues of our own frailties or the tenuous line between health and sickness for our own families would be, if not accentuated, then at least more immediate than to those who, say, do investment banking for a living. But the strange thing is that despite our easy familiarity with human mortality, it is not the case at all that we are able to readily apply these scenarios to ourselves. We see patients who are sick or even dying on a daily basis--sometimes patients who very much remind us of ourselves, our spouses, our parents, our kids. But it's just a constant stream of other people. And seeing so frequently that it happens to other people, more than anything, starts to make you feel unconsciously like it's always other people, that it could never happen to you, or to those we love most.

Two years ago, when my husband was hospitalized after an acute bout of viral myocarditis (from which he has since totally recovered), the experience was not so much of concern or apprehension--though, of course, there was plenty of that too--but more than anything a feeling of disorientation. We were in an ICU. It was morning. Morning work rounds were underway, and even through the closed door, I could hear the scrum moving from one bed to another, emitting a low hum of recited numbers and medications and therapies that, even just partially overheard, sounded wholly familiar. But I was inside the patient room now instead of outside like I usually would be, and Joe was lying in the bed beside my chair. The environment was familiar, but the context was completely strange. What was I doing here? Why wasn't I outside at the nursing station, checking labs, writing orders? Why was Joe wearing a nasal cannula? Why was he the patient? How could this be happening?