Women Who Stray

I think we've reached a point where we know people can't just stay sexually committed to one person. And because of this, people are starting to just live with the fact (whether they like it or not) that most of us can't be monogamous. We're becoming desensitized to a point where everything is being acceptable. Where it be in the home or on T.V.. I can click on a channel and you can hear the words bitch, asshole, and sometimes shit. And theses aren't cable channels like HBO or Showtime. We’re putting shows on reality shows on T.V. that have no right to be there. But people are watching it and we’re glorifying the way people act on these reality shows. This is the message we’re sending out kids. And if there are Aliens out there in the Universe, I wonder why they haven’t stopped by to say hi. Maybe we’re just not worth it.

I disagree with Alex's comment. We can stay sexually committed if it's important to us. The great point in the post is that it's about keeping our word. Infidelity in a marriage does not have to be the end of the relationship. The act is hurtful, but it is the underlying betrayal to the promise that causes the most damage. Couples can rebuild that trust but it takes a lot of work and painful examination that many couples aren't prepared for. Those who are committed to the relationship are the ones that can, and do, survive it.

I think that the real issue here is trust and communication. Sex is secondary. My relationship with my wife is built on a foundation of love and friendship. We are committed to creating the best experiences possible for each other. That foundation has been built over many years and has weathered many storms. Sex is simply the way that we express that love for each other. One thing that our society seems to not understand is the extremely high capacity that women have for sexual pleasure. In our relationship we regularly invite other males into our sexual experiences, not as a replacement but as an enhancement. Her pleasure is greatly multiplied because of the increased possibilities for stimulation and a prolonging of the sex act itself. If the goal of sex is to create maximum pleasure for each partner then to us this is an ideal experience. It is only a part of our sexual practice but it is a vital and very pleasurable part. We have a very high communication level and absolutely no jealousy so this works for us. But this may not be for everyone.

In the manuscript we sent in to our editor, our book ended with that quotation from Roy Romer. It just seemed to sum it all up so well. I see you get the same feeling from it. It's like, "What more is there to say on this issue?"

I really enjoy your blog. Thanks.