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The Perfect Dress

I have been accustomed to thinking that I earned weight loss and control of my addiction. These days I’m coming to think they are my due. Read More

Oh, Frances

I always love your words and your voice. Thank you for sharing each step of your journey - it helps me along mine.

It is so hard . . .

. . . but well worth the effort in the long run. Patience. Persistence. Patience. Persistence. Patience. Persistence


Thanks, Frances! You put into words why, whenever I buy a too-small bit of clothing for "inspiration", it very soon became discouraging. "I'll be worthy when I lose weight" is such an old, tired theme for me. These lip-smacking outfits manifest the message that some future, fantasy Faye gets to enjoy life, but current fat Faye gets to just "look, don't touch." Today I am going to live the life I deserve, not work toward that life!

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Frances Kuffel is the author of Passing for Thin: Losing Half My Weight and Finding My Self.


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