The 2012 Edelman Trust Barometer confirms what most of us already know. The majority of people currently distrusts government, financial institutions, and business leaders. In fact, CEOs had the biggest drop in their trust level in the barometer's history, with only thirty-eight percent finding these leaders credible.
So, who do we trust in this era of growing cynicism? According to Edelman's findings, "As government officials and CEOs become less a source of trusted information, people are once again turning to their peers."
As people seek trusted sources of information, not from their institutions or organizational leaders, but from their peers, they're moving away from institutional trust toward individual trust.
But it's hard to trust at an individual level if you don't trust yourself.
Lack of self-trust can be the precursor of distrusting others. In an increasingly complex world, our ability to judge real or not real, scam or opportunity, credible or not credible, trust or no trust, is a twenty-first century necessity. And it begins with self-trust.
Do you trust you?
Can you trust your motives, intentions, impulses, and judgment? Do you lie to yourself? Do you break promises you make to yourself? Can you count on you to deliver what you say you will? Are you in an authentic relationship with yourself? Do you trust your own judgment and the risks you take when giving trust?
Researchers have found that sharing physical traits with others creates a "perceived attitudinal similarity." We expect people who are like us (e.g. gender, race, hair color, etc.) to be like us. So, if you break your word, you think that others will, too. If you over-promise and under-deliver, that's what you'll expect from others. But if you're trustworthy, you tend to assume others are, too.
Yet, while we may see each other as alike, we're very different. That's why building trusting relationships at work requires self-trust.
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2. Self-trust is a skill that fuels accountability. Self-trust grows when there is alignment between what you say and what you do, often referred to as behavioral integrity. Behavioral integrity is how you demonstrate your trustworthiness to yourself and to others. How's yours? No alignment - no credibility. No credibility - no self-trust. No self-trust - no accountability. Self-trust is the basic tenet of accountability. When we hold ourselves accountable for our actions, decisions, choices, words, and behaviors we build self-trust. Building self-trust requires a mirror. It means there's an self-initiated, account-giving relationship between who you say you are and who you are.
As societal distrust grows for established institutions, politicians, and business leaders, "a person like me" is now one of the most credible sources we listen to. If one of those people "like me" is you, grounded in self-trust, you'll become an influencer for rebuilding the trust deficit that plagues our workplaces and our communities.
As this dispersion of trust building influence moves from institutions to individuals, we have a unique opportunity to make a profound difference by using trust as our personal workplace currency.
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