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King (or Queen) Baby

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This King Baby crap was

This King Baby crap was thrown on me when I was 14 years old. I am now 33 with a diagnosis of BPD with Bi-Polar traits.
I believe King Baby was the reason I went mis-diagnosed through out my teens which lead into more problems.
My mother does not believe in depression or any mental health issue. When this story was presented to her 19 years ago, she still runs with it to this day. Even through therapy, talking to my Psychiatrist and knowing the meds I am on, she insists this is all me being a spoiled brat, I am just wasting my money on drugs and shrinks.
I wish they would pull this crap or properly diagnose before putting this on a family unless you want to mess up someone else's head for 19 years.

King (Queen) Baby

I went to therapy for 20 years to learn how to deal with my family. I know that no one can drive you to drink/smoke/drugs faster than family.

If talking about things help, continue. I discovered after $$$ spent, and a myriad of psychiatrists, psychologists, and Social Workers that you need to find it in your soul and it is in you to discover the answers that you seek.

Take care

~B

King (Queen) Baby

I went to therapy for 20 years to learn how to deal with my family. I know that no one can drive you to drink/smoke/drugs faster than family.

If talking about things help, continue. I discovered after $$$ spent, and a myriad of psychiatrists, psychologists, and Social Workers that you need to find it in your soul and it is in you to discover the answers that you seek.

Take care

~B

King Baby Crap

Dear Anonymous,

It is most unfortunate that you have been unsupported in your need to get specific help for a specific diagnosis. And I am glad that you are taking advantage of meds and therapy.

That said, there are some people out there who don't have your diagnosis, who may not, in fact, demonstrate symptoms of any diagnosis, but who have identified with a King Baby, or Peter Pan identity. And recognizing the role they play could be helpful to them.

Like any other blog or article you read, I would suggest that if it doesn't apply to you, you might acknowledge that fact, giving yourself credit for your acute discernment and toss the article, while considering the possibility that it might apply to others.

Best to you in all your efforts,
Andrea

I AGREE WITH ANONYMOUS, WHILE

I AGREE WITH ANONYMOUS, WHILE I HAVE EXHIBITED MORE THAN A FEW 'KING BABY TRAITS ' THROUGHOUT MY LIFE, I WAS DIAGNOSED WITH A FEW THINGS THAT CAN BETTER EXPLAIN 'EVERYTHING' THAT I HAVE GONE THROUGH. IGUESS WHAT I'M SAYING IS THAT MOST PEOPLE & THEIR PSYCHOLOGICAL PROBLEMS CANNOT BE QUANTIFIED BY ONE SINGLE DIAGNOSTIC THEORY,WE TRULY ARE 'GREATER THAN THE SUM OF OUR PARTS'....I'M QUITE SURE 'KING BABY' IS JUST 'ONE' OF THE ISSUES I'VE SUFFERED FROM, BUT IT'S NOT THE BE ALL & END ALL OF MY PERSONAL DIAGNOSIS. I'VE KNOWN A FEW 'HERO', 'MASCOT' TYPE ALCOHOLICS AS WELL.

king baby

I am in early recovery after a couple of decades in active addiction to opiate based drugs . "King baby" was recommended for futher reasearch . The introdution I read on the previous , page in parts perfectly describes some of my behaviours . I personally don't think I have any major mental health issues which need treatment with drugs ect. but I do think I will benefit by exploring the "king baby" within , which is obvious to me , a big part of my personality defects . I look forward to further reading and reasearch of this topic.

Okay, watch for more soon.

Okay, watch for more soon.

King Baby

I have a King Baby in my life right now, and have for years. Please send me new blog entries, by email, so I can learn more.
Thank you very much. This has been most helpful.
Kelti...

King Baby

Dear Anonymous,

Read "Peter Pan Grows UP" which was published the month after the King Baby blog. It gives some information about how to develop more authenticity when King Baby is the identity.

Best to you,
Andrea

King Baby

please email me new blog posts so I can learn more about the
King Baby in my life...

Marriage to a King Baby

I married a "man" who was 15 years younger than I was. He was fun, charming, witty, and full of life when I met him. It turns out that he was a true King Baby and looking for a mommy, not a wife. Our life together was 11 years of increasing frustration for me, and ended in divorce last summer. His refusal to (1) grow up, (2) function as an adult, (3) behave like a husband (rather than a teenage son), and (4) support me in any way just wore me down physically, mentally and emotionally. I'm sure, as I write this, that he's off is search of a new mommy. BEWARE women!!!

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Andrea Mathews, L.P.C., is a Cognitive and Transpersonal Therapist, internet radio show host, and author of Restoring My Soul: A Workbook for Finding and Living the Authentic Self. more...

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