Transitions Through Life

Surviving every stage of life.

by Nancy K. Schlossberg, Ed.D

Feel Like a Failure? Maybe It's Just That You’re “Off-Time”

By Nancy K. Schlossberg, Ed.D. on July 21, 2011 in Transitions Through Life

College graduates are moving home, the place they would least like to be. The reason: It's the economy, stupid! Dylan Suher, a recent college graduate defines his moving home as a failure. "The feeling that the natural order of life--that you become an adult and then you leave home--has been disrupted." Read More

To those who are off time

Submitted by Anonymous on July 21, 2011 - 5:13pm.

I was the loser who had to go back to University because she could not find a job with her first degree. I had no parents to go back to, so I was the loser who still had 2 roommates at 35.

Now, with the help of the old roomies, I am the 38 years old who just finished paying mortgage on her rental property.

Failure builds character... you just don't know it until you get out of there!

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off-time

Submitted by Nancy K. Schlossberg, Ed.D. on July 24, 2011 - 5:08am.

Thanks for sharing your experience. It is difficult to be off-time but as you have shown, There can be positive outcomes.

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Your thoughts apply...

Submitted by kjs on July 26, 2011 - 1:39pm.

I can't believe how much your thoughts apply to my step-son's life. I was just feeling frustrated at his not-leaving-the-nest. He is contending with the bad economy, happy love life, sort of goalless future. Not a bad guy, but when will he ever leave... ha ha. Well, it helps to focus on the not a bad guy part, and less on the "he is supposed to go at 18" part. Thanks for your post, Nancy!

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your comment

Submitted by Nancy K. Schlossberg, Ed.D. on July 27, 2011 - 7:27pm.

Thanks for commenting on the blog. It is hard to live in an off-time situation. Just have hope that things will resolve for your step-son and some day he will be on-time!

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Leaving the nest - off-time

Submitted by kjs on July 26, 2011 - 1:42pm.

Your post very much applies to my step son. He is contenting with the economy/his low salary, a happy love life, but few and undefined life goals. He is not a bad guy, but I've been thinking - oh my gosh, when will he ever leave the nest. I it is helpful to focus more on the "not a bad guy" part, and less on the "supposed to go at 18" part. Thanks Nancy!