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Love Heals, But Hate, Not so Much

Hit ‘em with a prayer not a chair

There is a story in my family that goes like this:  When my grandfather and his brother were young adults they found out about a new way of looking at life that they thought was truly wonderful. Naturally they told their mother, who was a widow, about it and took her to a lecture so that she could find out about it too.  When the lecture was over they turned to her and said, “Well mama, what do you think?”  She replied “it’s fine for you boys but it’s not for me.”  “But why not Mama?” they cried.  They recounted to her all the comforting things the lecturer had said about God being Love.

Goldine (that was her name) shook her head and held her ground.  “That may be true,” she explained, “but that’s the problem.”

“What’s the problem?” they asked, incredulous.

She explained. ”The problem is I can't go along with anything that doesn't let me enjoy a good hate.”

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Enjoy a good hate? Harsh words but that's how she felt.  And although both her sons embraced this new loving way of living, she never did. At least great grandma was honest! 

But, sorry Goldine, there really isn’t a lot to enjoy when we hate.  Hate is corrosive to our bodies, our minds, our lives. That’s why I like this post (below) by Keith Wommack. It's from his blog "Healing Now" that runs in the Houston Chronicle aka Chron.com. Read on and see if you agree.

"Everyone seems to have a chip on his or her shoulder. From the Occupy Wall Street protesters to the Obama-haters, aggression is in the air. Hate appears to be the flavor of the day.

This hate is causing an accelerated polarization of society. But it is causing something more. Are we hearing the warnings that hostile hearts can jeopardize health? Besides straining relationships, hate is a mental poison that causes bodily harm.

Deborah Smith, staff writer for Monitor on Psychology (a publication for the American Psychological Association), in her post Angry thoughts, at-risk hearts, writes “Research findings indicate a clear pattern — being an angry or hostile person is bad for your heart.” She goes on to cite several studies that prove the point.

It’s my experience as a Christian healer that hateful thoughts can be harmful not only to the heart but to every part of the body. Therefore, if hate is a poison, what is the antidote?

The antidote would need to be a remedy that reaches thought and radically transforms it. Could the antidote be prayer? Can certain forms of prayer steer and mold thought which in turn heals the body?

I recently heard an example of this type of transformation. Pat shared with me how she and her son were helped. She said, “At the time, I was a Registered Nurse and a new mother. Unfortunately, my newborn son was paralyzed on his right side. He also had a large tumor on his neck. Doctors told me he would not live very long. In order to care for him while he was still with us, I brought him home.”

“During my pregnancy I had hated a family member who had spread lies about me regarding drug allegations. The accusations could have had immediate consequences on my nursing career. Every time this woman would call, if I answered, I would quickly pass the phone to someone else. I couldn’t stand talking with this woman. I couldn’t forgive her.”

“Then my in-laws asked me if I would like them to pray for me. Not knowing what that really meant because they were Christian Scientists, but wanting to be polite, I accepted their offer. The next morning, I answered another call from the woman I couldn’t stop hating.”

“This time, however, rather than passing the phone off to someone else, I was led to talk with her. The other woman was a new mother too. Not only had I hated her, I had also been jealous because the woman had given birth to a girl. During my pregnancy, I had yearned for a girl, not a boy, so I was genuinely surprised to be asking about this woman’s baby.”

“After hanging up from the shockingly pleasant phone conversation, I started walking toward my baby’s room. As I walked, the thought came, ‘Go ahead, try. Try and hate her.’ I tried, but suddenly I couldn’t. The hate was gone. Then I opened the door and looked at my baby. He was wiggling all his arms and legs. The paralysis was gone. I looked at his neck. The tumor was gone, as well. My son was healthy.”

Would hate continue to increase if it was understood that hostile hearts carry health risks? Would society continue its destructive polarized path if prayer was found to be an effective remedy for the mental poison that causes so much harm?

Is hate a natural quality of thought? I believe not. I am also convinced that we can normally reject it because our true nature is spiritual. Therefore, if we wish to administer an antidote for hate, perhaps we can do so with a prayer strengthened by a double–dose of tenderness. How significant it would be if we could improve our own health by loving more and had the opportunity to help others, as well.

Whether it is one political party versus another, one faith group versus another, or one ethnic group versus another, tempers are reaching the boiling point faster than ever. Some believe that polarization supports a conviction of beliefs. They consider this a good thing.

I admit that strong convictions are needed to weather storms.Yet, it is harmful for a conviction to be based on arrogance or bigotry.This type of unyielding stance allows hate to inflict damage.

Hate is a danger to us all. What is its antidote? Possibly, tenderness and compassion expressed in our lives is the most effective remedy. Brotherly love should be our flavor of the day."

 

(Copyright Keith Wommack)

- Keith Wommack is a Syndicated Health Blogger, Christian Science practitioner and teacher, husband, and step-dad.

Madora Kibbe is a Christian Science practitioner and writer who lives in New York.

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