If honesty is so important, though, why is it unwelcome regarding a friend's relationship? Why is it okay for me to mock a girlfriend's "man laugh," but not okay for me to casually inform her that her boyfriend is a creep who, in all likelihood anyway, enjoys kicking puppies? If I think a friend's girlfriend is too controlling, why do I have to keep this observation to myself? As an invested, concerned friend, I often find myself in this situation, faced with only two options: tell the friend the truth, or tell him what he wants to hear.

Many a women's lifestyle magazine has stressed the importance of approaching the situation with care, informing the friend with poor taste in romantic partners that the knowledge we are about to drop is coming from a place of love. However, no matter how I try to phrase my concerns, I suddenly become a jealous, malicious shrew whose sole purpose is to break up a blissfully happy couple. Instead of really considering the legitimacy of a friend's concerns, these boyfriends and girlfriends spend their time defending their relationship to all the haters who are obviously just trying to stir up drama. In fact, it seems as though these dysfunctional relationships feed off of outsiders' pessimism. These friends whom we try to warn about their partner's poor qualities seem only more determined than ever to prove that their relationship will work, and that they do have good judgment, and that it was not a mistake.

I have learned that, when dealing with a friend's romantic affairs, it is best to keep one's mouth shut. Be a supportive sounding board and confidante, but keep the more elicit thoughts to yourself.