I like my best friend's ex-boyfriend. He is also my best friend. He told he liked me yesterday and I have liked him for a while. My best friend broke up with him 5 months ago. I heard that she still might care about him but she's the one who broke up with him. And today she stopped talking to me, but she doesn't know that I like her ex or that he likes me.
Please help me!
I can't lose my best friend! I really need your help!
A Helpless Girl
Dear Helpless Girl,
I am so happy that you wrote to me and my goal is to make you feel less helpless. You really do have quite a dilemma here. There is no doubt about that but you do have choices. I do want to tell you though that your best girlfriend probably does know that you and her ex like each other and that is probably the reason that she has stopped talking to you.
Here is the dilemma as I see it. You don't want to lose your best girlfriend but if you follow your heart and start dating her ex-boyfriend you may lose the friendship. On the other hand you may not. This scenario definitely calls for you and your best female friend to have a heart to heart talk because that is what friends must do if they want to sustain their friendship. You cannot and should not make any assumptions about what will transpire between you and your friend if you tell her about your true feelings toward her ex. It is the assumptions that people make coupled with a lack of communication that destroys friendships.