I really want to do the right thing here so I hope you can give me a quick response. I have been divorced from my ex-husband for four years. We have one child together who is a 14 year old female teenager. When I first got divorced I swore that I was never going to date again. I had a really rough divorce. After about a year I started dating again but never seriously.
Well, things have certainly changed. I met the most wonderful man about nine months ago. He is the brother of my friend's husband who recently moved to the Northeast. We have fallen in love and are even talking about a future together. Here is my dilemma. My boyfriend lives two hours away and when he comes to see me on the weekend I would like to let him sleep over at my house.
I don't want, though to do anything that would hurt my daughter. Of course, I would want him to sleep in my bed because it would just seem too silly for him to sleep on the couch like my husband did at the end of the marriage.
Please help me sort this out Dr. G. I know how honest you always are.
A Confused Mother
I am so very happy for you that you survived a tough divorce and that you have now found love. Good for you. Congratulations! And, your daughter will benefit significantly from seeing you happy and in a relationship that is contributing to your happiness.